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  God helped me get through it...

  by LtCmd.Lore in

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  or: "i couldn't have got through it without god's spirit.".

  i hear it constantly, but i have no idea exactly what it's supposed to mean.

  so if one of your relatives dies, and you pray for help: unless you die, or have a nervous breakdown you got through it, correct?

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  helncon

  Whenever when we are faced with a crisis many turn to religion and pray and say God help us.

  How or why did he let it happen in the first place.

  I think its a person of conveince. IMO.

  Helen
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  Have You Divorced And/Or Remarried- What Did You Learn From It ?

  by flipper in

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  in seeing a lot of posters threads , i feel i see many people who have been divorced at one time , and either have remarried or have stayed single .

  i totally understand those who choose to stay single, as i was single for 6 years before i got married again !

  as experts say, next to death it's one of the hardest experiences you'll go through !

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  thanks mr flipper,

  You know its weird sometimes when you explain to people on our situation.

  I know of other go there would be no way i'd be going back to the ex...

  But i guess in the long run it was just meant to be.

  Helen
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  We Should Give Newbies the Benefit of the Doubt

  by flipper in

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  considering what has gone on at this board the last couple months, i thought this would be good to discuss !

  it's true that some here are somewhat jaded and untrusting of others because of the deception pulled by " trevor" and the whole " trevorgate " thing.

  that being said and acknowledged however , think about what makes us not trust others as ex-witnesses.

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  Hi Mr Flpipper,

  I don't think we should be wary of newbie, as we all were once newbies at one point in time.

  We all have our own story to tell if its in our very first post, multiply posts or even never tell the whole story but just ones that may help others.

  Yes we sould be on the lookout for those who abuse jwd and not follow the rules.

  For the trevorgate thing here was a man who was on this board for over 2 years who created these characters for what purpose who knows and i think well will never know.

  What i find more annoying that someone makes a first time post then never returns. There maybe reasons for this and they just may want to read the replies and feel that they have their answer.

  I guess everyone is here for their own different reasons.

  Helen
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  Christmas Card exchange?

  by bem in

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  has someone started a christmas card exchange list yet for this year?

  we did this in the past and it was such fun to get all the great cards.. .

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  helncon

  I have sent about 10 already so some of your should be getting cards soon.

  Wasn't sure on how long it would take to sent the cards to you all over in the U.S.

  I ran out and had to wait till i went to the shops to get more!!!!!

  Will be sending more today.If anyone collects stamps and would like more than one stamp on the evelope pm me.

  Helen
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  Have You Divorced And/Or Remarried- What Did You Learn From It ?

  by flipper in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  in seeing a lot of posters threads , i feel i see many people who have been divorced at one time , and either have remarried or have stayed single .

  i totally understand those who choose to stay single, as i was single for 6 years before i got married again !

  as experts say, next to death it's one of the hardest experiences you'll go through !

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  helncon

  My situation is a little unusual but i have known other who have been through the same.
  I married my non-jw b/f at the age of 18 1/2 he was 19 1/2 so we were young.

  He wasn't the first b/f i had but my first 'partner' all was good for a few years we had our daughter the basically one day i came home and said i no longer love you any more and we split up, 6 months later i started living with another guy for about 3 years.We divorce 12 months later.

  That ended then i ahd a few casual relationships then i met another guy who we were together for about 10 months.

  My ex hubby was living with someone for a few years as well.

  Come mid 2002 we started talking again and both had different outlook in life and we decided that he was going to move in downstairs to help look after our daughter while i was at work and i guess things snowballed from there.

  We now have been back together since jan 2003 and have 2 children together.

  Life is good and we get on so well.

  I guess we needed the break to get ourselves sorted.

  Helen
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  Tell Us About Your JW Father If You Had One.

  by new boy in

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  we are great friends now....but he wasn't much of a father growing up.. worked all the time...we went on few vacations....pretty much pussy whipped my my nazis jw mother.. he never did believe in the whole jw thing.

  he just when along with it, for my mothers sake.. she never did respect him for not being a "spiritual head" and pretty much let us kids know about it.. i, like my mother became very self rightious and judgmental.. i wished now he had just came to me just once and said "keith maybe the jws are not the people you think they are.

  " but he was to afraid of my mother to say that...even though he knew it to be true.i would have never believed him....back then....but it would have planted a seed.... .

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  I have spoken many times here about my dad, so i guess he is a pivitol person in my life.

  My dad married my mum in 1974 and i know for a fact that he had asked many sisters to marry him but had turned him down ( unsure of the reasons) anyway when he met my mum that was it they were married 6 months later. Honestly i think my mum didn't know who she was marrying.

  They only got divorce jan 07

  He is now remarried in April 07

  I know my dad has taken the headship role too seriously by the the way of planning EVERYTHING i mean everything my mum never had a say in what would happen, i guess in a way it was good for her in the begginging but later in years i think it took a toll on her.

  My dad is a work-a-holic ad i guess thats where i get it from too.

  He always held the jw's up high they were the most important thing

  He was a fantastic provider but just couldn't provide the emotional support for my mum.

  He always helped out more than anyone in the kh but then would get $hitted on from them as well.

  I had a close relationship with him. Now its cold and made harder by geography.

  Loves my daughter to death.

  My son he hasn't had much to do with.

  Helen
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  Christmas Card exchange?

  by bem in

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  has someone started a christmas card exchange list yet for this year?

  we did this in the past and it was such fun to get all the great cards.. .

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  helncon

  BTT

  Thanks BEM,

  I was doing house work when i was trtying to think of who started the thread then remembered...lol...
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  Secret Santa 2007 (forum gift exchange !!)

  by Angharad in

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  well christimas will soon be here !!.

  for those that are new we have done this for the last few years, what it involves is that those who want to join in will post to this thread and then pm me their name and address.

  i will then collate the names and addresses and assign everyone a person to buy a gift for.

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  Do Ladies Prefer Gentlemen?

  by compound complex in

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  dear lady friends,.

  i'm massively naif when it comes to the ways of the world.

  and 40 years a wta has not given me a great sense of what's real: crazy rules and regs on "appropriate behavior.".

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  helncon

  Hi CoCo,

  For me i think its a nice thing when men hold the door open for women.

  Its great when they do the 'men' things.

  But i think society has now got us all on equal levels now and those things are far gone. Even on dates most will split the bill or take it in turns to pay.

  You will get the occasional man who will do these things but not very ofter and these are men who are in their late forties on ward.

  Though i know some guys do it to impress their new girlfriends as i think it is an inbuilt comodity for women that men should do this.

  Helen
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  Christmas Card exchange?

  by bem in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  has someone started a christmas card exchange list yet for this year?

  we did this in the past and it was such fun to get all the great cards.. .

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  helncon

  btt

  BTW

  What is happening with the secret santa

  Tried to find the thread with no avail????

  I will need to know soon

  Helen