In seeing a lot of posters threads , I feel I see many people who have been divorced at one time , and either have remarried or have stayed single . I totally understand those who choose to stay single, as I was single for 6 years before I got married again ! As experts say, next to death it's one of the hardest experiences you'll go through ! I was very fortunate that I landed on my feet eventually and found a good woman , and remarried !
But after my divorce I learned a lot of things about life that I never would have, not going through the experience. Not that I'd wish it on anybody, it's pure hell , however the picture becomes crystal clear in time in many areas of life after a divorce. For one thing, when you are going through it , and shortly thereafter , you immediately see who your real friends are ! Some try to be cordial, but remain distant, not knowing what to say , others tend to take sides, even though most people don't know really what goes on inside the 4 walls of a man and woman's personal life and emotional relationship ! But they act like they do ! That's the irony of it ! So I learned to develop thick emotional skin so to speak , especially in dealing with witnesses view of me after I stopped going and attending meetings. I realized that I knew what I had been through, and that was all that mattered ! I also learned that if I was ever to get into a relationship again, there would be certain personality traits in a woman that I would be looking for next time that weren't there in previous partners ! So , in essence you learn more about yourself and what you want, and the flip side, what you don't want in a companion ! So, it was a valuable learning experience !
So, what about you folks. You don't have to get too personal if you don't feel comfortable , but I felt it would give us each the opportunity to vent , or release feelings and learning experiences that may benefit others who are going through this or have gone through this ! So I welcome all your comments ! Single, married, in a relationship or not, feel free to express yourself as much as you feel comfortable opening up about ! What have you learned , and how did it help you ? Look forward to hearing from you. Peace out my friends ! Mr. Flipper