Posts by free2think

I'm sorry you're feeling so bad. My mum too blames herself for staying in so long and bringing us up as dubs. But they are the ones to blame not us. I think your daughter is really blessed to have you in her life. She has a great rational thinking person to relie on and turn to for impartial adice, love and comfort when she really needs it.

hugs

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Have got myself in a bit of trouble

by Zico in

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not a big amount of trouble, only a little bit of trouble.

it's not like i'm going to be disfellowshipped or anything.

but would appreciate some information anyway!

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All this hassel and you were just trying to do a good deed. I agree with Warlock, let them walk next time.

It just shows you how petty some people are, surely he has more inportant things to worry about then a brother saving his young daughter having to walk home. It's not even as if she was the same age as you. Small people with small minds is what I say.

I hope he doesn't take this any further, it will be interesting to see what happens next though.

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JamesThomas.....is it your birthday?

by purplesofa in

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..........happy birthday......... .

purps.

your profile says its your birthday today..........it might have been yesterday........can't ever tell on some dates.

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY JT

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Do you feel as if you have to justify why you aren't JW anymore?

by JH in

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are we playing there game, by having to justify ourselves, why we don't go to meetings anymore, or why we left the org?.

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I've tried to justify why I'm fading. But they just look at me like 'that's a crap reason.' Afterwards I thought to myself, it's none of their business what my reasons are or even if they're valid reasons, obviously I can't say my real reasons i.e it's not the troof. When I was trying to explain they just looked so blank and I realized they really didn't understand and that they would never get it until they were out themselves. And these are my family members.

So now I just say I'm in too much pain, which is true when I',m at the meeting. That usually shuts them up.

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For anyone struggling to free themselves or loved ones from the Watchtower.

by nicolaou in

i just wanted to share an encouraging thought with anyone who is struggling to fade away from the watchtower.

six years ago, when i first started posting here, i was a ministerial servant with doubts.

my wife was an active sister and my 11 and 12 year old sons were enrolled in the theocratic ministry school and going out in field service every week along with their 7 year old sister.. there has been a lot of stress and tears along the way, my wife and i often wondered what our future would bring, but i can honestly say that we have made it.

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Thank you for your encouraging experience Nicolaou. I am beginning to see that my fading is going to be a very long process. I went to a meeting the other day and the guilt that I felt over leaving hit me again and of course my headaches got really bad again (i wonder if there's a connection). I know it's all part of the leaving process after being in something for so long, but it's so good to have positive experiences like your's to keep me going, that one one day I'll be happy and free too.

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Living Alone - Love it or Loathe it?

by Crumpet in

well i have been living alone now for a week for the first time in about 6 years and apart from one or two minor episodes i am really really enjoying the freedom of it.

i feel like a weight has been lifted.

i feel free again - a tiny bit lonely at night - but mostly i think i've recaptured that long lost spring in my step.

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I moved out from living with my parents into my own place a little while ago, and I LOVE IT! I have a nice little one bedroom flat all to myself, which is quite a luxury for someone my age where I live, my friends are very envious.

Now I have my own place I can't imagine having to share with someone else, it would be sooooo hard I think. It's also made my fading much easier.

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Starting my story...very long

by Synergy in

[the watchtower, july 15, 1961 issue, page 420: .

[the watchtower, july 1, 1963 issue, page 413: .

[the watchtower, july 15, 1974 issue, page 442: .

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((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Synergy)))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I didn’t know who I was so I couldn’t have any inner peace to be able to present myself in any relationship to anyone else. Not friends, relatives, children or husband. No one got the true me because I didn’t know who the true me was.

Although I haven't had the same experiences as you, I can totally relate to what you're saying here. I too was brought up in the org. My dad spent most of my childhood reaching out for more privileges. He was even told when I was little, that the reason he didn't get appointed was because my mum wasn't seen to be hitting us children enough.

How on earth can they expect children to sit still and not make a sound for a whole two hours, let alone for babies not to cry.

Thank you for sharing your story.

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Hi im new

by NikolaW in

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hi my name is nikola and i just would like to find out more about the faith really.

my history is that i am brought up in the christian faith by my grandparents in the united reformed church.

then stopped going when i was 10 years old.

free2think

Welcome to the board Nikola.

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