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  Not allowed to sleep over - is that weird?

  by collegegirl21 in

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  okay, so my guy and i have been together for 10 months and we usually are ok together.

  but there is something that has been getting to me and i think its unusual, but please correct me if i'm wrong - he won't let me sleep over at his house.

  and he hardly ever stays at my house, he's maybe stayed here 3 times in our whole relationship.

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  RAF

  RF : every person absolutely MUST do is to learn to be happy with themselves, alone. That will make it even better for relationships.

  it's all about that I guess that you have no idea how good it is to stand on your own feet (what if he dissapears?) ... you need to explore the feeling of freedom and at least confidence ...

  Also, nothing worse (in a relationship) than someone who always complain and feel insecure (it's like saying I need more every second - it's more than tiring - you think about it even before every time you meet the one who feels insecure - it's just an awfull feeling that you have a job and can't really enjoy the relationship - so in fact it becomes scary and not as valuable as it could be).

  To be honest what I feel is that neither you and him are ready for a healthy relationship ...

  You need to know why you are not confident in yourself to be able to put an end to a not healthy relationship? maybe you can see a shrink about that? (good investement - it's about all your life).

  but you know what? Everything is in the hability to shut down your fears ... but to do that you need to know what is the most important for you (and even if it sounds selfish - it is you - why? because you can't really love anyone if you don't love yourself enough). it's a question of balance.

  You don't have to be perfect, even the most ugly and limited girl can be loved by most people and find the best man ever, just because she is glowing and not scared because she does not fear to be herself.

  I wish you'll get that quick
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  NAME JUST ONE thing....ONE THING...revealed by God....

  by Terry in

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  2. beliefs

  somebody is always insisting they have an invisible and mysterious source of divine information and selling it like hotcakes and syrup.

  but, why are you still buying?

  when will you ever learn that this is a scam among many scams.

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  RAF

  Guess what I'm going to answer about that ...(your last post at 16:25)

  you are tiring Terry ... and he don't need to ... those who want to think for themself just do ... sometimes we feel to answer, make our point clear and sometimes we just don't.

  Also if you put all your time to try to validate your point of view, you have to understand that it is not what everybody wants or care to do (since most don't need to absolutely validate their points - maybe because they know that people do think for themself anyway) !

  Also remember that most people do not answer to most topics, they just read them (and get to whatever point they want from it) or not.
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  NAME JUST ONE thing....ONE THING...revealed by God....

  by Terry in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  somebody is always insisting they have an invisible and mysterious source of divine information and selling it like hotcakes and syrup.

  but, why are you still buying?

  when will you ever learn that this is a scam among many scams.

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  RAF

  Also don't get me wrong : using fallacies is either conscious or not ... but it doesn't change what it is ... and to know about if it is a fallacy or not you have to examine the question for real ...
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  NAME JUST ONE thing....ONE THING...revealed by God....

  by Terry in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  somebody is always insisting they have an invisible and mysterious source of divine information and selling it like hotcakes and syrup.

  but, why are you still buying?

  when will you ever learn that this is a scam among many scams.

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  RAF

  just assuming that all believers (from theist to gnostic to agnostic) have each in being just of one of them have the same views and reasons to believe can be called silly ... (the question is what have we explored by now before to state anything when we can't take this into consideration?).

  We are all differents, and will all have differents experiences even when it is to come to the same conclusion ... it's not paradoxal, it's just logical because of our differences ... So whatever someone tell us people or God (means to me = Everything) I don't think that it have to be the same thing.

  about arguments : Every fallacy, or proof needs to contain valid argurments - now how do you make the difference in between the two if you only jump like - ho this is what I think - or this looks so logic without really taking a deep look at it.

  The other day John Doe took the time - because you need time, a sharp brain and the envy to get into showing the fallacy of an argument - because fallacy (some kind of sophism) is about being logic without total logic it only get those who don't want to think about think ... does that remind you somehting? ...

  That doesn't mean that JD was more right than T (you right to believe whatever you want it your responsability) but JD had nothing to try to incultate to anyone ... and he did the job that we should do before to just agree without getting the point about the validity of an argument contextually and globally ...
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  I JUST FOUND OUT.......!!!!!!

  by Es in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  that im having another baby!!!!!.

  just done the test and the line came up straight away....... we were planning on falling pregnant in about three months and happend to fall pregnant straight away...im still in shock but had to share it with you all my family.

  luv ya.

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  RAF

  OoooOoooOooo !!! congrats, congrats, congrats !!!
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  NAME JUST ONE thing....ONE THING...revealed by God....

  by Terry in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  somebody is always insisting they have an invisible and mysterious source of divine information and selling it like hotcakes and syrup.

  but, why are you still buying?

  when will you ever learn that this is a scam among many scams.

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  RAF

  Check them
  both Garybuss posts

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/12/140044/1.ashx
  and read Educ8self (about the third focus - regarding to this forum discussion)
  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/12/140032/1.ashx

  and forget about blaming happydad it looks like double standard ...
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  DIALOGUE VS DEBATE

  by garybuss in

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  debate: .

  debate: .

  debate: .

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  RAF

  Clear ...
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  Not allowed to sleep over - is that weird?

  by collegegirl21 in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  okay, so my guy and i have been together for 10 months and we usually are ok together.

  but there is something that has been getting to me and i think its unusual, but please correct me if i'm wrong - he won't let me sleep over at his house.

  and he hardly ever stays at my house, he's maybe stayed here 3 times in our whole relationship.

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  RAF

  you know better than us about the details anyway - maybe we do not have the right picture ... (you're not telling about his age btw is he something like 6 or more older than you - take care because this is maybe why he is with a young girl to be able to keep the entire control - guess what's next !!!!) so of course you can try the ultimatum stuff ... most for yourself, but remember this if you chose to cope with even if you can't get what you need:

  Young or not, you'll have to take responsability even for being screwed - you will have make this choice - and that's what most girls don't understand - at some point if you feel too bad about something but still trying hard to cope with it (I mean you don't have any kid with this guy, you are not married either - he is not a dangerous guy who told you that if you leave him he will kill you something alike) so you will be responsible of your own pain.

  Don't want to sound harsh ... I Just want you to know that it's harder to understand (that we can be our own killer, it doesn't help the other one to become better, and it won't help you to feel good about yourself you may at the end only feel like a loser. I mean your hapiness most depends on you ...

  Take care ... I wishe you to take the right decision (regarding to what you know exactly).
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  NAME JUST ONE thing....ONE THING...revealed by God....

  by Terry in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  somebody is always insisting they have an invisible and mysterious source of divine information and selling it like hotcakes and syrup.

  but, why are you still buying?

  when will you ever learn that this is a scam among many scams.

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  RAF

  JT: Of course to discover such would require a looking past the confines of all mental knowledge, concepts, abstracts and gods.

  as a (first of ...)

  Second of: So before to answer this question it's interesting to know before how everyone defines God ... (then you can approache their answers). I can read that a lot of you are stucked into believing that every believers believes in the kind of God defined by the WTBS (so what did you explore by now?).
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  Do you really know what you know,

  by John Doe in

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  really?

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  RAF

  wozadummy : your nickname craked me up (no wonder that you are NOT* taking yourself too seriously)
  Changeling : If I ever met him I don't know if I'd kiss him or slap him. lol
  blueblades : I just finished reading.."EINSTEIN..His Life and Universe." 675 pages..I know nothing!

  ... ... thanks for the laugh

  (*) editted to add (it wouldn't have mean the same at all)