Posts by RAF

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Men vs. Food: Must we choose between them???

by Kudra in

jw
friends

it's like, i have to have food as it's like, a physiological need and it's proven by science n stuff... .

but then i feel i want men too, but like, sometimes, i don't eat before a date... .

can these two arenas of my life coexist??

When "friends" let you down...

by Crumpet in

jw
friends

have you ever been in a position where you really needed your friends - ie a relationship break down, or some other event and expected your friends to rally and support you.

only to find that those friends are nowhere to be seen or heard and when you tentatively enquire how they are in the hope for some kind response you get - "oh well you'll get over it.

" or words to that effect and by email.. i have as you can guess a reason and recent experience of my own that i'll share later, but i wondered how do you handle that?

RAF

(((Crumpet)))
don't take everything I'm saying personnally ... (you are the one who knows what concerne you)
Juste for you to acknowlegde fully why THIS answer :

... Those were your questions asked as a topic to discuss :
I wondered how do you handle that? Do you stop being "friends"? Do you hunt em down to find out why? Were you very disappointed at being let down? How much should you in fact expect from your friends?
Even through your second post on this thread you don't ask for hugs (but now it's seems that, that was what you were especting the most)
So it seems she learnt nothing and is just as bad as her own fairweather friends. I feel a bit tee-ed off to not get any support at all from her. I have to say the rest of my friends have done what they can to be good to me and I'm really grateful for that. And of course you guys have all be spectacularly awesome and help me cope with the day to day by stimulating my mind, giving me ideas, taking me out of myself so I can think and comment on yoru problems, and making me laugh.
What I did is giving "my" whole conception about the issue (what I feel about it - like I would have done for my son or anyone who would have asked me those questions = give him/her "MY" view on the matter) ...
Of course I understand that it's just human to espect a minimum of concern from anyone you've been close to ... Take into consideration when I'm talking that it's all easy to say (like "giving is giving and not especting anything in return") but not always just that easy to stuff it for real (OF COURSE), it all depends of our personal level of sensibility and situation (contextually) and that's also something not easy to get (from oustide as a poster)

Take care ...

43

This should be fun....

by BlackPearl in

jw
friends

it seems most of us are of the 'a little older' crowd, so i'v got something fun for us to do.

go to this website: http://www.klipradio.com/living/playing.php and request your favorite songs and be sure to leave your name and a message next to your request.

it's live internet radio, and you can request 70's and 80's songs live!

RAF

Not yet, I'm just enjoying your selections (Sorry I'm lazy at the moment) I more want to hear what people select ...
Goodnight ...

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This should be fun....

by BlackPearl in

jw
friends

it seems most of us are of the 'a little older' crowd, so i'v got something fun for us to do.

go to this website: http://www.klipradio.com/living/playing.php and request your favorite songs and be sure to leave your name and a message next to your request.

it's live internet radio, and you can request 70's and 80's songs live!

Crossword Clue

by stillajwexelder in

the answer has 7 letters and the clue is 'is love to frantic poet, a closely allied form?

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Crossword Clue

by stillajwexelder in

the answer has 7 letters and the clue is 'is love to frantic poet, a closely allied form?

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Taking a break.......

by fullofdoubtnow in

jw
friends

.....not a very long one though.

next weekend is a bit special for trev and i, and we are going off on holiday on sunday (25th) to spend 8 days relaxing on the meditterranean island of sardinia.

we will be staying in villasimius, and there's a bit of info on that and the rest of the island on the link below.. http://www.discover-sardinia.com/regions/villasimius.htm.

Ladies....what would YOU do?

by onlycurious in

jw
friends

if your husband said to you,.

"why don't you kick in your iq and use your brain?!!?

during an argument finances....one of the worst topics.. .

RAF

"Why don't you kick in your IQ and use your brain?!!?"

I don't know If I understoodbut if and only if "kick in" means also USE (too as a nuance) somehow
My answer would be = why don't YOU kick in your BRAIN to use your IQ because you need the former to use the later ... but I'm not sure you're understand that ... Allo is there something in there? Mayday Mayday ... Mayday Mayday ... Mayday Mayday ... and each time he would talk to me Mayday Mayday ... Mayday Mayday ... Mayday Mayday ... at least 3 times before to ask Are you ready? ... are you ready? ... are you ready?

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When "friends" let you down...

by Crumpet in

jw
friends

have you ever been in a position where you really needed your friends - ie a relationship break down, or some other event and expected your friends to rally and support you.

only to find that those friends are nowhere to be seen or heard and when you tentatively enquire how they are in the hope for some kind response you get - "oh well you'll get over it.

" or words to that effect and by email.. i have as you can guess a reason and recent experience of my own that i'll share later, but i wondered how do you handle that?

RAF

(((Crumpet)))
ditto What others said on the matter in different ways and Xena's post I've just read before to post this (about don't let that change you, we are all different and we need different types of people, also giving is giving not asking/especting anything in return)
Unless someone is handicaped and need a real support (day after day), or is extremely sensitive at a specific moment to the point I feel that this is the moment to listen and to hug her/him ... I think that there is a time to just say you're big enough "take over" because I won't always be there (that's what I did for my unic son since the bigining) and guess how much I love him?) It's like saying I can feed you for a while but you will still need to know how to make or get food for yourself)
My sister came up with that comment "nobody's there when you really need them" (I know she feels morally sad). But who Am I? ... Did she even realised that I was there? ... (I fixed her eyes like to say ... can't you see?) still she just didn't realised how unfair her statement was to me. Since she didn't realised I left my comment for another day when she'll feel better (but It was interesting to acknowlegde this kind of missperception again, lots of people just do not see how much support they get and just think that they need more - which is understandable but not always possibleor even what will really help them to take over).
A friend is not an unconditional support, a friend is someone who tells you the right thing at the right moment, and a friend is still a human being with his/her own troubles, faillures and needsat that very same moment. There is only one person you can really count on "YOU".
More you cry, less most people want to hear about it (if not for you to be the subject of conversations to say I know someone bla bla bla to make them feel better about themselves ... or because they also feel alone and that's the way they compensate be with people who feel the same - like : he/she too have been there - they steam out with you - it's like a common support actually it's not a one way support - just like the JWD Board).
When I'm in depression I don't call anybody, (I'm happy when someone calls, but I might skip the subject) I take my time to take over (I've really understood that I really need to support myself at first).
Take care sweety ...

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i woke up to my kids all sick, a letter in the mailbox (put there sneakily sometime early this morning) saying that we should 'return to serve jehovah and become one of the family again' (cannot understand the association of meeting attendance = being part of a family.

family is family no matter what they choose to believe.

) and to top it all off, our 10 year old dog who has been really sick past week, had to be put down a couple of hours ago.

RAF

(((Winnie)))