Deaconbluez : You have to be very clear with them and use very direct, piercing language that gets the point across. You can't underestimate this kind of thing, either. People kill over this kind of stuff every day.
OY OY OY it's true ... (for those who kill for that not sure being very clear would change something) ... but if she's not that kind (which luckily is the case) maybe being very clear without being mean - just telling that enough is enough - to let time do it's job to be able (both of you) to appreciate again the time you shared together and also the reason why you are not together anymore, would be the best for both ... otherwise it doesn't lead anywhere but frustration for her since she is the one who is insisting (it does not allow you to miss her - but just being bothered). I guess that the reason why she is still playing game is just because she haven't find anything really satisfying yet ... tell her to put her energy into that because you want the best for her and obviously it's not you (something like that)
and yeah ad Jgnat's idea ... all that with a nice card (with roses or something which talks about the benefit of friendship)
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by bluesbreaker59 inso over the last couple days, i've been getting messages on myspace from someone that wants to know "what band i play with?
" i have not answered these questions with direct answers, because i'm pretty sure its a fake profile with someone from my past operating it.
this has happened before, where my ex, tried to be added as a friend to my page, and i knew it was her.
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where is Candylinuts
by RAF inshe even disapeared from myspace space !!!
the last info she sent from myspace was telling she was ok but now i wonder ...
did i miss something?.
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She even disapeared from myspace space !!! (or is it only me?)
The last info she sent from myspace was telling she was ok but now I wonder ... !!!
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Hi all.........
by ScoobySnax injust thought i'd stick my head in to say hello, and how is everyone doing?!!
been going ok here, been a bit stressed with the job i'm doing, and seem to live for the weekends and a few beers.
was going to go to the convention in london this weekend at twickenham, but got sort of warned off it from my mum being as i'm in this new relationship wouldn't be "appropriate" as she said.
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I'm fine Scooby ... Thanks !!!
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Advice wanted... possible stalker
by bluesbreaker59 inso over the last couple days, i've been getting messages on myspace from someone that wants to know "what band i play with?
" i have not answered these questions with direct answers, because i'm pretty sure its a fake profile with someone from my past operating it.
this has happened before, where my ex, tried to be added as a friend to my page, and i knew it was her.
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just ignore ... (in every ways)
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Hi all.........
by ScoobySnax injust thought i'd stick my head in to say hello, and how is everyone doing?!!
been going ok here, been a bit stressed with the job i'm doing, and seem to live for the weekends and a few beers.
was going to go to the convention in london this weekend at twickenham, but got sort of warned off it from my mum being as i'm in this new relationship wouldn't be "appropriate" as she said.
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Hi Scooby !!!
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neat picture
by John Doe insaw this picture and thought a few of you might appreciate it.
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Ok ... I See NOW ...
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neat picture
by John Doe insaw this picture and thought a few of you might appreciate it.
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Mayday ... Mayday
Red X ... I say Red X
Do you read me?
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I need a girlfriend
by Junction-Guy inafter this past trip to ohio, i have become painfully more aware of how alone i am.
i miss having someone to share my life with.. .
im almost to the point of dating again, yet i have so many obstacles to overcome.. .
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Also when I say be confident in yourself it does not mean that you have to feel great about yourself ...
It means that you have to love yourself just the way you are (today) and can be (tomorrow) ...
to give you a global idea about why it is as simple as that : I've realised that every default that we have is related to a quality.
Means that you can see a lot a qualities in someone which can turn into defaults - but that also means that you can see a lot of defaults in someone which can turn into qualities ... It's all good when we get into a good balance and it begans by acceptance and not wanting too much or not enough.
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Spirituality without Faith- Is It Possible?
by nvrgnbk inspirituality without faith.
what would it mean to naturalize spirituality?
how can naturalism inspire spiritual experience and provide us with a satisfying cognitive context within which to address our ultimate concerns?
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said in different ways here : Semantics can bog us down
But that's what transcending is all about it's not about what you see (cause the tiniest can be the greatest for instance) it's about what we are able to feel without taking ourself too much into consideration (Ego and personnal needs) to be able to appreciate and evaluate the value of everything as a whole
For instance : is death the worst thing that can happen to somebody? I guess not since some people wants to die ... but would they want to die if they would be able to transcend what makes them want to die?
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I need a girlfriend
by Junction-Guy inafter this past trip to ohio, i have become painfully more aware of how alone i am.
i miss having someone to share my life with.. .
im almost to the point of dating again, yet i have so many obstacles to overcome.. .
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Also complicity (which suppose a real kind of friendship feeling) do not mean that those you share this with, are those you need to have or to see or talk to everyday ... not even every month or year (maybe you already know people who share that with you) you can get closer but it doesn't have to be all of the sudden, neither that it will lead to marriage it's just something very good to feel and to share (but in those relationship you'll know at the end who you really want and who really wants to share more with you).
I do insiste because I'm not sure I'm clear (sorry) all in one what it means is that you shouldn't have a preconcive idea of what you are looking it limits the potential candidates - therefore you shouldn't really looking for anything special (just want to be you - and find people who likes you just the way you are) so it's more about feeling than searching (because maybe you'll change your idea about what you really want from that) - it all about authenticty (not normality - which is maybe not what you really want).