Happy anniversary!!!!!!!!!
jamiebowers
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It's been a year now... (Yay me.)
by VampireDCLXV ini guess that my one year anniversary here has come.. i've made lots of friends... and perhaps a few enemies.. i've made people laugh... i've pissed people off.... i've made people think... i've made people cringe.... i've moved ahead in some areas of life... still stuck in some others.... i've had a lot of fun... i've had some tense moments and tears.... i've been able to make sense to people... spoke utter nonsense at other times.... to my 'fans' here: thanks for the support and having my back... .
to people who hate my guts: go ahead... take your best shot... .
either way, i win.
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jamiebowers
Elders in any and every congregation will df a person for even trying to save their own life with a blood transfusion. I was threatened with df'ing for refusing to stay with my mentally deranged jw husband or stalk him long enough to determine if he was going to commit adultery or make good on his threats to kill me. This guy was so dangerous that he was forcibly committed to mental institutions twice on the word of his own doctors. Look, buddy, there is no love loss for people who refuse to submit to the organization's authority whether or not it is a matter of life and death or simply diference of opinion.
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One step closer to freedom!
by OneDayillBeFree init has been some time since my last post on here and its been hard for me to post much since i'm still in and my fellow dubbies are always poking there heads in my business trying to find something wrong to get me into trouble, but i do enjoy lurking on here from time to time... and i do plan to post here much more in the near future!.
actually, being on this site and reading all of your threads (mostly on my phone) has become my favourite thing to do at meetings and on field service and pretty much anything wtbts related!.
you all have been such a great help and comfort to me when i feel down, seriously even the trolls that come around here every now and then leave me with a sense of tranquility, for it reminds me of how i used to be just like them at one point, it gets me all "happified" to know that i have now awakened and see the "truth" about the truth and feel quite at peace with myself at times.. as some of you that have read my first post may know... i've been working on a really, really long fade, and so far its been going steady to say the least.
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jamiebowers
Welcome, Oneday! Hope your fade goes quickly and well!
What is stopping you from just walking away from it all?
Because chances are good that he'll be shunned by everyone he's ever known...family, friends, business associates...anyone and everyone who is a jw.
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Wife is on that yellow brick road to the WT.
by trailerfitter inhi, this is my first post on this forum although i have been reading many posts on here.
i feel safe enough to ask your advice and become involved now......from what i have learned about this forum it is occupied by sensible people who have left the watchtower influences for one reason or another.
i am, for want of a better word, a none believer.
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jamiebowers
I've read this whole thread and am glad to see that a few have addressed what a problem the Watchtower poses for children. Please, for the love of all that is holy, exert your headship rights and forbid your child to attend the meetings or go out on field service! This cult and its literature will fill his head with frightening images of Armageddon, pound it into his head that higher education is on par with drugs and alcohol, threaten him that God disapproves of masturbation, threaten that he, his "worldy" friends, father, and relatives will be killed, and make his life at school a living hell by forbidding the flag salute, singing of the national anthem, celebrating all holidays, and participating in clubs and sports. Also let's not forget the Watchtower's MASSIVE problem with child molesters. I'm not saying that most jws are child molesters, but the few who are child molesters aren't made known to the congregation. Watchtower doctrine requires two witnesses to sin, even in the case of child molestation. Even if the molester confesses, his or her presence in the congregation is not announced if the elders judge them to be repentant. There are many news accounts where elders have threateningly encouraged parents of raped children against going to the police. Read the following links for more information:
http://www.watchtowerdocuments.com
There are also several newspaper and news broadcasts discussing this problem. Google it or check on Youtube. Look, the mindset of these people is truly dangerous to any vulnerable person such as a child. As a victim of both child molestation and domestic violence while under Watchtower control, I can honestly tell you that there is some mighty twisted thinking going on in this organization. Keep your kid out of it at all costs. If the Watchtower destroys your marriage as it has many others, pursue your child's protection from this vile corporation to the fullest extent of the law.
I'm sorry to sound so melodramatic, but I've lived the nightmare, my friend. I'm coming up on 24 years of being out of the organization, yet I'm still conversing with exiting and ex-jws everyday. Why? Because the only thing in my life that keeps me up at night is KNOWING WITHOUT A DOUBT that molestation of children and violence against women is being covered up by this destestable, filthy cult.
It's good your wife doesn't want your son at the meetings. Keep it that way! And as head of the household, do not allow her to make any decisions about your son's education or medical care. And never allow a jw unfettered access to your child...period.
Edited to add: If your child attends meetings and field service with his mother, he will be encouraged to teach and pursue baptism just as is being done to her. The difference is that she's an adult. But young children are highly encouraged to get baptized as well. Then if they do something against the Watchtower doctrine, expess disbelief of Watchtower doctrine, or simply stop being a jw, he will be shunned by most if not all of his jw associates, including his mother, whether or not he is disfellowshipped.
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Eff my JW (former) family and freinds... Eff em all
by AZheat ini am sitting here writing this posting as a way of venting for all the frustration that i have been building up over the years of slavery to this beast called the wbts... i was a born in, and was denied all the normal things in life, i always felt left out as a kid, and even as a young adult.
i was the only jw for most if not all of my school years, i was harrased, mocked, teased, and even pushed around, because i was taught to stand up for what i beleive in.
th problem was, i didnt beleive it, i always felt there was something not right about the org.
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jamiebowers
It gets better with time. I'm coming up on 24 years of being shunned by my mom. In the meantime, I married a wonderful man and helped to raise his two youngest kids. I've bonded with my non-jw dad and his new family and made a large circle of friends. Best of all, my jw brother left the cult and is now a full fledged apostate. It took 18 years, but I couldn't be happier with the family and friends I have.
Edited to add: My mom now has neither of her children and no grandchildren. I, on the other hand, I have two loving step-kids and four little granddaughters. My brother also has two step-children, and grandkids will happen eventually.
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Today is my 10th anniversary!
by JRK innone of my three marriages lasted that long!
today is the tenth anniversary of my being disfellowshipped.
apparently i am much better at being disfellowshipped than being married.. i might end up getting married again someday, but i will definitely not return to the cult.. say amen!.
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jamiebowers
Saying "Amen!" Congrats John!
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how do we exdubs deal with family still in?
by bigmac ini would be interested in hearing how other ex's cope with family members--still stuck in.. .
example--my 90 year old jw dad--been in 50+ years---continued close ties with me since i left 30+ years ago----yet he says he wont talk to his grandson--age 35 ( my son )--who was df 2 years back.
my never jw (3rd) wife cant understand this.. .
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jamiebowers
Welcome lohengren!
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how do we exdubs deal with family still in?
by bigmac ini would be interested in hearing how other ex's cope with family members--still stuck in.. .
example--my 90 year old jw dad--been in 50+ years---continued close ties with me since i left 30+ years ago----yet he says he wont talk to his grandson--age 35 ( my son )--who was df 2 years back.
my never jw (3rd) wife cant understand this.. .
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jamiebowers
example--my 90 year old jw dad--been in 50+ years---continued close ties with me since i left 30+ years ago----yet he says he wont talk to his grandson--age 35 ( my son )--who was DF 2 years back
my first wife ( above sons mother)--born in /devout---wont talk to her own son--
i cant imagine what his new partner must think of this--especially as she acts as a go-between to help with child access.
Other than the need for family medical history and calls regardng illnesses and deaths in the family, I have never contacted my jw mother. Your son's mistake, IMO, is that he allows any jw, related or otherwise, unfettered access to his child. No child should be left alone with a jw. The indoctrination is bad enough. But to top it off, these people are not aware of the pedophiles in their midst.
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sane again
by Malteserfalcon inhey fellow miscreants , i've been lurking around in the underbrush of jwd for several years now and this is my first post.. for those setting out on the bewildering disconbobulating road towards un cult think this place rocks like the momydaddyload.. .
so just wanna say thanks for helping to subvert my cult persona.
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jamiebowers
Welcome....awesome first post!
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I am thinking of writing a book. Would you read it?
by ekruks ini had a nervous breakdown, growing up in a very strict, abusive religious community that you know of.. .
living throughout the world in modern 21st-century cities, we strongly believe the end of the world is nigh due to moral decline, and thoroughly follow a moral code which i respect, seeing drugs etc.
do harm people.
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jamiebowers
.jamiebowers, the thing is turning my back on the faith seems to be denying morals
You won't feel that way once you realize just how immoral the organization is.