Posts by jamiebowers

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has anyone lied to the two elders

by wasted in

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just a ?

as ive got cobe and my daughters fil coming round nxt wk to grill me, first time 2 of the blighters have turned up together so im expecting the inevitable.

by the way not been to a meeting in 2.5 yrs after 35 yrs in the b/s,and just wondering how much they pressure to get the answers they want.

jamiebowers

as ive got cobe and my daughters fil coming round nxt wk to grill me,

I do have to avoid that as we have grand children and the sil says he will treat me as d/f.

I would definitely use this situation. You could say something like, "My son in law has threatened my relationshp with my grandchildren while having no idea what I'm feeling or thinking. I'm sorry, COBOE and father in law to my daughter, but that kind of treatment has me so discouraged that I just can't bring myself to talk to anyone."

Edited to add: "I've been STUMBLED!"

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She's back and I could really use some advice!

by OneDayillBeFree in

i dont know where to begin.

i do know it might get lengthy so i'm sorry for that.

and also many thanks to all who read the whole thing.

jamiebowers

I have to agree with the opinions of others who say that honesty is the best policy. However, since a relationship with your family is at stake, you can't be completely honest with her. It's a terrible situation to be in. Listen, my dear, you are very young, so you may not know that most people must meet several people before they find "the one". Your lady friend being "the one" for you is like winning the lottery...the odds are that great.

If possible, cut out the romantic stuff with her for now and work on your fade. Just tell her that you both are too young to be dating, because according to WT rules, dating should only be done with a view to marriage. Make sure that questions about the WT that she must answer are included in every conversation you have. Let her do the researching and talking, so nothing can come back on you if she decides to stay in the cult.

I know this is very tough, but please don't make the same mistakes that many of us have made. If you stay in the cult long enough for you two to be caught dating, then much more pressure will be put on her to get baptized and then for the two of you to get married. Then things will be much tougher than they are now.

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What should I do?

by Iamallcool in

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today is my first time seeing a bag of dog poop on my yard.

i do not know who did it but i picked it up and i put it in the febreze trash bag then i threw it in my garbage can.

if i will ever find out who did it, what should i do?

jamiebowers

Iamallcool, do you have a dog? If so, whoever put the bag in your yard is angry about either a false impression that your dog is pooping in his yard or your dog really is pooping in his yard.

I think that was my wife's stepmom's lunch sack. She probably left it by accident! She thinks people believe she is eating a snak pak but she isn;t.....

EWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!! TOTH, that's funny and gross.

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JW Child Custody.

by Celestial in

upon first glimpse, i thought this was a specialized service of a legitimate law firm, but as it turns out, it's simply a selective presentation of exploitable religious issues enacted by a former elder (william bowen).. http://jwchildcustody.com/ .

dont allow your children to be turned against you!.

statistics show that over 1,000 custody cases are fought each year involving jehovahs witness children.

jamiebowers

My cousin's wife had a child from her first marriage. After she married my cousin, there was a health issue with the child that required a blood tranfusion. When the father pressed the issue in court, the WT paid for a lawyer for my cousin's jw wife.

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confession time

by lostinthought in

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here are the "sins" i committed this weekend:.

- i hung out with my catholic friend and flirted with him while together.

- brought a lotto ticket on a dare.

jamiebowers

I smoked cigarettes and watched a movie about a demon. I probably also used a few curse words.

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Happy 12th birthday to JWD / JWN (us !)

by Simon in

omg, today is the forum's 12th birthday !.

omg x 2 - i said the word 'birthday' and no-one was beheaded !

lol.

jamiebowers

Congrats, and thank you Simon!

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The scent of desperation is not an aphrodisiac

by JRK in

since i have been putting all of my personal demons out there for everyone to read, i figure i might as well continue.

as was covered before, i have in the past tried to gain self-esteem through other people.

it has been most notable in relationships or potential relationships.

jamiebowers

Good for you...it will be a lot easier now to eventually find a life partner!

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In Love with a JW but he dumped me

by Ranavalona in

so i just broke up with my jw boyfriend of over two years, nearly three.

when i met him he was disfellowshipped and i didn't find out he was a jehovah's witness unitl 4 months into the relationship.

six month into he was reinstated with the caution of getting rid of me, but he didnt.

jamiebowers

Sorry for your pain, but you dodged a bullet!

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Am I being unreasonable and/or cheap?

by serenitynow! in

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jamiebowers

Serenity, you're such a sweet girl, so you need to be sure you're not being taken advantage of. I recall past posts that described your sister one of the working poor who also has mental health issues. A few hundred dollars would be better spent on things you mentioned as well as bus passes, gift cards for groceries or pharmacy and the like. Pleae don't feel bad about whatever you spend or whatever you buy.

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CRAZINESS!!! I'M BEING 'MARKED' FOR GOING TO COLLEGE!!!

by MsGrowingGirl20 in

ohmygosh!!!

one of my friends who is a ms told me today that the elders have 'marked' me because i'm a reg.pioneer and i've decided to go to college next semester???!

he said he can't tell me anymore but to be careful---what the hell does 'mark' mean?

jamiebowers

I hope you follow Billy's advice and then stop going to the meetings and service. When approached by jws, tell them you've been stumbled by the elders. Your family isn't in, so get out now. Go to college, and live your life!