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  Guilt trip

  by Jrjw in

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  did anyone have other jws try to guilt trip them when they were leaving or if you were making a decision which jws felt was wrong but wasn't unscriptural?

  i'm getting people guilt tripping me to eventually get back with my emotionally, spiritually and mentally abusive husband who i'm separated from.

  i feel sick at the thought of getting back together and putting myself through that nightmare again but i'm being told its what jehovah wants coz he doesn't want families to be apart.

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  jamiebowers

  Yes, I was guilt tripped when I left my abusive jw husband. Years later I completed a questionnaire composed by a FBI agent that studied domestic violence murders. On a scale of 0 to 9 of chances of being killed had I stayed in the marriage, I scored a 9.

  The example you're setting for your kids is that no one deserves to be abused. It would be very difficult to set any example for them if you're dead. Stand your ground. No rational person would expect you to stay in a situation where you're being mistreated. As a matter of fact, sane family and friends should be rallying around you. Contact the domestic violence hotline in your area to see if there are support groups that may help you to build a network outside of the cult.
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  Does anyone remember Bryan Bush – CO in western PA back in the late 1980’s?

  by My Name is of No Consequence in

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  he was the first co that i remember growing up.

  what ever happened to him?.

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  I don't remember him. Where is PA Circuit 7?
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  Up date on what I decided to do about back surgery

  by Still Totally ADD in

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  it has been 4 1/2 weeks since i had back surgery.

  i had l4and l5 fused, disk was suck out replaced with a artificial disk and a bracket or what they called a cage with 4 screws holding it all together.

  i went in on a tuesday and was out of the hospital the next day.

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  Glad to hear you're doing well. How long until you can bend?
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  How long has it been since you have seen your family?

  by Christian Gutierrez in

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  howdy guys!

  so how long has it been since you have seen your jw family or friends?

  or do you even care to have them in your life anymore?

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  jamiebowers

  29 years since I've spoken to my mom in person....a handful of telephone calls regarding medical issues. It has never bothered me much, because I left the jws to save my life.
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  Is this another Trump backflip?

  by fulltimestudent in

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  we've seen one backflip.

  crooked hillary became a hard-working woman who deserves the nations praise (in his victory speech);.

  now according to a uk newspaper:.

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  jamiebowers

  It's back on his website.

  http://www.latimes.com/nation/politics/trailguide/la-na-updates-trail-guide-so-what-s-the-deal-with-donald-trump-s-1478812963-htmlstory.html
  
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  JW charged regarding child pornography

  by Listener in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  http://www.sanluisobispo.com/news/local/crime/article39058014.html#1.

  church shouldn't have divulged child-porn suspect's alleged confession, attorney says.

  elders in the jehovah’s witnesses church violated the confidentiality of steven lindhorst of paso robles when they told police about an alleged confession he made regarding child pornography, according to a defense motion.. .

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  jamiebowers

  In 2008 during the Gilbert Simental trial in California it was ruled that jws have no clergy privilege since confidentiality was not a priority. The elders do, after all, report confessed wrong doing to the Watch Tower. Here are a bunch of articles about this case.

  http://www.silentlambs.org/ElderprotectPedophile.htm

  This article from September 2015 says that Lindhirst admitted his crime and was sentenced to six years in prison. It doesn't mention the elders' reporting on him.

  http://www.sanluisobispo.com/news/local/crime/article39062517.html
  
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  How do you deal with depression?

  by BlackWolf in

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  i'm currently going through a bout of depression and my eating disorder has gotten worse.

  ever since my parents actually told me that they are going to kick me out when i turn 18 i've felt kind of hopeless about my life.

  my parents won't take me to the doctor because the psychiatrists won't have my "best interests" aka jw crap in mind, because really that's the root of all my problems.. i'm wondering if any of you guys have any advice with dealing with depression?

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  Your parents are breaking the law for not providing medical treatment for your depression and eating disorder. Please call childrens services or whatever county agency deals with abuse and neglect of children.

  Dealing with these two health crises would be difficult for adults in the best of circumstances, but you are young and also being persecuted for your beliefs by the very people who are supposed to care for you. Please don't try to handle this alone. At least see your family doctor, and let him/her know what's going on.
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  Baptized niece crowned prom queen. Could her dad loose his MS appt?

  by StarTrekAngel in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so my niece (not thru my brother but rather my wife) had been talking about going to her prom.

  the family had privately been somewhat doubtful that she would be allowed to go.

  the problem was that they kept promising she would be allowed but history has shown us that her parents tend to get her excited about things and then drop the denial on her at the last minute.

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  I don't know about the Hispanic congregations, but this happened to a second cousin of mine in a white rural kh. She was unbaptized, and I don't believe either of her parents held any sort of position. But the elders hounded this poor girl to give up her crown. She told them to go to hell and promptly left home upon graduation.
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  Closer/death/Funerals

  by Leela1 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hello all i am fairly new to this site even though i have been da since i was 16 years old i am now 35 years old.

  i have had very little contact with my family since i left maybe a handful of times over the years.

  i thought i put the past behind me and moved on i have 4 amazing kids of my own really supportive partner and great friends who have become my family.

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  jamiebowers

  Please read and re-read what Steve2 had to say. Your family rejected you years ago and continue to do so by their silence about your father's illness.

  On a personal note, I've had limited phone contact relating to necessary family medical history with my mother who has shunned me for 27 years. She took the opportunity during one of these brief few moments to defend her husband for attempting to rape me when I was 12 years old.

  My mother now has cancer and is rejecting medically advised treatment. And, no, I will not attend her funeral when the time comes, because she is a stranger to me.

  No good can come from communicating with cult members. They are manipulative predators, who if permitted, will use your kids as the next generation of victims. Write a letter to your father if it makes you feel better. But for the love of all that is holy, stay away from these twisted people.
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  Hey ya'll! My first post. Please help. In need of advice/comfort.

  by Stepford Wife in

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  hey ya'll!

  i have been lurking for years on this site and others but never had the courage to post anything.

  actually i was afraid of posting on an apostate site in the event i was wrong.

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  jamiebowers

  DJS, medical personnel taking the blood issue to court in the case of emergency regarding a child is too much of a risk. The op's husband taking such a thing to court in the event he discovers a change in said child's medical record is a losing proposition for him.

  What, if anything he considers a shot over the bow is his concern and not the op's. He needs to live by Watch Tower rules if he wants to be a jw. He is his wife's spiritual head, not the elders. He can impart their words of wisdom to her if he so desires.

  In any case, the op is a grown woman living in a free country. She has the power to make decisions for herself and her daughter. Her husband is also free to get the courts involved, but to what end....to show the authorities that he wants to force his daughter to abstain from blood and attend religious meetings?

  His priorities are in the wrong place if he is only worried about holding onto his position. The op's priorities are to keep her daughter and herself safe from disastrous emotional and medical decisions.