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jamiebowers
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Why I Left Jehovah's Witnesses--a 10-page essay by sd-7
by sd-7 inwhy i left jehovahs witnesses.
they can be painful to bear, but sometimes that is part of life in a setting with many people and their various personalities.. it was my examination of evidence that did lead me to leave jehovahs witnesses.
they, of course, had failed to bear proper witness to his name.
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Salvation Army--is it a high control group?
by rebel8 ininteresting.
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http://cultprevention.blogspot.com/2011/12/salvation-army-is-it-high-control-group.html.
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jamiebowers
Several years ago I interviewed for a part time case worker position at a Salvation Army post. I decided against working for them due to the restrictions they put on some of the assistance they offer. For instance, the SA will help poor people with the cost of prescription drugs but refuse to do so in the case of medicines for mental illness. That sounds just a little too much like Scientology for my taste. I continued to donate during their holiday kettle drives but have decied to stop doing that upon recently learning their stance on homosexuality.
IMO the only way to successfully communicate with any high control group is to hit them in the wallet. It isn't any different with the Watchtower. If the donations dry up, so will they. Although the SA does a lot for charity, they won't be doing it with my money from now on. Bigotry is bigotry, even if it's covered up with good works.
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What would you do if your JW spouse did...?
by garyneal inokay, i don't mean to rant but i am not sure where to turn.
the issues that i am having with my wife are not related to her being a jw but it does make me think of other situations where the religion is credited for the jw spouse's exceptional behavior (even when it has nothing to do with the religion).. my wife has her heart set on going to disney this year, but she has no real plan on saving the money to go.
in addition to this, she needs have some money to replace her lost income over the summer when she takes her internship to get her teacher's license.
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jamiebowers
If you're just a authorized user on the credit card, you have no power to change the spending limit or cancel the card. However, I'm not certain if it's on your credit report. If it is, have yourself removed as an authorized user, so you can't be held liable for it.
Next, Google your city's court records and look up her name. Then show her that her bad record is public knowledge. Ask her if she really wants that out there for the elders or possible converts to see. Don't worry about her not graduating on time, because she can get driving privileges for necessary business like work and school. But ask her if she really wants to have to put the Kingdom Hall's address on the form and provide such a bad witness. Also ask her how it will look if she can't drive in field service.
If you're a registered owner of the car she drives, take your name off asap, and do not allow her to drive your car that is in your name under any circumstances. If you have car insurance for both of you, cancel it and carry your own policy. Otherwise her carelessness is going to cost you money in higher premiums. If you ever buy a house together, (which is doubtful since she likes to run up credit card bills), insist that she carry higher amounts of insurance to protect your home from law suits caused by her poor driving.
Insist on her paying her fines and for her own car insurance plus whatever she contributes to bills and expenses. I would also close out any joint bank or credit accounts you have. That way you can protect yourself now and in the case of divorce. Then simply refuse to take the Disney vacation. If she wants to go on her own dime, (or more than likely credit), let her. Just don't be the sucker who pays for her carelessness and thoughtlessness.
I know all of this sounds tough, but if you separate your finances and insurance protection, maybe she'll change her ways. If not, at least you won't be responsible for her poor decisions.
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Children not raised as JWs - an 'out of the mouths of Babe's moment
by skeeter1 ini have a 10 year old.
been to the kh once, at about 3 years old, for a relative's funeral.
lately, my 10 year old and her bff are talking on the phone alot.
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jamiebowers
What a sweetie your daughter is!
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Just call me donut guy.
by TotallyADD injust have enough time to let you know our donut shop is open now.
after one week of training in pittsburg and one week of training at our new store we are now up and running.
i did a soft opening with little fan fare.
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jamiebowers
Get well soon, Reopened Mind! And good luck to you Totally ADD!
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jamiebowers
Your first priorty is your child. In my mind, holidays in modern day are simply a reminder to take time for special ocassions and celebrate them with family and friends. Decorations should include what you and your husband and kids like. For instance, I'm agnostic, but I've always loved angels...so I have about a thousand of them, LOL.
Why not approach your parents with this?: "When I was a child I respected your way of doing things, and now that I'm an adult I expect the same from you. I think it would benefit my children to celebrate the holidays, so that's what we're going to do. If I'm df'd and you decide to shun me, I want you to know that my kids and I are a package deal...you choose to ignore me, you choose to ignore your grandchildren." Then leave no room for argument. Just find a mantra to keep repeating...something like, "I respected your child rearing decisions, and I expect you to the same for me."
Of course it's beneficial for children to have a good relationship with their grandparents, but it's much more important for them to see that their parents are confident about their parenting. Trying to hide a normal life from yor parents may induce unneccesary guilt for your children and make you appear spineless and sneaky to them.
Maybe this will sound silly but I have pain now for the normal joys of childhood deprived of me. Yes I know I did not have the worst childhood on the planet and am not trying to overly pity myself. But it does pain me, rightly so. I have difficulty opening the door to trick-or-treaters b/c it makes me sad thinking of what I didn't experience. Same thing watching in-laws' kids open xmas presents, go to prom, etc.
(((((Rebel8)))). It never ceases to amaze me how people think that only those of us who were physically or sexually abused as children deserve any regret over how we were raised. Your saddness is very valid.
That being said, it's important for the OP to know that the only thing that helped me with the saddness I felt over my childhood, (jw related and otherwise), was giving my kids what I didn't have.
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Buried my 17 yr old nephew yesterday....hug ur kids!!
by crazyblondeb incant really go into the whole story, but yesterday we bured my.
17 yr old nephew....just reminds me of how important family is.... http://www.abc17news.com/news.php?id=4324.
any fights, squabbles..arent important!.
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jamiebowers
Shelley, I've said it before, but again I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine....
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The WATCHTOWER isn't DECEITFUL , they are just IMPERFECT
by Minimommi ini recently started questioning my beliefs and i am not happy with what i found out.
i am married to a born in who admits that wtbs has some problems.
one of his favorite scriptures to quote is psalms 146:3 to "not put your trust in nobles", including the so called fds.
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jamiebowers
I think the Tacoma parking lot scandal, the Watchtower ownership of kingdom halls, and the under reporting of cash collected for convention expenses qualify as deceptive money practices.
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The WATCHTOWER isn't DECEITFUL , they are just IMPERFECT
by Minimommi ini recently started questioning my beliefs and i am not happy with what i found out.
i am married to a born in who admits that wtbs has some problems.
one of his favorite scriptures to quote is psalms 146:3 to "not put your trust in nobles", including the so called fds.
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jamiebowers
If the organization is simply imperfect, how does that make it different from any other religion?
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I finally drove off my wonderful jw wife...and i am so sad..
by oompa ini helped her move out this weekend so i must be a masochist too...so on top of losing every friend in my life...i have now lost my wife...and yes i asked her to leave on more than one occasion this year...we have argued for nearly five years about wt crap...nothing i could ever say would make her question anything!!!!
it was beyond frustrating...then this spring when i somehow disassociated myself and even lost my parents i knew i would never have a normal marriage no matter what...all i wanted was a normal marriage with mutual friends...that is off the table as long as she is a jw...but why could i not accept it???
why could i not shut up???
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jamiebowers
I'm sorry you're hurting, dear Oompa! She may be the best woman on the planet, but if you're not happy and getting along, she's not for you.