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  Poor old Trevor

  by mouthy in

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  http://www.thisisderbyshire.co.uk/displaynode.jsp?nodeid=131596&command=displaycontent&sourcenode=124371&contentpk=20069600&folderpk=55129&pnodeid.

  he broke his ankle ....

  true!!!

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  Now I'm confused! Is Trevor transgender?!

  Nah, just a fake that played on the emotions and good hearts of people on this board.

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  Lets talk about Jesus!

  by real one in

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  luke 4:16-19 jesus, went back to nazareth, where he had been brought up, and as usual he went to the meeting place on the sabbath.

  when he stood up to read from the scriptures, he was given the book of isaiah the prophet.

  he opened it and read,.

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  No

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  For the sake of fair play

  by coolhandluke in

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  i have this problem.

  i think that justice and right and wrong are universal concepts that every man of every faith can embrace - to bastardize a line from the boondock saints.

  perhaps this is jw in origin, this expecting everyone to play from the same deck with no jokers and no wild cards.

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  Why would you expect part of the bonus or even dinner?

  I don't think he owes you anything. I once got a 1000.00 bonus for recommending a friend for a job, I didn't offer her any of the bonus and she didn't expect anything. If I had found out she was secretly expecting part of the money I would have found it to be very silly, imature and petty on her part. The only thing I expected of her was to do a good job and not make me look bad for recommending her. It paid off for her in the long run, she was making 12.00 more and hour, great benefits and hours and a great boss to boot.

  Be thankfull you have job you enjoy, that pays well (I'm assuming). You should be thanking him for opening up an opportunity for you and not pouting about him not sharing the bonus that was awarded to him. **this of course depends on whether or not you actually enjoy your position there**

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  Living for Ourselves

  by Crystal1982 in

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  making the best of things and living a happy life despite it all!

  living our lives in an effort to make our parents happy.

  ourselves happy.

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  Hi Crystal and welcome to JWD.

  Thanks for sharing your story and I look forward to hearing from you more. Good luck with obtaining custody of your children and congrats on the new baby

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  What Homophobia REALLY means.

  by darkuncle29 in

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  i know from my own life experience, that repressed sexual expression leads to externalizing that repression and projecting it upon others.

  fear, anger, and self loathing is the bottom line.

  when i finially was freed of the jw beliefs, and then later came out to friends (actually, i was outed), i had a new awareness dawn on me one day.

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  I believe real one may be a she, not sure why though, nothing in particular, just a hunch.

  I think ro is really rosalee

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  Hey BFD - how are ya honey
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  What Homophobia REALLY means.

  by darkuncle29 in

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  i know from my own life experience, that repressed sexual expression leads to externalizing that repression and projecting it upon others.

  fear, anger, and self loathing is the bottom line.

  when i finially was freed of the jw beliefs, and then later came out to friends (actually, i was outed), i had a new awareness dawn on me one day.

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  ro - repressed & bi-sexual

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  Oh no.....

  by ex-nj-jw in

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  i woke up this morning feeling achy with a slight headache.

  i've been feeling worse every minute, my body aches, my head hurts, my eyes burn and i feel like i've been run over by a mack truck and i just want to lay down and go to sleep.

  it's official i think i have the flu .

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  3 days of my head being glued to the pillow and now I'm feeling better.

  This flu was the worst, body aches, headache, fever and chills for anyone who gets it just stay in bed until it passes! Thanks for all the home remedies, I forgot who suggested the rum but I wish I had some as it seems sleeping was the best remedy of all.

  Hope everyone else is feeling better too and thanks BFD it's hard to get someone to sympathize with you when they can't hear you

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  It's For Your Own Good ...

  by compound complex in

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  intervention and then, if necessary, decisive action ... on behalf of an individual whose state of mind and behavior do not align with what is deemed acceptable by society (or "the" society).

  looking back from your current vantage point, are you now less likely to give advice or - worst case scenario - get involved in saving someone from him- or herself?

  when would you intervene?

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  As a mother of 2 adult sons and 1 almost adult - I continue to provide advise and guidance to them. I've found that if you push too hard one way or the other they will most definately push back in the opposite direction.

  I may not always agree on the path they decide to take, but I offer my opinion then sit back and watch. Sometimes a bad decision is the most effective way to learn a lesson. We can't as parents expect our adult children to do things "our way", what worked for us may not work for them or they may need to just find out on their own what does or does not work.

  Now if my adult child was a drug addict or alcoholic I would do whatever in my ability to help them get help. I would never enable them but I would be there for them with support in any way I could. When people are at their lowest is when they need our help and support the most.

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  Would you rather have the truth, or your feelings spared?

  by Bumble Bee in

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  if it was me, i'd rather have the truth up front.

  i went through an experience where someone didn't tell me the truth about a situation, thought that by not being totally honest, my feelings would be spared.

  maybe at the time, they were, but afterwards when i found out the truth i was deeply hurt and confused.

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  I have a couple of friends I value because they will tell me the truth. Sometimes I don't like what I hear, but most of the time they are right. It has saved me from a lot of problems.

  This says it the best! I feel the same way because without my closest friends I would have made lots of mistakes. I didn't always like what I was hearing when I was hearing it but as it turned out I needed to hear it!

  Uzzah - In this case, the only way is to be honest. The person's feeling may be hurt but that's much better than leading them on, telling them what they want to hear and then avoiding them or not having any contact hoping they will disapear. That's just wrong on many different levels!

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  OK parents, let's have a little chat

  by zagor in

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  i was visiting some friends today and what struck me was complete lack of imaginations kids have today.

  they get easily bored.

  unless there is internet, video games or tv around they dont know how to entertain themselves.

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  My husband and I had this same conversation last week. We were driving through our neighborhood and he said, "you notice how there are no kids out playing"? See it all the time, kids are no where to be found.

  When we were growing up we stayed outside until the street lights came on. My kids were the same way except they had way more freedom than I did and many more friends (friends that they chose for themselves). They played basketball, football, baseball. Hide and go seek and explored every inch of our neighborhood. They would occassionally come home for something to eat and drink then they'd be off again.

  I'm glad we raised our kids that way. They are so confident, independant and will give most anything a try and are never afraid of failure.

  I agree that parents have to be more cautious now but you can't be too overbearing. Kids need their own space away from parents, imo.

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