Amazing, you said that the family members were
hard working and hospitable, caring, generous, suffer with you through hardship, kind, compassionate, and as loyal to the organization as any family could be
and then you went on to explain the situation. Well, that family appears to be what Christianity is supposed to be about.
When the brother approached you, he was also 'checking with the elders'. That is the Fear and Guilt that the WTBTS puts on everyone below the GB in the organisation
esther