Never been a jw, married to an x. I agree, you guys rock. I've never seen such meanness as in the practicing ones. Totally fear driven it seems. And here on xjw sites you are so kind and helpful, because you want to be, not for org. brownie points. Actually it seems the active ones get the best brownie points for being mean. They definitely lose most of their good people. Flipper
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Ya know EX Dubs are good people
by Uzzah ini had the great pleasure of spending a few hours with mr. and mrs quotes, ackack, tall penguin and her brother.
ya know ex-dubs rock!.
it was a great conversation over dinner with a wii bit of fun afterwards.
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I cant continue to live like this i really need help
by Tryin2FindAnewMe inok im trying desperatley just to be done with everything.
i'm so depressed because it feels as though i'm living my life wrong.
why cant i get from under the dark cloud, that keeps me down.
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Dear Tryin, please keep going. So many have gone through terrible times after leaving...in the future it is worth it to have freedom and love of real friends. It sure does take time to get through. If you can get counselling to help you cope, also so much is available here in shared experiences and encouragement. Also, keep in mind that some JWs, consciously or not, will try to reinforce any bad feelings you have now in order to reinforce their own beliefs (they are taught that leaving the org ruins your life) I have seen it make them almost crazy to see someone come out and flourish - find happy relationships, good jobs, a real closeness to God. You did not leave Jehovah. That organisation twisted away from God a long time ago. Wish you the very best. Flipper
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A Depressed Update In Life.
by roflcopter inmy life's been slowly going in the crapper lately.
i am growing more and more hateful of this stupid cult, as well as deeply depressed and borderline suicidal.
my mother in law has for a long time been emailing a brother who i had a falling out with.
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Roflcopter...please hang on even though it's horribly painful. I was suicidal while going through a divorce at age 35 - husband betrayed me with women, had spent the life savings, I was on my own - terrible depression. I got treated for the depression but it took several months to come out of that really bad place. I am SO glad to be here today. I grieved so badly for my 1st husband I wanted to die. Now at 52 I am married to the kindest, funniest, most wonderful man who I love more than I thought I could love anyone. He is a "faded" lifetime JW - 4-5 years now. This is just one story of what many Jws have endured. Back in Sept., two days after he told his teenage daughter we were getting married in Oct. she and her mother (his ex-wife who loves to create and spread gossip) started trying to get him disfellowshipped - spying on us. They decided he lived with me(fornication) , told the elders and my husband's parents and older brother - a big shot elder. Because of this only his son and niece, also x jws, came to our wedding. Elders disfellowshiped him on "circumstantial" evidence. Rolfcopter - I can see now that his success and happiness after leaving the org. was driving them nuts. After all, they're taught that can't happen. There are some spiteful, miserable, and vengeful people. Also involved was an elder who always resented my husband (a cheerful, kind, and logical person). . I hope you can get away from them and have a happy life - you certainly deserve it. My husband recalls how the nicest people were hassled and berated, mostly in passive- aggressive ways. I will be thinking of you and wishing you well - please keep posted! Flipper
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Was it really all my fault...??
by Casper init just dawned on me today..., .
that - i - must have been the reason that my deceased ms husband never made elder.. ugh, as if i don't have enough guilt to carry around.
he has been deceased for 10 years now, and after reading some things on this board, i realize, i must have been his problem.
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Casper, I agree that your husband loved you way above ambition in the borg...and that he was a good man. So sorry for your loss. I think he had a much happier life with you than if he'd been an elder, and that he admired your spirit and intelligence. Flipper
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worst week in my life
by Hortensia inlast monday my husband, a nice guy, after ranting for a bit about terrorists, came over to me, to kiss me i thought.
he hit my head and then started to choke me, shouting "be healed.
" i managed to get away from him and he kept yelling "be healed" and saying that i was bewitched and had put a curse on him.
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Oh, Hortensia, what a nightmare.That is horrible. I've never been through anything like that and can't even imagine. I hope you will accept any and all help that is available to you -Domestic Violence Organization, especially psychotherapy to help you cope. Please watch your back at all times. So sorry about your husband's condition, whatever it is. Take care, Flipper
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I Received Real Good News Today
by FreeGirl2006 ini want to thank everyone for your support the other day when i wrote about my stepson being in an accident and just finding out about it because i got the hospital bill.. this morning i was walking down the hall at work and looked up and there was my stepson.
he came to see me!.
this is a great place to come for love & support when we get kicked by the borg...does it ever end?
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Excellent! So happy for you.........Flipper
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Soooo ... they've been spying on us!
by bluesapphire inmy husband and i visited with an old friend who is about to be disfellowshipped and guess what he told us:.
car groups regularly drive by our house to check it out.
an elder said he saw ... gasp ... a christmas tree this past christmas (which he had to have snuck a look through a side window because our front windows always have the shutters closed!.
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RosieAngel - that's just too wierd! Was it elders from your new town that came to your door? Would the ones from your old cong. actually contact someone local to spy on you? Flipper
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Soooo ... they've been spying on us!
by bluesapphire inmy husband and i visited with an old friend who is about to be disfellowshipped and guess what he told us:.
car groups regularly drive by our house to check it out.
an elder said he saw ... gasp ... a christmas tree this past christmas (which he had to have snuck a look through a side window because our front windows always have the shutters closed!.
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Got some elders kind of stalking my husband who faded 4-5 years ago. 4 family members started this by driving about 100 miles to spy on us, now they're egging on the elders, trying to get him to meet with them.(I guess it's their sacred mission in life to get him df'd). Any of them show up here again I'm turning the hose on them. Flipper
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In about 1980 I worked in a restaurant - a good sized men's prayer group was having a lunch banquet. The topic was something in the order of "how we must fend off the bad influence/weaknesses of the women in our life". They were serious as a heart attack - it was bizarre. Well, right before the banquet, the restaurant's very sweet, feminine, soft spoken hostess had been outside the backdoor of the kitchen smoking pot (as usual). Her front desk station was at the open doorway to the men's meeting, she kept getting all of us to come listen. When it was over she waylaid them coming out, totally reamed the speakers for their prejudice, lectured them for a loooong time - they were really trying to get away, then she starts crying about how they hurt her feelings. That'll learn 'em. It was priceless. so you guys better watch out - you never know! By the way - she didnt get fired - the managers were laughing too hard. Oh, and thanks for the welcome...I am not full blooded dolphin - grandpa Flipper scandalized the family by getting into those "humans swim with the dolphins" places in Florida. At least he didn't get df'd for fornication, dolphins are fairly intelligent. Flipper
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In case any of y'all are actually serious, might be good to consider the number of humans in the world, then the number of men or women you've had bad experiences with. well, that's my brilliant contribution Flipper