Hi BonaFide
What an interesting story.
I served as an elder in a developing country and certainly understand where you are coming from. Many of our local congregations had one or no elders and things were very different. Some weeks, I conducted just about every meeting and often on a Sunday gave the public talk in two different congregations. Besides this I had my family to care for living in a strange country and I also had a very demanding secular job.
I am sure the brothers in the west do not begin to understand how difficult life can be in other parts of the world.
I came back to the west, and sat in one elders' meeting where they discussed what soap to buy for the wash-room. I remember thinking just these guys just don't get what Christianity should be all about.
Eyeslice