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  does anyone remember being a child as a JW and not having holiday?

  by franklin J in

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  i am curious to know how many others shared the same experiences as me as a child, growing up as a jw.. surfing this board has brought back a flood of memories ( i am secure enough to deal with them) not all good.

  i have been away from jws for sometime, and remember being a child in school and having to explain why i do not salute the flag, why i have to leave the room when there is a birthday or christmas party, why i had to explain when i was seen going door to door ( i grew up to be a pioneer).

  being "different" is hard for a child.. now that i have 3 children of my own, who are fortunatelly not growing up as jw, to see how secure and well adjusted they are in school is comforting.

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  Not having birthday and Christmas celebrations really did not bother me, but I was a JW kid that actually did get wrapped presents at other times.
  

  Growing up in the UK, all that fevered patriotism wasn't a problem. I did stand outside school assemblies, and have to walk in at the end with 500 kids staring to hear the announcements. I did get called names, all kids get called names - fat kids, thin kids, ginger kids, short kids and JW kids. In my case, kid with a different accent, kid with an amusing surname, in my teens, kid with the largest breasts in school and in addition a kid with a weird religion. Being C-of-E would not have made my school life one long breeze.

  We don't make such a big organised fuss over Valentines and Halloween here, and we don't have Thanksgiving.
  
  It's different things that I regret. Not being able to go to school discos, not being able to have a boyfriend, that I could introduce to my parents, and see after school. Subtle parts of growing up. Joining Brownies or Girl guides. Other people have those memories, and I can't get it back. I did not want that stuff at the time though.
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  ...And The Most / Least Honest Nation Is:

  by Englishman in

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  here's the league table:.

  http://www.nationmaster.com/graph-t/gov_cor.

  englishman.

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  Its interesting, but it does not refer to personal honesty of citizens - its about levels of corruption:

  Definition: relates to perceptions of the degree of corruption as seen by business people, academics and risk analysts, and ranges between 0 (highly clean) and 10 (highly corrupt). Includes police corruption, business corruption, political corruption, etc.
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  Latest Update!

  by Skeptically Yours in

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  life is good as a witness in good standing still doing what i please!.

  my husband and i are in the hispanic side of the watchtower and were having a grand time.

  just imagine, caribeans partying a lot!.

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  If its true - More power to your elbow!

  In normal religions, people are not continually judged on their personal choices in entertainment, hobbies, styling and career. In normal religions, every single congregation member does not have the same beliefs on the minutiae of doctrine, nor are they required to.

  If a high control group is not controlling its members, what is it doing?

  The Watchtower is not going to disappear, and if it was sued out of financial existance, hard core JWs would start it up again. The only hope for sincere JWs still under the control of the WT is long term liberalisation, and that is not going to happen from the outside.

  However, on a personal level, I could not be a part of that organisation, knowing what they do, even if I could get away with being a "JW lite". But I suppose some people like it that way.
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  A big issue for ex-witnesses?

  by JeffT in

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  after watching so many of the flame wars/battles going on on this board, ive reached a conclusion about what may be the biggest issue that faces ex-witnesses: learning how to deal with conflict is a new experience.

  in the world of the borg, there is no conflict.

  you conform to the group, or you are not part of the group.

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  JWs may think that they are learning debating skills in the TMS and service meeting, but really its just training in blocking conversation stoppers, and how to read the answers from the "Reasoning" book.

  Being raised a JW made me very judgemental and derisive of people who did not share my outlook on any aspect of life - not restricted to religious issues. It has taken a long time to adjust to the fact that everyone's life is different and people have different values and preferences, and you cannot judge peoples worth on that basis.

  We were taught that anyone who did not agree with us was ultimately birdfood - and the only reason that we were supposed to be kind and polite to householders or any "worldling" was to draw them in. Now we aren't recruiting, for some of us, courtesy and good manners have also gone out the window. Maybe its another reflection of the fact that drumming hundreds of rules into someone does not give them values. Take away the big stick and anything goes.

  There is never anything wrong with strongly held views and convictions, but IMO there is never any excuse for rudeness. If I disagree with another's view that does not mean that they are stupid or bad, and it does not mean that I am stupid or bad.
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  Hi I am Caspians sister and this is my first day here.

  by Lainey in

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  hello this is my first post and i wanted to introduce myself so here goes.. my name is lainey, and i have not been to the meetings for about 4 years now.. i am 28 and work as a doctor in a big city university hospital as a sho.. also for my sins, i am cassies little sis, and i am staying with him for a little while, as i am signed off sick for the next month with a stress related disorder.. after the death of my older bro and my dad within the past few months, i started suffering from terrible nightmares, most of them connected in some way to my witness upbringing.. me and cassie have talked for some length and he suggested that i spend some time having a look on this site and meeting others who have had similar issues to face in life.. i hope you are all are better listeners than cassie, who tends to fall asleep when i am in the middle of talking to him.

  (brothers!!!

  ) btw he hates being called cassie lol.. anyway i am not a big talker, so i probably wont post a lot, however i am going to scout around for a while.. thanks .

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  really strong springy letterboxes that shut too quickly

  OMG that sounds painful. Is that what inspired your interest in medicine?

  Meet me in chat, I want to hear more!!
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  Hi I am Caspians sister and this is my first day here.

  by Lainey in

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  hello this is my first post and i wanted to introduce myself so here goes.. my name is lainey, and i have not been to the meetings for about 4 years now.. i am 28 and work as a doctor in a big city university hospital as a sho.. also for my sins, i am cassies little sis, and i am staying with him for a little while, as i am signed off sick for the next month with a stress related disorder.. after the death of my older bro and my dad within the past few months, i started suffering from terrible nightmares, most of them connected in some way to my witness upbringing.. me and cassie have talked for some length and he suggested that i spend some time having a look on this site and meeting others who have had similar issues to face in life.. i hope you are all are better listeners than cassie, who tends to fall asleep when i am in the middle of talking to him.

  (brothers!!!

  ) btw he hates being called cassie lol.. anyway i am not a big talker, so i probably wont post a lot, however i am going to scout around for a while.. thanks .

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  Hello Lainey!

  Welcome!

  The 'Links' section is brilliant for finding all the information on why the WTBTS' teachings are hogwash.

  Happy scouting!

  Fellow Brit,

  Fe2O3Girl
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  Creative Ways in Which You Have Gotten A Job

  by berylblue in

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  a little too tipsy right now to elucidate...but i think i've already bored you all to tears on my job situation...so..... i'm doing all the "normal" things.. in what ways have you gotten jobs other than the usual?.

  thanks,.

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  Fe2O3Girl

  In the UK, most job vacancies are never advertised. Some are handled by recruitment agencies, many are filled by networking contacts. If you only apply for advertised vacancies you are seriously limiting your search.

  I got my current position because someone at the company knew me and asked if I would be interested in the job. I still had to go through the application and interview process, but I got to know about the vacancy through personal contact. I have made a point of getting to know lots of people in my industry.

  Let everyone you know know that you are looking for a new position. Call potential employers and ask if there are any opportunities coming up. Edit your CV for each position you apply for to really sell your skills for that job.

  Good Luck!!
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  A question for the Brits...

  by Country Girl in

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  i've so enjoyed my conversations with the folks from the uk and australia on here.

  i'm enchanted by their darling expressions, and different banter than we have in the us.

  but i've always noticed one thing.

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  Ferrets are great

  
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  Elevation to Godesses

  by stillajwexelder in

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  i do not wish to hijack minimus's thread on the opposite sex -- but i think women are so wonderful that i think some should be elevated to the status of godesses -especially here on this board -- now i am not against a bit of "false" worship -- so my two nominations are vivamus (wrapped in blue bubblegum) and xena -- possibly stinkypantz -- wot says youz guys?

  remember -- we can not elevate all to godess status as that would diminish the status -- otherwise every woman on this board could have the role

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  My homage goes to OldCrowWoman and Mouthy (aka Amazing Grace).
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  What's Your Opinion of the Opposite Sex?

  by minimus in

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  are you of the mind that all men and all women are basically the same?

  you know---all men just have one thing on their mind or all women are just users?

  there's so much stereotyping when it comes to males and females...typical man, typical woman.

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  I get along with everybody

  That's because all South Africans are friendly, easy-going and gregarious, right?? BTW, what happened to Ever Been Hypnotised? Is there more?