Who cares if it's not the correct time of year, or the right date?? It gives you something to look forward to that makes you pause and think of good things. To enjoy time with friends and family, a great excuse to reach out and touch people you know or do something for people you don't know out of real kindness. Light the lights, wrap the gifts, watch Hallmark channel on cable, and for a moment believe in all the wonder that christmas is and should be.
myway2007
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Celebrating Christmas?????
by DATA-DOG ini am just curious, and not judging.
if you are a christian and you know that december 25th is not jesus' birthday, and may have pagan roots, then why celebrate it?
i was raised a dub as most of you know, and have learned the ttatt so i know how wrong they are about a lot.
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How can we save this baby?
by Eustace infrom adchoices:parents looking to adoptloving jehovah's witness couple hoping to adopt a baby.www.parentslookingtoadopt.com
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3dogs..., I would say you are spot on with your response. Having been through the home study and the 30 hrs of training, life long JW's don't have enough life experiences to deal with the issues that the kids in the system have. The already have enough emotional baggage with them and putting them with a JW family would only multiply the issues.
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Being Disfellowshipped - reflections after 30 years
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myway2007
I doubt it, they are too used to having the borg think for them. Thinking on your own is hard stuff! Even with my siblings, I throw them a bone every once in a while and send an email or call, trying to get them to open up, but it is the same zombie response. "Don't you know what your doing with your life" YES I DO! Living large in the here and now. They have no idea how to respond.
And to think I really don't care if they accept me or not, I just want them to show me the same respect they would show strangers on the street. But they can't because they know there is no chance for conversion. What a waste.
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Being Disfellowshipped - reflections after 30 years
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myway2007
Thanks to everyone who has responded! It has really made my day! it's hard to believe that it has been so long. Even people convicted of crimes, can get time off for good behavior and are accepted back. Not so with the JW's. Looking back at how my father was treated, being a non believer, I think the rest of the siblings felt the only value he brought was financial. Wen I think about the few conversations I have had over the years with my brother, and he would say oh we still love you and wish you were here. I would say love who? The person you knew all those years ago doesn't even exist anymore. The I would get well this is what the bible tells us to do.
I have a niece that tried to leave, she called me a number years ago, actually found me on the internet, an uncle she never really knew only heard about. She was trying to get out, but financially couldn't make it and her family enticed her back becaus the only way they would help her was if she came back to being a JW. I am sorry for that, and I am ashamed of her parents, but it is a system munipulates the weak.
So don't be weak. Stand up for yourself in the best way for you.
Myway
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Being Disfellowshipped - reflections after 30 years
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myway2007
Hello,
I have watched this website for a long time, and felt it was time to speak out. This post if for those who have been DF’d and those contemplating it. It has been a long and interesting journey, but well worth the ride. I grew up near bethel, going to a congregation that was full of bethelites. It was all I had known, until I was in my early 20’s. It was a big step, but not an insurmountable one. I was DF’d and never looked back, I felt if I couldn’t give it 100% and they didn’t except anything less, then it was time to part ways. Over the years, I have had limited to no contact with siblings. I had limited contact with my mother, only because my father was not a JW. She would always get chastised by my siblings for the contact she had with me. One time I was almost physically removed from a hall near bethel, because I wanted to attend a funeral of one of my relatives. You get the picture. I could go on and on.
There is life after being a JW, it is all in what you make it. It has taken a long time to deal with it all, but now being married and having other extended family of my own, it all just works out. I have a great career, wonderful home and home life. There are two things that helped me tremendously. One was going through a program to adopt a child. Those kids have gone through a lot of the same emotions I felt being shunned by my family. It helped to heal a lot. The second was after so many years finding a church to go to. Having religion drilled into you from birth creates a void when it is gone. Finding some place that I could go and be in peace was great. Don’t get me wrong, it took me a real long time to to even consider it, let alone get there. It is part of the healing process to fill that gap of what such a large part of my existance.
I hope this can touch someone in a postive way. I would really like to find out what happend to all of the other kids who went to my congragation as a kid. :-)
MyWay
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the meetup
by sh4m3sh4m3 inso, i went to an ex jw meetup last night & the weirdest thing happened.
one of the elders that went over my questions for baptism with me, was there.
and i don't live in a small area.
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myway2007
Hi sh4m3sh4m3,
This is a matter of will. You need to have a strong will and follow what you feel is right. When I walked away, from what I was born and raised into, it was hard, and I was very much alone. It takes time to find your balance and what is right for you. Anger, fear, hurt, are all feelings and phases to go through. You just have to slush through it knowing you made a decision that is right for you. It's been over 20 yrs for me, most of my family have not had words with me in all that time. Was it hard? yes. Did I ever think of going back? I thought about it but always came to the same conclusion. It would not be me, and it wouldn't be right. I was strong willed enough to survive, and rebuild my life, and now have people around me, that have made life great.
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The best Anti -Witness
by Wordly Andre ini think most jw's expect that your world will fall apart once you leave the org.
you will start using drugs, sleeping around, tea party with demons, you know all of the typical bullshit horror stories like oh did you hear that (insert name here) left the truf, and now his wife left him, he lost his job, he is homeless and being ass raped by demons!
oh no thank jehovah we are all still in.
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Living better and enjoying life is the best revenge....
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I thought dubs were not supposed to be on the interwebs...
by Priest73 ini found this an got a kick out of it...
http://crlwk.com/aboutme.aspx
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What a find. This is great! I filled out one of the forms too, and in the comments box, I asked him to see if he could find my relatives I have not spoken to in 20 yrs and tell them to have a Merry Christmas : -)
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Statue of limitations for the disfellowshiped?
by myway2007 ini recently had a conversation with a jw relative, to which i have not spoken to in a while.
like always, the conversation turned to religious beliefs, and what am i doing these days, to which i responded i am just doing my own thing.
i said what happened with me, was over 20 years ago.
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Oh the stories I can tell, about life without family members, and surviving out in the "world'. Not becoming something "evil" for the rest of my life. Missing out on nieces and nephews, who only know me as "the evil one", or worse, don't even know I exist. it was just my will power, and refusing to give in and go back to something I did not believe in any more. Then there was the time the "brothers" attempted to throw me out of a funeral service at Bethel, for a relative who was there, and i refused to leave and sat in the back. I think I have been a silent reader here long enough, and it's time to help others who are on the edge of exiting, and have a fear of leaving. It can be as good or as bad as you want to make, and you just have to want to make it great! Especially now at one of the hardest times of year to be a JW, the Holidaze's. I can tell you from experience, it can be one of the best times of year too, once you let go and enjoy what you have been missing.
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Statue of limitations for the disfellowshiped?
by myway2007 ini recently had a conversation with a jw relative, to which i have not spoken to in a while.
like always, the conversation turned to religious beliefs, and what am i doing these days, to which i responded i am just doing my own thing.
i said what happened with me, was over 20 years ago.
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I recently had a conversation with a JW relative, to which I have not spoken to in a while. Like always, the conversation turned to religious beliefs, and what am I doing these days, to which I responded I am just doing my own thing. I said what happened with me, was over 20 years ago. I have moved on in my life and you should do the same. It occurred to me that they are stuck in that moment in time. As for me, I have moved on, got married, have a great job and a pretty good life. I have my own religious beliefs, and appreciate everything I have.
Do you get to a point, where after being disfellowshipped for so many years, you revert back to being just a run of the mill non believer? It has been over 20 years for me, and while there has been some bumps in the road, I do not regret where I have come from. But that is a story for another day….