i know but i just want you to understand it does happen. it's not just some elders... most elders. when they go to trial they put gag orders on the victims so they won't tell anyone. Honey, i know you've been through some hellish things. it's not right and it's not fair. how did they react when you went to them about the rapes? did you go to the police about it? Please take some time to heal a little. sometimes our minds won't let us think about the situation until many many years later. my experience happened from the ages 5 to 10 and i am just now remembering some of the things that happened. it's scary. if you ever need to talk don't hesitate to pm me. :) you have a whole support group in your corner.
Missanna
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I was sexually abused
by Mindyemt ini was sexually abused as a child and the witness's accepted it and helped me granted they didn't go into depth about it with me but they do not cover it up they just dont like things publicized not every rape or sexual abuse is put on the news so why should a witness being raped be put on the news they are private people why not let it be
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I was sexually abused
by Mindyemt ini was sexually abused as a child and the witness's accepted it and helped me granted they didn't go into depth about it with me but they do not cover it up they just dont like things publicized not every rape or sexual abuse is put on the news so why should a witness being raped be put on the news they are private people why not let it be
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Mindy... first of all i'm so sorry to hear about your miscarrage. that's a lot to heal from. i'm sure you have heard this over and over again but i am truly sorry for your loss.
but i want you to know that i know people who have been molested and the brothers covered it up. i myself was molested and when my father forced me to talk to the elders about it they asked us not to go to the police because it would give jehovah's people a bad name. This is covering it up. we went to the police anyway but if we hadn't, like so many other victims, the abusers would be safe and free to do whatever they want with no guilt. this is dangerous to the children, that are not protected.
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Crazy-Ass Apostates
by GetBusyLiving inwhats the most outrageous thing you have ever heard of an apostate doing to get back at the witnesses?
a while back on here i heard of some guy that was hugely pissed about the 1975 fiasco.
he dressed up in one of those ancient drama outfits and stormed the stage at a convention screaming, " i'm the faithful and discreet slave!!!!".
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i remember when i was really little a guy stormed in to our KH and just stood there by the stage looking at the guy giving the talk. when the brothers tried to take him away he fought them and started yelling. i don't know if he was an apostate or a crazy homeless guy but either way i thought it was interesting.
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growing emotionally :)
by Missanna ini've been thinking a lot lately about how much i've changed over the last year.
i've only been out of the borg for a year but i've changed so much.
my father called me the other day and told me that he found out that my husband has been going on these xjw boards and wanted to know how i felt about it.
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mysterious- i know what you mean. that song has been one of my favorites for a while now. the lyrics speak volumes.
It doesn't make me sad anymore that my parents decided to cut me off from the family. If you've read my story you know i do not have a good relationship with them and it's not emotionally safe for me to be in contact with them. that's why i'm not scared anymore to be truthful with them. You can't lose what you never had. My brother on the other hand (the one with my nephew) he found out about it also and i called to make sure that this doesn't change me going up there to see my little nephew and he actually said "i won't tell sarah (his wife) and i don't see how i would change anything... that right there gave me so much hope that he may be questioning things. Either that or he really wants to see me either way it's an amazing thing that i didn't think possible. thank you all for your support.
And mrs. smith thank you for thinking about me. i go to bed thinking of so many of you. i feel like we're family.
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"OH, the weather outside is frightful"
by horrible life insee the pretty maroon swatch above paris, texas?
kinda looka like a gecko?
well i am where the right arm of the gecko is.
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i can't believe texoma ran over! my grandparents have a cabin up there and i don't think i've ever seen it flood. that's amazing. stay safe!
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"OH, the weather outside is frightful"
by horrible life insee the pretty maroon swatch above paris, texas?
kinda looka like a gecko?
well i am where the right arm of the gecko is.
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well the roses that grow in tyler are much prettier. but we had them in mineola also. i hate that town actually. too many bad memories. but pretty flowers.
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"OH, the weather outside is frightful"
by horrible life insee the pretty maroon swatch above paris, texas?
kinda looka like a gecko?
well i am where the right arm of the gecko is.
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HEY horrible life you were once my neighbor. lol i'm from mineola Texas. and if you haven't heard of that its close to Tyler. sorry your having such bad weather there. Here in louisiana its hot as hell. that's about it right now.
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growing emotionally :)
by Missanna ini've been thinking a lot lately about how much i've changed over the last year.
i've only been out of the borg for a year but i've changed so much.
my father called me the other day and told me that he found out that my husband has been going on these xjw boards and wanted to know how i felt about it.
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i hope so. thanks bikerchic. i'm going up to see my nephew in October and don't really know how things are going to go. I need to know how to stay strong the way i did when i was on the phone. what if i can't do that ya know? what if i can't talk to them face to face? if my parents even show up.
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growing emotionally :)
by Missanna ini've been thinking a lot lately about how much i've changed over the last year.
i've only been out of the borg for a year but i've changed so much.
my father called me the other day and told me that he found out that my husband has been going on these xjw boards and wanted to know how i felt about it.
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I've been thinking a lot lately about how much i've changed over the last year. i've only been out of the borg for a year but i've changed so much. my father called me the other day and told me that he found out that my husband has been going on these xjw boards and wanted to know how i felt about it. It was so funny to me. it was the day after 4th of july i was hung over and talking to my dad. which is NOT a good combination. but i was surprizingly calm. I told him the truth. i said dad i know about it and i'm doing the same thing. i actually got to tell him that i don't believe that the witnesses have the truth. which resulted in him telling me the family is going to cut off association from me... which really made me laugh. they haven't called me for so long even to ask how im doing. the only time i hear from my mom is when something bad is happening. now before i would have been a stupid coward and tried avoiding the subject at all cost and get into a huge argument with him but i stayed calm and i was honest. it just made me realize how much i've changed. i know that has a lot to do with my age... because i don't have that much experience but it proves that i've grown emotionally. a year ago if this would have happened i would have been crying in a corner afterward because i was such a disappointment to my family. now i feel like i have a right to live my life the way i want to, to be who i want to, and to believe the way i want to. that's an amazing feeling. My father hasn't called since. He wanted to know why i didn't believe that it was the truth and surprizingly i didn't go off on a rampage but calmly told him that it was something i didn't want to discuss with him at this point. that was something i tried in the past but failed miserably. lol but i'm very proud of myself. i hope that a year from now i can say that i've grown even more. Finally i am starting to feel comfortable with my life. i've been happy this past year but not completely comfortable with my emotions. thanks for letting me ramble on like that.
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what to do? Grandson being beaten by JW father
by slvrtrixter ini am an inactive jw who has 3 sons left in the religon.
my oldest son has been baptized for4 years and has recently married again.
he gets his son every other weekend.
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I don't have much advice but my heart goes out to you. i'm so sorry this is happening. my father was abusive to all six of us and my mother did nothing. the elders did nothing. all i can suggest thinking about what i would have wanted done as a child was go to the police get the authorities involved. i don't like the idea of video taping him because that can be emotionally painful but in the long run could help. call the police. again my heart hurts for him. please keep me posted on what happens.