Posts by snowbird

I laughed, but it was not at you, it was with you. I took care of my mother in her twilight years. It was not pretty. She balked at wearing those undergarments and would take it off every night. I had to clean up more messes than I could count. Sometimes, I wanted to strangle her.

Please take a little time for yourself and don't allow anyone to make you feel guilty about anything. Peace, love and ((((((())))))).

Snowbird

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Learning About Self

by R.F. in

i must say that i haven't had an internal struggle with myself before as i've had in recent months.

i'm learning so much about myself....about the kind of person i truly am, more about my flaws, my weaknesses, my strengths, the person i want to be, etc.

i'm learning more and more about having a more realistic view of dealing with life.

snowbird

I hear you, Little Brother. I'm old enough to be your mama and I feel the same way.

The WTS reminds me so much of the plantation owners I used to know who used fear and intimidation to keep their tenants tied to the sharecropping way of life.

They used any means at their disposal to discourage education because they realized that knowledge is power. They pulled out all stops to encourage early marriages and large families in order to cement their hold on their tenants. Anyone who dared to show an inclination to pull away from the pack was viewed with suspicion. All were expected to look to the landowner to supply their every need. There was no room for individual growth, initiative, or enterprise. I hated that way of life!

I think that is why the JW lifestyle had such an appeal for me. It was supposed to offer a solution for whatever problem I encountered. But, alas, I simply traded one form of oppression for another. Isn't that ironic? However, it is never too late to make amends. We're all on a journey of self-discovery and affirmation here. It's so good that you realize the need to discover who you really are while you're still in the springtime of your life. Peace and love,

Snowbird

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My Sister's Visit

by Sunspot in

most of you know that my family disowned me in 1972 when i was baptized into the wts.

i have only one sibling, a kid sister .

i was thrilled, but nervous, not having a clue how things would go and trying to keep in mind all the things i should not say as well as things i was eager to find out about, concerning the rest of the family i have had no contact with.. the moment we laid eyes on each other (and recovered frm the gigundo hug), it all went just great!!!

snowbird

Some have all their family and wish they didn't
Have another helping of chitlins, OTWO, because you just said a mouthful! Amen and amen.
Snowbird

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Fun family study? Tolerable?

by Gopher in

was there ever such at thing in jw families, or is this phrase oxymoronic?.

sometimes the meetings encouraged "variety" in family studies, assigning certain research projects to different family members, or setting up a bible reading as though it were a play.. none of that happened in my family.

it was just dry question-and-answer.

snowbird

"Are you having a regular family study? Is your family progressing spiritually?"

I well remember those questions. The super-theocratic family heads would look all smug and complacent. I would feel lower than a dead dog on Flatwoods Plantation Road because, try as I might, I could never get my oldest daughter interested.

Now, those ones who thought they were doing everything right have to live through the agony of seeing their good little JW kids doing time for drugs, robbery, prostitution, et al. I often wonder what their thoughts are.

Snowbird

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My Sister's Visit

by Sunspot in

most of you know that my family disowned me in 1972 when i was baptized into the wts.

i have only one sibling, a kid sister .

i was thrilled, but nervous, not having a clue how things would go and trying to keep in mind all the things i should not say as well as things i was eager to find out about, concerning the rest of the family i have had no contact with.. the moment we laid eyes on each other (and recovered frm the gigundo hug), it all went just great!!!

snowbird

Sunspot, I'm so happy for you. As I grow older, I realize that the time we have is too short for ill will and grudges.
I try to stay positive and dwell on the good times we had as children whenever I deal with my siblings.
Peace and love,
Snowbird

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