Ask her, if it is so loving, would Jesus do it?
Would Jesus endorse disfellowshipping???
No, he was the one who said, ''Whoever of you is not guilty of sin, cast the first stone''
Ask her how disfellowshipping is loving?
It makes the disfellowshipped one feel UNLOVED, not loved.
Tell her to use her heart and her own BRAIN for a change instead of the WT's thinking.