Posts by Flowerpetal

if you were still in contact with the person you studied with in comming in to the borg.. did you (a) tell him why you no longer feal the same about the borg.

(b)how did he take it.. i personally lost all respect for the man.

basically it was ovbiouse he had seriouse doubts.

Flowerpetal

Why does he care if he's in good standing? It would only be with the congregation anyway. If he is a believer in God, that's who "good standing" should be with, IMHO.

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after watching so many of the flame wars/battles going on on this board, ive reached a conclusion about what may be the biggest issue that faces ex-witnesses: learning how to deal with conflict is a new experience.

in the world of the borg, there is no conflict.

you conform to the group, or you are not part of the group.

Flowerpetal

I got your point SM! I don't think you were waffling a bit.

Another thing I have learned from being on religious discussion boards for about 7 yrs., is that you have to pick your battles.

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My poor non-JW grandmother!! (long)

by starfish422 in

i am so annoyed right now i could just spit.

first, some background info: my brother's mother-in-law (a jw) seems to feel as though she has some special connection to my gramma because they have both lost their husbands.

she's a good 10 - 15 years younger than gramma; and, truth be told, gramma doesn't especially like her.

Flowerpetal

That's is a good letter and the other suggestions are great too.

My mom told me years ago, when she was full of zeal for the "troof", and was trying to "witness" to her sister, who is Roman Catholic, her sister told her "Look, if you want us to still be friends, then stop talking about your religion to me." Well mom got the hint, and valued her love and friendship for her sister more than being a witness, and stopped preaching to her.

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Do You Live For Today or Do You Focus On The Future???

by minimus in

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me-----i live to enjoy my life today.

tomorrow, i could be dead....and you??

?

Flowerpetal

Min:

Flowerpetal, that was very moving.

LOL! Yes, I see now that is was.

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Looking for reference to pre-1981 view of disfellowshipped family members

by CaptainSchmideo in

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can't find it through the normal searches on the 2001 cd (gee, i wonder why...).

thanks in advance!.

Flowerpetal

I remember this article and studying it in the KH. Even though I had no d'fd. relatives, I was encouraged by it because of the way it mentioned how to treat HUMANELY, those who are d'fd. that might need our help once in a while, in certain situations. This is still my attitude today, despite the flip-flop of the attitude 7 years later on how to treat d'fd. ones.

I have to say my congregation is good about elders exhorting df'd ones. I have seen them on many occasion, talk to them as a means of encouragement. Also a sister would drive a d'fd person to the meetings in her car after getting approval by the elders. So I would have to say, if my congregation is like this, there are others as well in this country and around the world. Not all have pharisical attitudes.

Captain, your mother-in-law needs to be brought to realize that the children did not commit any wrongdoing so her refusal to have anything to do with them is shameful.