notverylikely...were you married to my ex-wife?!?
tenyearsafter
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Marital Due and the KS
by yknot ini just did a 'quick' search and 'marital due' doesn't appear to have made the 'list' of issues addressed in the ks!.
did i miss something?????
shouldn't the blantant repeated refusal (not justifiable under illness, ability, or discernable reason) be an issue addressed?.
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Hey fellas, as you got older, into your early 30s, did you start finding women between their late 30s and late 40s attractive?
by miseryloveselders insomedays my dad would look at what i still call an older woman, and he'd call her attractive.
i'd look at him like dude your nuts.
i'm thinking just cuz your older doesn't mean its wrong to find younger women attractive.
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tenyearsafter
I'm with Simon...attractive is attractive...but with that said, when I was in my 40's younger women appealed to me more than women my own age or older. Now that I am in my late 50's, I find the maturity and "low maintenance" aspects of women in their 40's and 50's make them much more attractive in my eyes. I love the great figure and pretty face that embodies many younger women, but that often comes with a price tag I am no longer willing to pay. Now I see attractiveness as encompassing more than just physical beauty...and so many more "older" women have remained beautiful and gained a maturity that enhances their physical attractiveness. Maybe I am gaining some maturity as well in my "golden" years...
Fortunately, I have a beautiful wife who fills all the qualities of attractiveness for me!
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Hey, good news, and some advice needed
by ColdRedRain ini don't know if i've shared this with the board before, but i finally got my driver's license.
i'm one step closer to getting the hell out of my jw family's reach and finding independence.
and even much better news, a friend of a friend offered me a job as a sandwich delivery driver and my boss from my seasonal job offered me a job as a marketer/snow shoveler.
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tenyearsafter
$650 is pretty cheap for a car if it runs...I'd have a mechanic look it over to make sure you won't be looking any major repair bills in the face as soon as you buy it. If you could get a year of use out of it, it would be a good deal.
Good Luck!
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Children - Your experiences of being raised a JW
by jambon1 inyes, it's my favourite subject.
in fact, it fascinates me.
i am also confident that we can learn a lot from peoples experiences & that perhaps even a few families may avoid repeating the same tragic mistakes made by the ill-advised parents of children raised in the jehovah's witness religion.. as some of you will be aware i have had a struggle in the past to free my children of the criminal effects of wts doctrine on the minds of my infant children.
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tenyearsafter
Not all bad, but constant reminders that I was never doing enough and feeling "different" because of holidays, flag salute, etc. made me feel very insecure as a kid. I worried about Armageddon and not surviving, and I worried about getting seriously injured without having blood as a treatment option. I also felt I would never see my 20's, much less be approaching 60!!
It is a wonder I didn't carry all of that baggage with me once I left. I won't say that a little of the old JW personality doesn't creep in to my thinking, but overall I feel pretty healthy.
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The Doctrine of Hell
by Yizuman inis the doctrine of hell a hindrance or a help in witnessing?
many evangelicals are ashamed of this biblical doctrine, viewing it as a blemish to be covered up by the cosmetic of divine love.
but this dishonors gods word.
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tenyearsafter
Tammy,
I think the majority of moderate Christians feel as you do...
Cheers!
TYA
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The Doctrine of Hell
by Yizuman inis the doctrine of hell a hindrance or a help in witnessing?
many evangelicals are ashamed of this biblical doctrine, viewing it as a blemish to be covered up by the cosmetic of divine love.
but this dishonors gods word.
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tenyearsafter
designs,
I agree that the Dante's Inferno view is meant to frighten people into believing, just as destruction of mankind at Armageddon is a JW tool to frighten people into compliance.
I guess the more unpalatable tenants of Christianity would not be very attractive on their surface, but on the flip side, the teachings of love, grace and forgiveness are what attract non-believers to embrace Christianity. True believers don't choose their religion based on fear of Hell any more than you choose to follow the law because you don't want to go to jail. I guess it all boils down to what we are willing to accept as reasonable constraints in our lives. Just as we teach our children that breaking the law can bring serious consequences up to and including a death penalty, we could reasonably teach them about the consequences of breaking "higher" laws. It shouldn't be a threat, anymore than jail or worse is a threat for breaking the law, but rather a knowledge of consequences for choices made.
Anarchy, be it literal or spiritual, is not a positive force for change.
My two cents
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The Doctrine of Hell
by Yizuman inis the doctrine of hell a hindrance or a help in witnessing?
many evangelicals are ashamed of this biblical doctrine, viewing it as a blemish to be covered up by the cosmetic of divine love.
but this dishonors gods word.
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tenyearsafter
I find the idea of a place of literal fiery torment to be a bit inconsistent with a loving God providing a universe of perfection where sin is gone forever...but just as there are consequences for breaking man's laws, I can see Hell as being a condition of eternal separation from God for rejecting him and his laws. Why can't torment be the realization of that separation? In some ways, that realization is like the cognitive dissonance and subsequent anguish a JW experiences when they see that their belief system is wrong.
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Is this weird or what?
by 1Robinella inthe other day i was on the phone with my mother.
she lives about 20 minutes from the rest of the family.
she'll be 73 in november.
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tenyearsafter
My mom still thinks the "brothers" care for her...she is 81 and guess who visits her every week, takes her to doctor's appointments, takes her on vacations, does her shopping, fixes up things around her house, helps her with a little extra money? If you guessed the "brothers", WRONG ANSWER!!!
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To my ex JW ex-husband....if you are out there on JWN
by Coffee House Girl ini often wonder if you are here somewhere amongst the cool avatars and catchy screen names...it killed me 5 years ago when you ran away.....i felt as if i was shattered and would never be whole again.
and if i had stayed in the borg....that would still be the case....alone i was dying inside slowly....the borg was drowning me in duty, loyalty to the organization, isolation, spiritual hunger, thirst for understanding- i had to leave too, i just didn't do it quite as dramatically as you did.. i don't know why you still feel the need to remain "missing" after all these years.... i just want you to know that i was tired of hanging on to the hurt and pain over you...i let it go when i left the borg.
and all i want for you now is peace & i pray that you are okay and safe, wherever you are..... chg.
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Children of 1975
by d inwhat was it like to live in the 1950's 1960's and early 70's as a jehovah witness.when they started to push the 1975 date..
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