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  What is the most powerful album that you have ever listened to?

  by zed is dead in

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  The Wall is great...also loved The Doors, Led Zeppelin and Hotel California
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  NOT on JW.ORG, Jehovah's Witness Elder becomes beloved Catholic Deacon

  by Balaamsass in

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  former jehovahs witness turned deacon bids farewell to local catholicsambria hammel | february 28, 2013 | 3 commentsdeacon jim mickens, reacts to words of gratitude from members of phoenixs catholic retreat for young singles group for his years of service.

  (ambria hammel/catholic sun).

  he was a married deacon who found his calling among catholic singles.

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  I don't think that ex-JW's becoming Catholics is as unusual as some here think. A very active ex-JW, Tom Cabeen, comes to mind...he was an elder at Bethel during the 70's and early 80's, and saw all of the purges at Brooklyn that occured back then. His spiritual journey went to Evangelical Christianity and finally settled in to Catholicism. I believe his story is on freeminds.org.
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  Had to resurrect this after seeing it today...LOL

  by tenyearsafter in

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  courtesy of millions now living are dead from several years ago (thanks to randy for re-posting on free minds:.

  ode to the 192 page book.

  once i wondered what life was all about.

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  Courtesy of millions now living are dead from several years ago (thanks to Randy for re-posting on Free Minds:

  Ode to the 192 Page Book

  Once I wondered what life was all about

  I struggled with faith, I struggled with doubt

  But there it was, the last place I looked

  Spelled out for me, in a 192 Page Book

  Why am I here? What's my direction

  Should I lay on my stomach when I have an erection?

  My mom and dad said, "Son you should look..

  In the pages of this here 192 page book."

  Fresh out of High School, what path to choose?

  My guidance counselor said I should follow my muse.

  But my counselor was worldly, a geniune crook

  Instead I followed the advice in a 192 page book.

  Now I'm older, and my marriage is rocky.

  I'm looking at porn and my figure is stocky.

  I went to the elders and my priviliges they took

  And sent me home with a 192 page book.

  I'm a Senior Citizen now, and I'm in alot of pain

  I'm really pissed that Armaggedon never came

  When I die, where will I be?

  Maybe the answer is on page 193
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  How many of you followed the WTS direction on education years ago and have been screwed by it?

  by Julia Orwell in

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  i'm really interested in this question because i've heard for years that if you forgo further education and go pioneering, when you have a family down the track you will get a good job because jehovah will provide for you because you pioneered.

  as long as i was a kool-aid drinker, even then, i thought, "how does pioneering pay your bills?

  surely education should come first.

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  I started university in 1969, much to the displeasure of my fellow JW's. I caved under the pressure from the congregation to pioneer, with an eye to the system ending in 1975, and left school. I started to wake up a bit in the 80's and went ahead and finished my degree in 1988...better late than never.

  I wanted to make sure my kids didn't fall in to the same trap, and managed to get them both through college with degrees. As a result of my wanting my kids to have an education, I was viewed as "less spiritual" and a father not putting spiritual things first. That would have devasted me in my younger years, but by then I had my foot out the door already. Both my kids have great careers and are living productive lives...both outside of the Borg.

  Unfortunately, my experience growing up in the JW's is very different from many of my friends...the majority of my old cohorts didn't go to college, and ended up in jobs that they probably would not have chosen if they had a chance at higher education. Most went in to the trades and did, and still do, hard physical labor to make a living. They have survived and made it through life, but I know they wonder "what could have been?".
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  Non JW involved with a JW

  by LostInTranslation in

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  i am a non jw who has been doing a fair amount of research on my own in hopes of finding some answers and understanding for my current heartwrenching situation:.

  i have been dating a man for the last while, and we grew very close, very quickly.. .

  suddenly he has pulled away from me, gotten very skittish and says he feels like he is leading a double life, and isn't ready for a relationship.. all the while stating that his impending divorce is the reason for his cold feet, which could be understandable except the marriage was very much "over" long ago.

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  One thing I haven't seen mentioned is whether you have been intimate with this chap, (sorry, don't mean to be overly prying)...if you have, this could be a real problem for the future of the relationship. You mentioned that he has a pending divorce, but in the eyes of a JW he is still married and would be commiting adultery if he was intimate with another person. This could be working on his conscience and creating his sudden change of personality. If he has been a JW for any length of time, this control can be very strong.

  I would love to offer more encouragement, but I am afraid that most JW's, unless they are already mentally "out", will not make good relationship material unless you convert. Good luck in your journey through this chapter of your life...
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  Jehovah's Witnesses believe they are not an American sect - Why?

  by bats in the belfry in

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  the reason being:.

  "all of our teachings are based on the bible, not on the writings of some religious leader in the united states.

  " 1 thessalonians 2:13.. (item #3 on jw.org web page).

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  They don't want to be put in to the same category as Sevnth Day Adventists, Mormons, Christian Scientists, etc. The WTS has always taught that they are teaching directly from Jesus and the Apostles...thus they consider themselves to be directly linked to the First Century Christians.
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  My wife just told me to move out...

  by nolongerconfused in

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  because of "religious" differences, she now wants me to move out and "separate"...i said what biblical grounds does she have for her request?.

  she couldnt respond...she said she'd rather be beaten up by me than have an "apostate" in the house.... this org definitely encourages conditional love.... i don't know what to do...by the way, we dont have children.

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  Thanks jgnat!...I must have missed that acronym when it started being used.
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  I Got disfellowshiped..wana die!

  by Chichi89 in

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  i jus got dissfellowshiped at th last week..i feel like dying..i attended th meetings yesterday and ita ws jus horrible..came back home in tears....... people i used to cal my friends nw cant look me in the eye..so heartbroken confused and giving up on life !.

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  ChiChi89...first of all, welcome!

  The things you are feeling are by design. The disfellowshipping process is meant to make you feel inadequate, unloved and evil. Once you realize that this is a high control mechanism used by the WTS to "keep people in line", it will allow you to transition through it.

  I am getting the feeling you are in your early 20's...this can be a very vulnerable time as we tend to be very sensitive to what others think of us. I was fortunate that I was in my 40's when I was DF'ed, and didn't really care what other people thought. I think if you see friends and family as prisoners of the WTS, you will be better able to work through your feelings. Do not let them make you feel less a person...if you isolate yourself from "wordly" friends, this will be difficult since you will have no other point of reference.

  The one thing I haven't seen is whether you are looking to be reinstated...the answer to that question will have much to do with your "recovery". If you intend to go back, then you will have to play their game...just view it as a game. If you are not going back, then you need to find new friends, interests and gain new experiences. Trust me when I say, things will get better for you with each passing month.

  I wish you the very best in your journey...

  TYA
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  My wife just told me to move out...

  by nolongerconfused in

  1. watchtower
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  because of "religious" differences, she now wants me to move out and "separate"...i said what biblical grounds does she have for her request?.

  she couldnt respond...she said she'd rather be beaten up by me than have an "apostate" in the house.... this org definitely encourages conditional love.... i don't know what to do...by the way, we dont have children.

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  I feel stupid...what does TTATT stand for?
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  "Paradise Earth" Book?

  by Blackbird Singing in

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  anyone out there reading anthony mathenias "paradise earth"?

  incredible read, very interesting, but kind of freaky, so many memories.....blackbird.

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  Just ordered it on Kindle...sounds interesting.