I lost my mother who was a dubber, but only in show, we had talked about it was not gods org. she said as soon as here dad died she was out. But she died before he did.
I remember that an elder came to talk to the family about what was her fav. scripture blablablablablabla.
I had not been to a KH in some time and went out of respect for my mother. I have not steped in to one since. I can tell you I totaly agree with the way Lee Iacocca put it, "I dont care how old you are, when you lose your mother you feel like an orpahn."
The talk was scripted like all dubber things, and it was about converting people who were there that were not cult members. The cult never to miss an opertunity to try to convert even if it is no the back of the dead. I hate them for the damage that they cause to so many people, I use herman melvilles "from the bowels of hell I stab at thee" to explain how I feel about these bastards.
I treat them like they treat us, if you are in the cult I will treat you like scum, when you leave and get your head on right, I will treat you with all the respect I can, untill then you are scum to me if you are a dubber. They did not do one thing to confort me, to help my brothers get through this hard time.
My mother was a writer and some of her books can still be bought on amazon, from the ashes, the color of love, ties that bind. and she had a web site that was up for a couple of years after she died, Some one put on here fav. music, from the movie gone with the wind, I can barly hear it today several years later with out choking up.
I have so much sympathy for people who have lost a loved one and are dubbers, I envey people that have lost someone and were in a support group of a church or some other org that really knows the meaning of love and carring for others.
The society loves them selfs and all others are expendable.
This site and others have helped me in my journey and I thank them, and encourage others in their stage of getting their life back to join this and other sites that help in the damage cults do to people.
I can never get back the time familys spend with family during holidays, and quality time with each other. But I can help others in damage control.