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  Do You Have Any Mixed Emotions Since Leaving The Witnesses?

  by minimus in

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  i don't necessarily look back bitterly over everything i've missed.

  i feel no desire, no missing of the 'friends", the "organization", the "brotherhood".

  i've accepted that life goes on and i must learn from the past.

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  4digitcode

  a ex jw friend of mine from my old congregation told it to me like this:
  
  
  i said " don't you ever miss the brothers we knew?"
  he said "yeah...kind of like the way i miss my friends from high school. I miss them but wouldn't go back to high school to be with them.
  I said 'that's an interesting way of looking at it.'
  He said ' when it was time i just left.like graduation.'
  I said 'well i was kicked out!!'
  he said ' good for you. disfellowshipped. that's like graduating with honors!!'
  
  
  
  
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  Did You Willingly Get Baptized or Were You Pressured Into It?

  by minimus in

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  it was expected of me to get baptized and at 9 i was.

  what about you?

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  4digitcode

  maybe not pressured but firmly reminded i had been studying for a while and 'what is holding you back?'
  
  so i took the plunge a few months later.
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  My meeting with the elders.. I TOTALLY WIMPED OUT

  by AWAKE&WATCHING in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i agreed to speak to 2 elders from the congregation that i was in from when i started my bible study in 1979 to when i disassociated myself in 1990. i was in the same congregation when i got re-instated in 2001 until i got married and moved to another congregation (30 miles away) a year later.

  when i left my husband in aug. of this year i had already quit going to meetings for about 4 months.

  i moved back to the same town i lived in before, of course never going to the hall.. i talked to them because i wanted closure for myself and my best friend and also my husband, both of them thought if i would just have the meeting with the elders that i would be re-adjusted.

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  4digitcode

  i've tried to have that closure you speak of in the same way with some people i know. But it's useless. Most often i always ended up frustrated and they were stronger than ever.
  
  maybe they'll come back and visit you and you'll have a clearer mind to tell them what you really think.
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  have you found it difficult?

  by 4digitcode in

  1. jw
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  to make friends since you're out of the organization?

  maybe these things take time.

  it's hard to establish new friendships when ones i had for years floated away in an instant.

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  4digitcode

  i agree shopaholic. it's just too weird saying you were in a cult. Although i did once and the response was..'oh really?'.....i said 'yeah but i got kicked out!'.... he then said 'ROCK N' ROOOOLL'.......so hey
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  have you found it difficult?

  by 4digitcode in

  1. jw
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  to make friends since you're out of the organization?

  maybe these things take time.

  it's hard to establish new friendships when ones i had for years floated away in an instant.

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  4digitcode

  wow ninja that's very honest of you. i applaud your honesty.
  
  deacon i feel you even though i like hanging out and stuff, i feel like for different reasons we are in the same boat.
  
  V--very good advice thanks.
  free- i may be coming to that apostafest the 1st of december. Thanks all for your replies.
  
  I feel it is hard to make friends because i never had to MAKE friends. they were right there at the hall, in service, etc....
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  have you found it difficult?

  by 4digitcode in

  1. jw
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  to make friends since you're out of the organization?

  maybe these things take time.

  it's hard to establish new friendships when ones i had for years floated away in an instant.

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  4digitcode

  to make friends since you're out of the organization?
  
  maybe these things take time. It's hard to establish new friendships when ones i had for years floated away in an instant.
  
  'worldly' people have the friendships they've had for years, from childhood, from college, etc.I feel like a weird person not having any real friends anymore. i'm friendly and have acquaintances but no real friendships.it's lonely at times.
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  Do Jehovah's Witnesses REALLY Love Others?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  think about it---witnesses proclaim that their identifying mark is love.

  they are the "most loving organization in the world".

  they personify christ and are the only "true christians".

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  4digitcode

  to summer:
  
  are you studying or something with the witnesses and that's why you feel the love bombing?? if you are, stop before they get a hold of your mind!!
  
  i think jehovah's witnesses disdain sinners and what they consider bad association but they absolutely hate apostates!
  
  They don't understand the meaning of unconditional love. If any of my old friends came out i would seriously guard myself until i see they truly don't think that way anymore.
  
  I feel like witnesses give with the right hand and take away with the left.
  They may give you an appearance of love but at the first mistake you're totally discarded. ANd when you're df'ed it's out of sight and out of mind.
  
  Have you guys ever noticed how sometimes they even try to get you to say 'apostate' stuff so they truly have a good reason to not talk to you? i had these friends i tried to call once in a while. One of them always did that. He was always fishing for it randomly saying 'have you been on the internet? or Who are you talking to?' ....what a loser! bless him.
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  Mr. Flipper & Mrs. Flippers 1st Wedding Anniversary Today !!!

  by flipper in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hello my friends .

  well, i just wanted to share our special day with you guys too , because you folks have become close like family to us !

  for mrs. flipper and myself being in our late 40's, early 50's, with all the challenges we had over the years before we met, being with the wrong people who took advantage of our kindness when we were both in other relationships , we truly do feel it is a miracle that her and i finally found each other later in life and found real happiness in a marriage.

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  4digitcode

  congratulations!!
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  I found an old friend who is an Ex-JW!

  by reneeisorym in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  my mom is disfellowshipped ... she works as a bank teller.

  one of my old friends from high school who went to my congregation went by my mom's window and they talked for a while.

  somehow she had her mom call my mom and they even offered to let mom and me visit their vacation home.

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  4digitcode

  i found a friend from my past.
  talkin to him right now.
  He's one of my really good friend snow.
  so good for you.
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  IS YOUR FEAR LESSENING?

  by Dansk in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  many here are afraid to come out into the open with their identity because they still have friends and family in.

  however, it is noticeable that there are many newbies here and more and more exposes on watchtower.

  do you, therefore, feel less intimidated or afraid now?.

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  4digitcode

  you're totally right dansk.
  
  The first few weeks were horrible. I used to be scared i would die unexpectedly and end up in hell.....i know witnesses shouldn't believe in hell but i was so shaken by all the stuff i read on the internet, i didn't know what was real anymore.
  
  i'm sorry about your daughter, it's awful that the society has that kind of power.
  
  we have to be happy now that we're out, we owe it to ourselves. we were unhappy in it for too long!! and who knows maybe we're giving a good witness to the people still in ;)