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  How can I learn to more assertive?

  by Apostate Kate2 in

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  i think this is left over from dubdays, dunno.

  when i need to be assertive i fizzle out.

  my husband was furious when he came home.

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  Bobbi

  Being aware of your behavior is the first step.
  
  Yesterday I got a call from a Sister about a return I need to make(she is a rep for the company in question). In the course of the conversation another sister is brought up who also needs to do a return and I should get in touch with her. I said "no that won't work for me" and left it. The Sister who is also ms super wonderful pioneer, single mom with the world's most irritating child, says "Why Not?" The old me would say, "I Don't want to bother her" the new me said "Because I don't like her".
  
  Super Pioneer then asked "Why" after a long pause.
  
  My answer "Because I can't stand the way she shoves her handicapped son in my face all the time and can't talk about anything else. I have three healthy sons and don't feel the need to discuss hers all the time, so i try to avoid having anything to do with her".
  
  Longer pause
  
  Strangled sound.
  
  Super pioneer then goes back to discussing our business.
  
  I was feeling pretty good about saying what I really felt instead of doing the good Witless thing and bottling up my emotions. Then I realized, If super pioneer had called me back when I first told her about the return, I would have gotten free shipping.
  
  Oh well one battle at a time.
  
  
  Bobbi(hoping no one with a handicapped child takes offense, cause this person is really annoying and is so focused on her kid that everyone else must be too.)
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  What is the last really fun thing you did?

  by Sassy in

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  2. friends

  for me.. i guess it was attending comic-con.. there is still a bit of kid in me.. plus i got to go out with friends to dinner.. and dancing.. .

  had a blast... .

  so what was the last fun thing you did?.

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  I took my kids to the zoo with my best friend and her kids. It was wonderful!!! It was a bit cool out so the animals were really active and it rained a bit so all the other humans ran away. Two Mom's and 6 kids ages 20 months to 7 years, we had so much fun.
  
  Bobbi
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  Fun family study? Tolerable?

  by Gopher in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  was there ever such at thing in jw families, or is this phrase oxymoronic?.

  sometimes the meetings encouraged "variety" in family studies, assigning certain research projects to different family members, or setting up a bible reading as though it were a play.. none of that happened in my family.

  it was just dry question-and-answer.

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  Bobbi

  My poor mother tried so hard. I actually feel sorry for her about that.
  
  My sister and I made it so hard on her. We did the watchtower and mom would get us to read the paragraphs. That was easy for me but my sister is a poor reader and it was really hard on her. She always ended up in tears and mom would get even more stubborn and get the dictionary out if we didn't know the definition of a word.
  
  I have a vivid memory of my sister lying upside down on mom's bed with her head on the floor yelling "I HATE THIS".
  
  Mom gave up.
  
  
  Years later my dad tried to get it going again. Sunday morning, I would get home from work at 9 am, grab a cup of coffee and my books and sit in the livingroom. We didn't talk but we all sat together and underlined that days study article. I actually enjoyed that time with them.
  
  Bobbi (realizing she does have some good memories)
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  The Sh** has hit the fan.....

  by ex-nj-jw in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  mom called me, she got my letter.

  yeah you guessed it, i am the devil himself.

  she told me to never again speak to her, because i'm evil and satan has taken over my mind, body and any common sense she ever gave me .

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  Bobbi

  *hugs* You don't deserve to have a mother like that. Your parents sound so much like mine and they don't know I am fading, that will be a nasty day for sure. Not much you can do, You know how you feel about your kids and you wonder why your own mother doesn't have the same feelings towards you. Very depressing. Not a whole lot I can offer to comfort you other than I feel for you.
  
  Bobbi (who thinks some women are just a incubator and not mothers)
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  Can your kids come to my basement to study the bible?

  by Paralipomenon in

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  on the weekend one of our newer neighbours, noticed my wife and our neighbour outside with all the kids.

  he approached them and said that he wanted to start a religious meeting for children in his basement and wanted to invite ours.

  now my wife has been in religious overdose for the past few weeks and has taken up hissing violently at anything loosely affiliated with religion.

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  The gentleman in question seems quite sincere in his desire to help people. I have talked to him before about his desire to help the young ones before they get in to bad company. I know his church is a downtown Toronto congregation so he does see the worst of the worst. He and his wife are very active in their church and I suppose he was just being nice.
  
  I resent him thinking that my kids need bible education. If he only knew....
  
  
  I don't get the perve vibe off him. I get the old man from a nicer era trying to do right vibe.
  
  
  My neighbour says she didn't deliberately send him in my direction but she could be tricking me, she is sneaky that way. (BTW I hope she reads this, she will pee her pants laughing)
  
  
  Bobbi(still shocked at her own reaction to a nice old man)
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  Congregation concessions made for PO visit

  by loosie in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  minister amos said .

  >>oh and brother and sister co. don't eat such and such food.<< .

  brother co would send us a letter about a month in advance stating his dietary requirements and what sort of accomodations he would prefer.

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  Bobbi

  I remember one congregation that I never saw the CO's wife. EVER. She was sick the entire time he was assigned to our circuit. So, instead of his visit being up-building it was a seriously uncomfortable time, especially when three young beautiful pioneers pooled our cash to take the CO and his wife out to a steak house for supper and only he showed up. SO, what do you talk about with a man twice your age? Nothing, the man didn't say anything all during the meal. It was awful.
  
  The next time he came, my social climbing, drag her husband into the borg by his short-hairs, mother invited them for dinner along with another family. We (my friend, kid from visiting family and myself) were playing pool in the basement with the CO (no wife, again). After I beat him he put down the cue and went upstairs. My father took me aside and said that maybe I should have let him win. I didn't realize i was supposed to let a grown man win just to make him feel good.
  
  
  Years later my MIL invite the CO and wife for dinner at her house. Wonderful idea in theory, but very impractical. My husband and FIL work long hours. So it was just them, MIL and me with my three tired cranky hungry kids. They stayed 30 mins and had to rush off to another persons house. At the time I was hoping someone would give me a little encouragement and to be blown off like that was a stab to the heart.
  
  If you want a real horror story of evil CO madness, get Paralipomenon to post about his favorite CO.
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  Were YOU Raised In "The Truth" or Did You Convert???

  by minimus in

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  i was raised a witness.

  (so i have some excuse).

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  Bobbi

  My mother was baptized in 1980.
  
  I was baptized in 1993.
  
  Father was baptized in 1996. (poor Daddy he never stood a chance.)
  
  Bobbi
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  Past few days have been very emotional for me ,when will it get better ?

  by troubled mind in

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  since my mom passed in january my dad has wanted me to go through her things and clear out her bedroom.

  i procrastinated long enough so the past two days i have been sorting through it all .

  i feel like i have been punched in the gut .

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  It has been 2 years since my Grandmother passed. I had to help my mother go thru her things almost withing hours of her passing due to having get the house on the market.
  
  At the time it was terrible, many tears and much heartache. Now I have a giggle when I think about what my Gramma would have said about me going thru her "unmentionables". Not to mention, the stacks of shoes she had. We found my grandfathers hearing aid still in his bedside table and he had passed a few years before her. We found a shirt she borrowed from me when I was teenager tucked into a cedar chest with some very racy nighties and the dresses she wore to her children's weddings.
  
  In time the pain dulls and the good memories surface. Cry, it helps.
  
  Bobbi (wishing gramma was still around to play cards with)
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  When will the knee jerk reactions stop?

  by Bobbi in

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  i answered my door yesterday and there was one of my neighbors.

  he has a couple of boxes with him and says hi, just call me santa".

  he had gotten some extra stuff from him work and thought we could use it ( cereal and granola bars) .

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  Bobbi

  I should also mention that my adoptive non JW family has arranged for me to celebrate my birthday with one of their daughters. So, for the first time in my memory, I am celebrating my B-day and I have to buy a gift for Amber as well. I am completely at a loss on how to behave and what to get. I am also very touched to have such great friends.
  
  Bobbi
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  When will the knee jerk reactions stop?

  by Bobbi in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i answered my door yesterday and there was one of my neighbors.

  he has a couple of boxes with him and says hi, just call me santa".

  he had gotten some extra stuff from him work and thought we could use it ( cereal and granola bars) .

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  I answered my door yesterday and there was one of my neighbors. He has a couple of boxes with him and says Hi, Just call me Santa". He had gotten some extra stuff from him work and thought we could use it ( cereal and granola bars)
  
  The funny part was my reaction. Because my kids answered the door with me ( little fiends wouldn't want to miss anything) I almost said "We don't believe in Santa". Last year i would have said it and now I realize how arrogant it sounds.
  
  So when will these automatic reactions stop? Am I doomed?
  
  Bobbi