i made the same experience. MOST jws and exjws just dont care about the religion at all. some are "in" because they always were and some are out because they dont wanna live with the rules anymore but often think its the right way to live still. THEY DONT CARE! i dont get it either. they live their life without thinking about right or wrong. someone tells them whats right and the maximum they decide is whether they want to do what someone said or not. i would love to follow rules if it would feel right to me and i dont have an intention to break any. im of the worst kind of apostates... i want to find the truth and not sex, drugs and rock'n'roll.
under JWs there are virtually no bible students anymore. thats my impression and with every gathering/book study i visit this comes clearer and clearer. even the most made up doctrine in the revelation book is swallowed and forgotten in a nanosecond. "next section please".
braindead, thats what i think about it.
when it makes me a nerd to think about it im glad to be one :P