I'd focus on how she is feeling if I were you. Mention it doesn't seem very Christlike to keep a repentant person outside the congregation. That if anything its very un-christlike. Here's the twisted thing about Dfing, alot of does depend on who you are, your social status in the cong. etc. I've known people who've been made to wait at least a year, (like myself) and people who are forgiven before then, including admitted pedophiles, guess it helps that they were elders and good buddies with the BOE. It's sickening and disgusting. Good luck with it all.
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My Wife Has Been Rejected by the Borg....
by XxJazzxX inwhen i first came on to the jwd, i mentioned that my wife was df'd jw seeking reinstated.
well, just a few days ago she has been rejected.
it seems the elder's needed more time to decide.
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Digderidoo's final thread....
by digderidoo indigderidoo's final thread (probably).... i intend this to be my final thread, unless jwd continues in some form or i need major advice.. this is not a goodbye thread, as i will still post and pm, i will also enter chat if it comes into existence.
after the 'announcement' it has made me think about the time i have spent on jwd and where i will go from here.. i have looked at other sites and have posted on some of them.
but with the closing down of the site, i have asked myself do i really want to start posting jw related issues elsewhere?
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sweetstuff
Congrats on moving forward with your life Paul, a law degree, very impressive. The world needs more lawyers...just kidding! :) Good for you for going after what you want and keeping your sobriety. I wish you all best.
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Come & Play! ~ JWD DATING GAME ~ U.S. Version
by Magick ini haven't been here for a while, and i'm out of the loop as far as what is happening on this board...not sure why it's closing, or when.
since, it seems like the end of the world as we know it, is anyone up for a good pairing off before we go?
how about writing a personal ad?
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sweetstuff
Hehehe, its cute watching you try to get your "boys" outta the frying pan tijkmo, lol.
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Witnesses stay for the convention and my wife tells them were divorcing!
by Witness 007 inshe told me hours before their arrival that she wants us to divorce....i asked her to not tell them as it would spoil our few days together and cause stress for all of us...she agreed.....and then told them on day 2????
never listens!
i was sooo damn stressed out i was bearly holding it together.
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I only have one question..why the heck would you allow witnesses to come stay for the convention when all this is going on in your marriage? If it was me, I'd have cancelled and explained it was not a good time. If they needed help finding a place to stay, I'd have helped em. But then, I'd never have someone staying at my house so they could attend a convention. Eww, the afterhours convo about the sessions would be unbearable!!
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If the WATCHTOWER SOCIETY announced it will be closing in five months.....
by journey-on ini think the witnesses would react just like us jwders have reacted with simon's announcement.. they would cuss and discuss and speculate, then many would splinter off quickly in a hurried effort to join another group and choose a name like "watchtower lite" or "jw ii" or "the new and improved jws" where they would debate the whys and wherefores of the wts and what went wrong.
there would be weeks of discussion about the various leaders of the old organization where some would openly criticize and condemn their leadership and motives.
some would join the group where their trusted elders went.
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I'd be jumping for joy, my parents would be floundering around, completely lost because they have invested their entire lives into the WTS. I could see a large amount of depression looming for displaced jws. I don't see that happening with a forum, however, because we can all turn off the computer and walk away. For jw's it isn't a segment of their lives, it IS their lives. I don't think the two are really comparable. IMO
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Come & Play! ~ JWD DATING GAME ~ U.S. Version
by Magick ini haven't been here for a while, and i'm out of the loop as far as what is happening on this board...not sure why it's closing, or when.
since, it seems like the end of the world as we know it, is anyone up for a good pairing off before we go?
how about writing a personal ad?
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sweetstuff
LOL, tis ok Majestic, I'll live. Sweatstuff tread? Btw, I'm not playing the dating game, but reading this thread is fun!
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Holy cow, I missed alot on this thread, for the record, I'm not getting a room with anyone on this thread! LOL And Majestic,, umm just because you had the experience of a clingy baggage ridden ex-jw does not mean or imply that all of us lady ex-jws are even REMOTELY like that. There alot of wonderful, fabulous women in that category of ex-jw. Thank you very much! :D
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My soon Ex- wife acts crazy sometimes! Wants me to live across the road!
by Witness 007 inmy wife and i now are organising seperation....she wants me to buy the house directly across the street from her!!??
the house is nice...polished floor boards etc.
i think she wants me there for security as she is afraid to be alone.
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Stop letting her lean on you then Wit. Let her fall or succeed on her own. Don't lend her money, don't help her out. It's not like you two share children, cut all ties, on all levels and move on.
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My soon Ex- wife acts crazy sometimes! Wants me to live across the road!
by Witness 007 inmy wife and i now are organising seperation....she wants me to buy the house directly across the street from her!!??
the house is nice...polished floor boards etc.
i think she wants me there for security as she is afraid to be alone.
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Ok, wit, is she still sort of "in" the WTS?? The reason for her wanting you to move next door might be more underhanded than you think. Perhaps she wants you to live next door so she can easily get evidence on you for a "scriptual" gag, divorce. Or to get you Df'd as a payback of some kind. Now, I'm not sure what the case is, but if she is "in" at all, be very wary. She may be trying to set you up and make herself look like the poor victim. Just a thought.
As for the crying when she saw you reading the dating section of the paper, that could be a few things. Control (wanting you to want her, even if she doesn't want you), confusion (she still feels love but still wants out), pain (coming to grips with losing someone you've shared your life with)..etc.
My honest guess not knowing either of you, is that if she is upset, right or wrong, she really doesn't want to end the marriage but feels she needs to, for whatever reasons (not saying she has good reason to, but she may believe she does) and is clinging onto some hope that you'll "show" her that there is still hope. Seeing you reading the dating section, might be confirming to her that you really don't want to make it work. Yes it sounds twisted, but then she sounds very messed up emotionally. Ever heard that old expression, if you love something, let it go, if it comes back to you, its yours, if it doesn't, it never was? Could be that in some warped way, that's what she is doing.
I guess what I am trying to say, is perhaps she's felt unloved, or unhappy in the marriage and suspected the same of you. So, she might be on a self conscious level even, pushing the envelope to see how you react. Will you fight for your marriage or throw in the towel? Confirming her fears and doubts all along that you didn't "really love her". I'm not suggesting that's a healthy thing to do, or that you didnt' really love her, I'm just offering another possibility of her actions/reactions. -
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random smartassness
by [crazypanda] ini just wanna be a big ol random smartass.
^^ anyone else feel that way?
lol
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What a cold thing to say! You've hurt her feelings!
Aww as you deflate her, tell it, it will all be alright in the morning.