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  I went to a meeting in my underwear!

  by tsunami_rid3r in

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  last night i went to the meeting in my underwear in my dream.

  what if i did go to a meeting in my underwear?

  would the ministerial servants or elders do anything about it?

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  oompa

  HMMM? Is it a thong? If not, are there visible skidmarks? Is there writing on it such as "Home of the Whopper" or "Mini-Me"?

  there is lots to consider...oompa
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  better offf dead?

  by matt_holgate in

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  ive been visiting for some time, but until now havent said much.

  i would appreciate some observations on the latest episode between me and my jw mother, like whether this is something i should ignore or try to resolve.. i was dfd at thirteen, five years ago, for being a gay atheist.

  i didnt become homeless only because my mother was/is ill with ms, we maintained a just workable relationship so that i could stay and help her look after herself.. the last three years relations became more tense as i began to piece together what had happened since she joined the org when i was about 3. she demanded yesterday to know why, and i let her have it.. i told her how fucking petrified of life i was as a kid, hearing about armageddon and the world.

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  oompa

  “maybe it would be better if I did die.” I assume her logic being that I’d have the hope of a resurrection and a chance to repent of my sins that way. Regardless of the control the cult has on her, that was I something I never expected to hear. I didn’t even get angry when I heard it. I just left.

  Matt, so sorry for the problems WT has directly caused you. Your mother of course is disturbed, and probably will never not be disturbed. The 4-year old comment is as unbelieavble as the one above. You will only be able to deal with this by totally "putting her and her thoughts in a box" and never ever looking inside. You can certainly leave and no one would blame you, but I have a feeling your sense of decency and responsiblity will keep you assisting her.

  just don't try to care so much...oompa
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  What's the point of it all anyway??

  by Maddie in

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  i am getting to wonder what the point of life is anyway.

  are we just a product of evolution with the sole purpose of survival?

  i feel so confused and anxious right now.

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  oompa

  It is normal to feel washing machine head once living at JWD.

  Yes we are going weird.

  I am pretty much saying--- to hell with everything...there is no way to really know anything deep anymore.

  lots not figured out....oompa
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  "Honey, how was the meeting?"

  by OnTheWayOut in

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  do any of you with spouse or close family in ask the question?

  regularly?.

  i often ask the wife that question.

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  oompa

  "I can continue to put up with her," was perhaps not a fair comment but I said it so I will live with it.
  She currently can continue to put up with me. That is also true. While I have JW issues that strain our
  relationship, she has plenty to complain about concerning me. I won't get into it, but it's there.

  OTWO---you are a good honest man. We all say things at times we really may not mean in earnest. Any marriage is better if each party can "put up" with the other when it is warranted.

  Now, back on topic...My question asking was to get my wife to think of course, and although it may get old, maybe she will realize the meetings are getting old (without me).

  willing to try anything....oompa
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  Faders-do you still enjoy old JW friends? Nothing in common?

  by oompa in

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  as a pretty new fader with no friendships other than jw's, i spend virtually all time alone, or with my jw wife.

  i have little in common now with her or old friends.

  at least the old friends and i liked biking (both kinds), golf, hiking, the beach, camping, tennis, boating, fishing, football (tv).

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  oompa

  Thanks all for your sincere replys and insight. It is depressing that "friends" you have had for 30 years, that you grew up with, now seem so distant. I have a bad feeling these friends that you have shared so many experiences with are somewhat irreplaceable.

  not the best part of freedom....oompa
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  "Honey, how was the meeting?"

  by OnTheWayOut in

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  do any of you with spouse or close family in ask the question?

  regularly?.

  i often ask the wife that question.

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  I can continue to put up with her.

  Wow, that's a great discription of a wholesome happy marriage, kind of like mine, and yes there is a money/practical factor that is bothersome to consider. I hate to say it, but that little comment seems to overide just about every other positive point about your marriage. I was asking "how was the meeting" and "so what did you learn today" but as another poster pointed out, this gets old for her too.

  good physical is good though....oompa
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  My son and daughter...making me proud...

  by Billzfan23 in

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  my 9 year old son decides back in april that the memorial is going to be his last meeting at the kingdomhall.

  so... he refuses to go to the meetings, and when forced to go - leaves the meeting right after the song and starts walking to my mother-in-law's house a couple of blocks away where he knows my sypathetic father-in-law (a raging catholic, not a jw) will have sympathy on him and say "nevermind, just leave him here with me when you go to the meetings from now on.

  " the next week - the garbage man visits to collect the trash in front of the house - and my son had taken all of his meeting clothes, pants, suit jackets, ties, dress socks, etc... and left them all curbside for the trash man to pick up.

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  oompa

  What I find kind of ironic is that your ex is going to be viewed as a bad parent by JW's and non-JW's. I see her getting very depressed over this no-win situation with the kids.

  wait till they are teens....oompa
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  What a difference a year makes.

  by Billzfan23 in

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  last year on this date... i was burned out as an elder, school overseer, book study overseer, etc... my monday nights were shepherding calls, phone calls, judicial committe meetings.

  tuesday nights i conducted the theocratic ministry school and usually had a service meeting part.

  wednesday nights i had a bible study with a family from the territory.

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  oompa

  If you did all this and got to this positive position in your life in just one year....I definately hate you!!!

  jealous is not enough....oompa
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  "-And your *personality* will be your salvation" ?

  by Awakened07 in

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  i remember thinking about this when i was still active, but was starting to doubt things i guess:.

  -i had some friends that were naturally very outgoing and 'vibrant', and loved to conduct talks, loved the field ministry, loved pioneering and so on.

  very upbeat, very energetic all the time, both "on- and off-the jw -'clock' ".

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  oompa

  they'd probably be doing something equally "crazy", like backpacking around the world,

  Hold on just a sec here Awakey! This sounds like a pretty good goal to me. Especially if you could link it to a good cause and raise some money. I would prefer to ride my motorcycle as much as possible though.

  send money and I will consider it....oompa
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  How long will Watchtower last??

  by chuckyy in

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  how long do you estimate that the watchtower org.

  until the next failed prophecy?, or will it go on until armageddon ( only kidding)???.

  chukky.

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  oompa

  July 17, 2084 at 6:66 pm exactly.

  did the research so you don't have to......oompa