OTWO I do not have a good feeling about this, and feel you need to put this matter in the old Gore "lock Box." After your extra info about your moms history I see she probably:
1. possibly used to think for herself
2. got a husband and borg to think for her and stopped thinking
3. started thinking and got out of borg/husband
4. got another husband to think for her
5. not enough direction, so back to borg to think for her again
She may not want or be able to have her own mind. If her current husband was perhaps more assertive, she would not be back in borg or would leave. He may be your only hope. Would he control her thinking better than borg? Let's face it there a lot of nice people in borg, and we may have to accept them for what they are. You might have some chance on reconnecting to something big like the 1975 disapointment, but that should have already happened with the GENERATION of 1914 going out the window, unless she missed it.
good luck......oompa....you will need it