I feel the same way. I have been out for 21 years and still thank God everytime I think about it.
What a relief!
sacrebleu
after being out of that faith for about 2 years now, i look back and can't believe how they controlled so many aspects of my life.. we let them in and like a deadly disease they just spread and take over.. what we could and couldn't believe, who we could and couldn't associate with, not allowed to play sports, watch what close you were, don't make friends with that one, do this, don't do that, read this, answer this way, sell that mag, contribute to our fund, contribute to the magazines, contribute to building, give us your precious time and you get zippo for it.. and we let them!!!!.
man i'm so happy i'm out - not a day goes by that i don't celebrate my new life, my new friends, my new interests..
viva!
I feel the same way. I have been out for 21 years and still thank God everytime I think about it.
What a relief!
sacrebleu
REAL Friendships with REAL people.
A REAL relationship with my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ who is not now and never will be Michael the arcangel.
The freedom to pray any old time I want without worry about God not liking it. ( I was told by an elder one time that I shouldn't fall asleep talking to Jehovah!)
Who among us parents would be mad if our children wanted to talk to us as they fell asleep?
Too many more blessings to name. And yes, these freedoms were bought with a price. But that's ok.
sacrebleu
finally, right.
ok. i know this jw lady that i talk to.
she doesn't know i am an exjw.
Wonderful, wonderful news!
Great!
sacrebleu
in my search to find more info on the sexual abuse of my dead brother, i am wondering if there are any other forums like this?
he had told me over the years about a forum he was reading and would share things with me from time to time.
i have searched the membership lists here and i can't find him registered under any nicks that i know him by - .
Gringa,
You say you looked for him by any/all the nicknames you might have known him by.
My sisters would NEVER guess my nickname here. It is like nothing I have ever been known by or called. That is the point. Anonymity.
Maybe his is the same way?
sacrebleu
check out this conversation i had with a "sister".
sister: the last man i loved proposed to me.
he offered me everything he had.. ffm: and what happened?.
Snakes,
I was NEVER that crazy. I married my non-JW fiance. It was one of the things that helped me get out.
The elders taught the women that they should kiss thier husband's feet, THEN tell me to lie to my hubby about field service and stuff.
He didn't want me to use our car as a service car group car AND he didn't want me going from door to door ALONE. One time an elder insisted I do both. I just went out in service less and less, missed more weekend meetings since my non-JW liked to go out of town on the weekends, etc.
But to get back to the point, NO, I was NEVER that crazy. No one is going to tell me who I can or can not marry. That is so stupid.
But then I wonder if that's why WE get out. WE would not allow our lives to be that controlled. ??
I also think I did not tend to confuse God with the religion. They are not one in the same.
sacrebleu
worst months: .
november....usually no snow and no heat, and it's dark.
march.......that's when you get more snow storms and the winter just won't go away...... .
I don't like December.
Both of my marriages broke up in December.
I injured my back in December of 1997 and have never been able to work since.
My mom died in December.
My favorite months are probably May and October.
They are the prettiest and the most temperate.
sacrebleu
http://gretachristina.typepad.com/greta_christinas_weblog/2007/10/atheists-and-an.html.
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What music?
Dang, she needs to calm down before she explodes.
sacrebleu
i'm really sick and tired.. yes, sick and tired of the weirdos, sickos, the mentally ill that need to be institutionalized for their own good, the homeless, the beggars, the drug addicts, the free clinic waiting rooms full of sick people who could be carrying tb and the like.. so i quit my job, and i'm starting a new one tomorrow.
i'm leaving one job for another.. actually, seeing all those things was too painful after a while.. what, you think i was leaving jwd?.
warlock .
I've noticed that no matter what job I had there were always weirdos. Unless you work in a psych ward and then they really ARE tough to deal with.
Good luck with your new job, but remember, No matter where you go, there you are.
Don't ask me what that means. It sounds intelligent. lol
Good luck
sacrebleu
i have been reading the forum the past couple of days, actually i am finding it hard to pull myself away.
i stumbled upon it by accident - searching some thing lead to another and another and here i am.. 3rd generation ex-jw here.
got out fairly young.
i have been reading the forum the past couple of days, actually i am finding it hard to pull myself away.
i stumbled upon it by accident - searching some thing lead to another and another and here i am.. 3rd generation ex-jw here.
got out fairly young.
Welcome gringa,
I am sorry for your loss. And while any loss is truly personal and no one can "know how you feel" I can sympathize(sp). I lost all three of my brothers to suicide. I was only close to the last one. But each of the deaths diminished my mother and hurt our family.
Two of them had been to Viet Nam which I am sure caused a lot of their pain. But the last one that I was really close to had effects of agent orange, his business was failing and he was heart broken over our other two brothers leaving that way AND the fact that the JWs had torn our family literally right down the middle. Three kids in, three kids out. My poor mom.
That was almost ten years ago. He was a Christian but had so many problems...
Anyway, I refuse to say, "I know just how you feel" because that is so lame. NO one knows how anyone else feels BUT I can try to understand and definitely welcome you here.
sacrebleu