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  The Good Food Thread

  by MrsCedars in

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  my inspiration comes from the ingredients i have at hand, very often leftovers, and also home grown produce, herbs and spices.

  i still have a lot to learn, but i have come a long way since i first started cooking for mr cedars.. i think the first recipe on this thread should by the one that oodad has posted on other thread.... .

  shrimp scampi.

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  AnneB

  There are cooking boards for this kind of thing.
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  Help for a father of two young JW's

  by never a jw in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i have never been a jw, but my wife, two brothers and their wives and children are.

  also, most of my wife's brothers and sisters are jw's.

  since i have a close relationship with both my family and my wife's family you can deduce that most of my friends and associations are with jw's.

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  Make your daughter independent of the Witnesses: encourage her to go to college or university, to train for a career, to make life choices for herself that do not involve WT. I realize this may be difficult now that she has decided to join the organization, but she's young, and being part of a "divided" family may be a saving grace, she can "blame" you if any JW objects! :)

  Desensitize: find ways to speak about disfellowshipping as though it were a "normal" part of living, teach her that at some point individuals will clash, and the result may be that those with power (not authority!) try to cause unbearable shame in efforts to control the life of another. Remind her that no human is her judge, that when (not if, but when) it happens to her, that she should stand firm (a WT expression), never relinquish control of her life to another human, and that you will support her no matter what anyone thinks, says, or does to mar her reputation. If you start now, while she is only 16, your daughter may not feel as alone as Elders will want her to feel if she should happen to be scrutinized in the future.

  Additionally, if you have the wherewithal, make it clear to her and to any others that under no circumstances will you allow your daughter to be "counseled" without you being present, and that includes judicial matters. This is your legal right since she is not of age to be considered a legal adult. If you've been reading this board for any length of time you may already know of the horror stories, the intimidation, the extremely intimate and personal questions that are often and inappropriately asked during these sessions. Make no mistake; there is no such thing as an unintentional session; if a JW gets called in to talk with the brothers there will be intimidation and manipulation, no matter what the issue or how removed from it she may be. Train your daughter to say that she must get permission from her father before she is allowed to meet in closed session. (That one makes sense in a non-JW situation as well.)

  If possible, slowly build the notion that being involved with JW's is an open-exit choice, that just as she made the choice to join, she can make the choice to leave whenever she finds that her views and theirs are no longer compatible. Don't let WT be the only one "indoctrinating" her on that point! The main message here is that she directs her life, that you are there to assist her until she reaches full maturity, and that there is no shame in trying out various options then letting them go when she finds they no longer fit.

  The best hope you have is that she is still young and has lots of changes left to go through. The goal here is to let her know, in advance, that you are there to love and support her as she learns to stand on her own two feet. If she has that fixed in the back of her mind I doubt that she will put up with WT for the long haul.

  Best wishes,

  AnneB
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  "You are so Focussed on The Past that you can't see the Blessings in front of your Eyes!"

  by BluesBrother in

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  that statement has been made to me recently - i think it is a sound-bite from the new dvd about jerusalem's fall.. hmm.. i need to reflect on a reply .

  several thoughts come to mind but it has to be constructive and form a reasoned argument rather than a smart answer.. what blessings?

  are we unreasonably obsessed with the past?

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  Why do you want to answer an unreasoning comment with a constructive statement? Isn't that the same as casting pearls before swine?
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  It happened!!!! my first HOLE in ONE!!!!

  by dreamgolfer in

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  july 4th 2012 - 201 yards par 3 with my big driver.

  i can die happy!.

  i got mine!.

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  You know what I like about your post? That you said "My first...". Great attitude!

  Congrats! from AnneB
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  To the Household of God, Israel, and Those Who God With...

  by AGuest in

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  the greatest of love and peace to you all.

  on another thread i posted what i stated was my last post.

  that wasn't true; this is my last post on jwn.

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  Vaya con Dios (as I know you will).

  Much love from AnneB
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  How do I hear/feel God?

  by doinmypart in

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  this is a serious question.. i know people that hear/feel god (and see postings about people's experiences), but i have not experienced this.

  i have never heard anything audibly (or otherwise) nor "felt" anything inwardly.. i've prayed, read, quieted my thoughts, etc...but still nothing..

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  The Humbling of Anthony

  by Duncan in

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  i didn’t really care for anthony very much.

  at the time of this story he was 13 or 14 years old, a clever and precocious kid down the hall.

  he was extremely zealous about the truth and took it, and himself, very seriously.

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  Anthony had that precious "theocratic" quality, freeness of speech.

  He'll be fine.
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  Woman jumps into pool during Long Beach DC!

  by puffthedragon in

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  http://youtu.be/dht3cedgg6e.

  watch the right hand side of the screen.. .

  i am trying to imbed it but can't make it work.

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  She probably had to sit through one too many summer conventions! Then the thought came: "I wonder if I could..."
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  The Vent of Whathehadas

  by whathehadas in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i wish i could go back and get away from all the time i spent sitting in those kingdom hall seats.

  i wish i could go back and take back all those comments made for the watchtower and book study.. i wish i could go back and take back all the money spent on buying suits and book bags.. i wish i could go back and take all the money......no wait....some of the money that i placed in the donation box.. i wish i could go back and hang with all the friends labeled as bad association.. all in all, i hate that orginization.

  the time spent there worrying about my "spirituality" and trying to be happy amongst fakeness.

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  Of course the "good" that can be found in WT (and individuals who are JW's) can be found elsewhere. The point is....we weren't "elsewhere" or able to get there, or we would have *been* there! We were all doing the best that we understood at the time, with our individual limitations, be they material, intellectual, etc., and WT is where we ended up. That's why I say I don't regret anything: it's where I was, it's what I was able to access, it had "bad" and "good" just like any other option (whether or not those options were accessible to me in my particular circumstances at the time). It isn't about the cost; people "pay" whatever they have to when their backs are against a wall, and that's how we were...or we wouldn't have taken the WT Way. So, having done it, why gripe? Grieve, maybe, but not gripe. Take it for what it was (good and bad both acknowledged to the degree appropriate for each) and move on. Or complain, crumble, and be crushed. Your choice.
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  untitled

  by Gorbatchov in

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  yesterday i visited the local congregational meeting.

  some elders did parts of the meeting.

  i mentioned they acted tired, worn out and on routine.. they walked slowley, tired to the stage and did so walking from the stage.. it seems they are fed up with it.. gorby.

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  Typical propaganda, Gorby... Slow and tired do not mean fed up. They mean Slow, and Tired.