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  Irritated with my sister in law who is trying to claim my baby girls clothes

  by Butterflyleia85 in

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  2. family

  irritated with my sister in law.

  ok so i'm really happy and excited about having my baby girl january 31st!

  the same week i learned my sister in law is having a baby due in october but will be having it delivered september.

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  AnneB

  Your problem isn't your relatives. Behaving as though people can be trusted or taken at their word is "avoidance". You know when people are not trustworthy (relatives or not). As long as you act like they are you will be used and abused.

  "Nice" is not a positive. "Nice" placates. "Nice" lives in its own immature bubble.

  As our friends in the WTBTS put it: "Awake!" We're not living in Paradise. You're going to have to defend yourself (not just from relatives), so study up on topics like "manipulation" and "masochism". There's where you'll learn what to say and how to come across as someone who can't be walked all over.

  Do it now, before you have the baby. Then you can model appropriate behavior as your child grows. That can only benefit both of you.

  Best wishes,

  AB
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  If you tried to get your doctrinal or historical questions answered by an elder in your cong...

  by NeverKnew in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  what was the result?

  i have seen answers strewn throughout many posts but never consolidated.

  this is important.

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  AnneB

  pulled out all the "baby" literature (brochures/pamphlets) to start the discussion.

  I've seen this happen many times. Maybe they want to start on square one then build again so they can fill any gaps in their propaganda platform 'cause obviously they didn't completely BS you the first time.

  Congrats on having the backbone to dismiss them.

  AB
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  If you tried to get your doctrinal or historical questions answered by an elder in your cong...

  by NeverKnew in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  what was the result?

  i have seen answers strewn throughout many posts but never consolidated.

  this is important.

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  AnneB

  I tried...once. One Sunday after the meeting I asked an elder how to reconcile two conflicting bits of information in the literature. The elder became agitated and told me that he and another elder would be by that evening, that I should make a written list of my questions. I came home and did what he asked, although I couldn't understand why he wanted "a list" when I had only one question!

  Well, the two elders appeared at the appointed time. When I brought out my little piece of paper with the question written on it, the elder wouldn't take the paper, saying "we know all about your questions". I was dumbfounded, as I hadn't discussed whatever it was with anyone, hadn't even been given the opportunity to tell him, and yet he already knew? That was my first inkling that the elder wasn't going to help me figure things out.

  There in my own living room, in the presence of my "unbelieving" spouse and my children, both elders ranted for about five minutes, then left. My family just stood there staring at one another, none of us able to comprehend where things had gone wrong. It wasn't until years later, when I found this board and read the experiences of others, that I realized that they probably thought they had an apostate on their hands. If that's what they thought they were so wrong; at that stage of my life I wanted nothing more than to be the very best servant of Jehovah that I could be, hence my request for their assistance. I had no idea...
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  Hello from Totally ADD. I am back.

  by TotallyADD in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hopfully many of the older ones do.

  since our move to wild's of pa many things have happen to my wife and i. our donut business went out the window.

  we closed it last july.

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  AnneB

  Glad to "see" you have returned!

  Gardens are healthier than donuts anyway...

  Best regards to you and yours,

  AnneB
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  I am miserable...am I crazy?

  by Cagefighter in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  as a born in jw my outlet was always music.

  my parents let me do piano lessons (from another sister) and when i was 14 i lobbied hard enough for a guitar.

  i formed a decent punk/emo type in high school behind my parents back.

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  AnneB

  There are a lot of people in your situation. Try keeping your job (even though you hate it) until you can sell the agency. Buy a guitar as soon as you can afford one (and not a real cheap one; they sound horrible!), then play at open mics in the evenings for your own enjoyment and to build your name. After a year or so, evaluate your options once again.

  One step at a time gets you to where you want to be. Leaping without a landing place only brings trouble.

  Sincere best wishes,

  AB
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  why do I write?

  by Separation of Powers in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i must admit, i feel rather like winston smith from orwell's 1984. i sit here in front of the image of a blank piece of paper on my computer screen.

  i am alone in my study, alone, but like winston, i am hesitant to write on this blank piece of paper, fearful that i am under the watchful eye of the telescreen.

  it is a form of paranoia, i guess, a paranoia that is synonymous with being in the organization; an organization that worries more about perception than substance.

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  AnneB

  But you didn't say anything.
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  NEW NWT'S Distributed at 2013 Conventions?

  by TheSnarkyApologist in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  chatter on the street is that there exists a very high possiblility of the new newworld translation being distributed.

  it comes from a reliable sources, but who knows.

  has anyone heard anything about this?.

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  If there is a new Bible, they will have one to show from the platform, then say they'll be taking orders for it at the KH and to watch for the shipping annoucement in the KM. They're not going to hand out tens of thousands of copies on a donation basis, especially when they can get top dollar by leaning on the publishers when they try to place an order.
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  Sign Languae is a True Language,Urgues Prof. Harlan Lane

  by Scott77 in

  1. social
  2. current

  professor harlan lane recently published a book that looked at whether deaf people have their own culture.

  lane, a psychology professor at northeastern university, has been studying deaf culture and linguistics since the 1970s, ever since he witnessed a deaf duo conversing and was stunned to learn of the depth and complexity of asl.

  here is his interview wth the boston globe... .

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  The question shouldn't be "is it a true language?" but "is it a natural, or artificially constructed, language?". Both exist and are valid, so what's the fuss?
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  Snarky Question

  by earthfire in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so i have a question that's been bothering me for years.

  i know this is extreme but i think you'll see where i'm going with this.

  so ex-jw's are evil we're on "satan's side" as my dad told me and we aren't worth a hello.

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  AnneB

  Numbers 14:9? ("...do not YOU fear the people of the land, for they are bread to us.")
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  Video of 3-4 year child out in service

  by usualusername in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i just stumbled uopn this 79 second video on youtube and find it quite disturbing.. is it just me?.

  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=14cwutvv9ya.

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  I wouldn't worry, that kid already knows he doesn't want to do it. The mom pushing him is going to be his ticket out.