I suspect that "BDD" is this: http://www.adaa.org/understanding-anxiety/related-illnesses/other-related-conditions/body-dysmorphic-disorder-bdd
Posts by AnneB
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19Help me Plz (teen issues)
by Demokan ini have bdd, it isn't just the meetings it's everything.
i don't want to go but i feel guilty of not going cause he said everyone is wondering where i am, but i dont want anyone to see my face... and tomorrow they said they'll call me to make sure im going but it's so tough.
also how do i cancel talks thx.. .
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AnneB
1. No, you are not being cynical, but remember, it's a Publishing Org and, as such, they want live bodies, not dead ones.
2. There are requirements for graveyards. You can Google that phrase and get more information if you so desire.
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plz define ambient abuse
by losingit ini've read the various threads on the topic here.
and i've read stuff online about the topic.
but honestly, i do not understand it!
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AnneB
To begin, Google the definition of "ambient." You will find that it means "all around you" or "related to your immediate surroundings." Think of it as the air you breathe and then you'll see that it's not a category of abuse like "physical", "mental," or "emotional." Ambient abuse is the general atmosphere of your environment, the stuff that happens all the time, so often and so subtly that you don't even notice it, just like you don't notice the air that you breathe.
Now go back to your first post, yes, the one you yourself wrote, and read it with the above information in mind. Your first paragraphs describe "ambient abuse." There's more to it, of course; this is simply a starting point for your comprehension.
When you live daily with people saying or thinking negative things about you, when people routinely undermine you or attribute thoughts and actions to you that you never even contemplated, when information (real or imagined) is shared about you and it affects your relationships, you are living in an environment of ambient abuse. When people make excuses or give alternative explanations instead of clarifying or speaking with accuracy, that's ambient abuse. The bottom line is that any time anyone tries to control or manipulate you or the circumstances of anything involving you, it's ambient abuse. It should not be done. You have the natural right to accurate information. You have the natural right to act on that information as you see fit even if your decisions or actions are not the ones others would choose for you.
Does this help?
AB
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Argument with my Child "Why did I stay in the Organization so long?" Anger and Bitter Feelings.
by RottenRiley inlast night my third oldest child wanted to know why we stayed in the organization so long.
child is a third year college student enjoying all the classes this "wicked system" has to offer, the insatiable appetite for learning makes him want to argue and debate, i don't have the energy to debate because i don't feel good with all life has thrown our way.. .
"the only reason i went to meetings so long was because grandma and grandpa needed somebody to take them to meetings and cobe aunt and uncle and secretary aunt and uncle refused to talk to grandma for years, otherwise i would have stopped attending the kingdom hall because the kids were assholes and i was always the one who had to make "first contact", "i was the one who had to go around and meet and greet newbies while the regular jw wall-flowers (calebs) ignored all the visitors and new persons visiting our kingdom hall.
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AnneB
Addendum: I wouldn't say "sorry." You didn't do anything wrong. You can empathize with your offspring but you have nothing to be "sorry" about. Being used, deceived, misled, etc. are not things a person needs to say "sorry" for; that obligation belongs to the ones who did the deceiving.
When someone says "sorry" all most people remember is "guilt". In your case, RR, it would be one more thing used to beat you. Stand your ground.
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Argument with my Child "Why did I stay in the Organization so long?" Anger and Bitter Feelings.
by RottenRiley inlast night my third oldest child wanted to know why we stayed in the organization so long.
child is a third year college student enjoying all the classes this "wicked system" has to offer, the insatiable appetite for learning makes him want to argue and debate, i don't have the energy to debate because i don't feel good with all life has thrown our way.. .
"the only reason i went to meetings so long was because grandma and grandpa needed somebody to take them to meetings and cobe aunt and uncle and secretary aunt and uncle refused to talk to grandma for years, otherwise i would have stopped attending the kingdom hall because the kids were assholes and i was always the one who had to make "first contact", "i was the one who had to go around and meet and greet newbies while the regular jw wall-flowers (calebs) ignored all the visitors and new persons visiting our kingdom hall.
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AnneB
How doI go about explaining i was truly tricked by the Cult. How would you explain the Cult had us throughly tricked?
Simple. You tell the truth, that you were innocent, that you couldn't conceive of a people operating in God's name yet doing all the unloving, unjust, unmerciful things that JW's routinely do. Tell how long it takes, even in the face of direct evidence, to even begin to believe that something was monstrously wrong, longer to believe that it was happening to you and to people that you knew, and even longer to figure out how to break free from its grip. Talk about how delicate it is to extricate oneself and how much more so when family and friends have also been deceived.
Make sure to define innocence correctly: as not guilty of a crime or offense, as not responsible for or directly involved in an event yet suffering its consequences. Insist that the guilt and the blame are placed right where they belong, on WTBTS, not on you.
AB
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Science Fiction fan? Help please..
by Xanthippe indoes anyone remember a story about humans visiting a planet where they had fruit that smelt so delicious that it was almost impossible to resist but if you did eat it, it changed you genetically into a different species that i think was immortal.
seem to remember something about the 'victim' losing their human face and a sort of beak would form.
sound familiar to anyone?.
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Another elders kid goes down the tubes not to mention he is the monster of cleveland's nephew
by noni1974 inhttp://www.19actionnews.com/story/24591538/ariel-castros-nephew-indicted-in-kiddie-porn-case.
i knew him since he was a baby, i remember when he was born.
sad fact is he was a spoiled brat and never disciplined for anything.
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AnneB
They are NOT an insane family. People make choices. Some in this family, as in all families, made socially unacceptable choices and are reaping the consequences.
Would you want someone talking about your family the way you are talking about this one? Every family has problems; sometimes they are very visible.
They're hurting. Why add to their pain?
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holy heck -- what a photo!
by Hortensia inhttp://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-25975251.
maybe they ought to move the house out of the path?.
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AnneB
But when there is no landslide the house is safe!
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Is it a dis enfranchising offense....?
by RunAsFastAsYouCan ini want to get my mother in law dis enfranchised:.
1. for teaching and encouraging my children to dis respect me (their father) in my own house over a 4 year period while living at my house.. 2. for refusing to allow me (in my own house) to practice my own religion with my duaghters while she stayed in my house for nearly 4 years.. 3. for attending my childs 5th birthday party, on her birthday, at chuckie cheese, and then disrespecing the family by refusing to sit at the table with us to eat, but facing away from us at the table next to us.. 4. for constant and relentless ambient abuse and gaslighting of self in my own house over a 4 year period.. 5. for refusing to return to the philipines (her family) after multiple demands to leave our residence over a 4 year period.. 6. for refusing to abstain from teaching her jw crap to my children in my house despite my repeated demands to stop.. i could go on but you get the point.. not that it matters but my primary motive is to get my kids one step further removed from this pos cult..
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AnneB
Let them go. Use your energy to care for yourself and to do good for your child/children.
If your ex is doing things contrary to the WT way she will get in trouble soon enough...you don't need to "help" her.
Keep yourself restrained under evil.
Don't let revenge get the best of you.
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Is it a dis enfranchising offense....?
by RunAsFastAsYouCan ini want to get my mother in law dis enfranchised:.
1. for teaching and encouraging my children to dis respect me (their father) in my own house over a 4 year period while living at my house.. 2. for refusing to allow me (in my own house) to practice my own religion with my duaghters while she stayed in my house for nearly 4 years.. 3. for attending my childs 5th birthday party, on her birthday, at chuckie cheese, and then disrespecing the family by refusing to sit at the table with us to eat, but facing away from us at the table next to us.. 4. for constant and relentless ambient abuse and gaslighting of self in my own house over a 4 year period.. 5. for refusing to return to the philipines (her family) after multiple demands to leave our residence over a 4 year period.. 6. for refusing to abstain from teaching her jw crap to my children in my house despite my repeated demands to stop.. i could go on but you get the point.. not that it matters but my primary motive is to get my kids one step further removed from this pos cult..
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AnneB
You'll only be told that elders don't get involved in family matters. Behind your back they'll be cheering your MIL for her "integrity" and for "standing firm" "in the truth".
Don't waste your energy trying to get her in trouble. Get yourself *out* of trouble by putting as much distance between her and your family as quickly as you can...and keep it that way!
If your wife objects.....tell her she's "out of subjection." Now THAT is something the elders may act upon!
AB