They don't look very long to me; in fact, she looks rather short!
Posts by AnneB
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7longest married couple in the U.S
by His Excellency injohn and ann betar of connecticut have just been named the longest married couple in the u.s.!
he's 101 and she's 97, and have been married 80years.. .
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how valid are commitments made while being a jw.
by man in black inseveral times on this board i have read comments from people who were considering joining a new religion.
and how a jw baptism was not "valid", so there should be no problem while getting ready to join the new church.. if a baptism is not real, what about other aspects of life,, such as a marriage ?
outside of the legal requirements that are written down and recorded, from a spiritual standpoint, is it just a bunch of nonsense ?.
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AnneB
IMO, BandOnTheRun hit it when she alluded to contract law.
In any sort of arrangement, legally binding or not, doesn't it just make sense that if you discover trickery, fraud, misrepresentation, outright lies, changed standards that affect the agreement, etc., that you have the right to renegotiate or repudiate the agreement?
The right, not the obligation; however, if you continue on as if the original agreement was still in effect, you're losing ground. Common sense says don't paint yourself into a corner.
"Let your yes mean yes" applies only to what was agreed upon, not to deviations.
AB
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Long time reader first time poster
by MissMyHarley intrying to get out after only being in for a year or so.
my wife and i were really taken in by these folks.
we are both have degrees and should have known better.
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AnneB
You could be very right about being used to protect your mother. Take things a step at a time; you may decide to "go inactive" after her affairs are arranged, just to make sure they don't go behind your back and get her to restate her will...it's been known to happen, especially if there is a sizable estate. (Search this site for examples.)
If degrees are a feather, an estate willed to WT is the whole dang cap!
In friendship,
AB
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Irritated with my sister in law who is trying to claim my baby girls clothes
by Butterflyleia85 inirritated with my sister in law.
ok so i'm really happy and excited about having my baby girl january 31st!
the same week i learned my sister in law is having a baby due in october but will be having it delivered september.
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AnneB
Your problem isn't your relatives. Behaving as though people can be trusted or taken at their word is "avoidance". You know when people are not trustworthy (relatives or not). As long as you act like they are you will be used and abused.
"Nice" is not a positive. "Nice" placates. "Nice" lives in its own immature bubble.
As our friends in the WTBTS put it: "Awake!" We're not living in Paradise. You're going to have to defend yourself (not just from relatives), so study up on topics like "manipulation" and "masochism". There's where you'll learn what to say and how to come across as someone who can't be walked all over.
Do it now, before you have the baby. Then you can model appropriate behavior as your child grows. That can only benefit both of you.
Best wishes,
AB
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If you tried to get your doctrinal or historical questions answered by an elder in your cong...
by NeverKnew inwhat was the result?
i have seen answers strewn throughout many posts but never consolidated.
this is important.
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AnneB
pulled out all the "baby" literature (brochures/pamphlets) to start the discussion.
I've seen this happen many times. Maybe they want to start on square one then build again so they can fill any gaps in their propaganda platform 'cause obviously they didn't completely BS you the first time.
Congrats on having the backbone to dismiss them.
AB
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If you tried to get your doctrinal or historical questions answered by an elder in your cong...
by NeverKnew inwhat was the result?
i have seen answers strewn throughout many posts but never consolidated.
this is important.
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AnneB
I tried...once. One Sunday after the meeting I asked an elder how to reconcile two conflicting bits of information in the literature. The elder became agitated and told me that he and another elder would be by that evening, that I should make a written list of my questions. I came home and did what he asked, although I couldn't understand why he wanted "a list" when I had only one question!
Well, the two elders appeared at the appointed time. When I brought out my little piece of paper with the question written on it, the elder wouldn't take the paper, saying "we know all about your questions". I was dumbfounded, as I hadn't discussed whatever it was with anyone, hadn't even been given the opportunity to tell him, and yet he already knew? That was my first inkling that the elder wasn't going to help me figure things out.
There in my own living room, in the presence of my "unbelieving" spouse and my children, both elders ranted for about five minutes, then left. My family just stood there staring at one another, none of us able to comprehend where things had gone wrong. It wasn't until years later, when I found this board and read the experiences of others, that I realized that they probably thought they had an apostate on their hands. If that's what they thought they were so wrong; at that stage of my life I wanted nothing more than to be the very best servant of Jehovah that I could be, hence my request for their assistance. I had no idea...
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Hello from Totally ADD. I am back.
by TotallyADD inhopfully many of the older ones do.
since our move to wild's of pa many things have happen to my wife and i. our donut business went out the window.
we closed it last july.
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AnneB
Glad to "see" you have returned!
Gardens are healthier than donuts anyway...
Best regards to you and yours,
AnneB
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I am miserable...am I crazy?
by Cagefighter inas a born in jw my outlet was always music.
my parents let me do piano lessons (from another sister) and when i was 14 i lobbied hard enough for a guitar.
i formed a decent punk/emo type in high school behind my parents back.
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AnneB
There are a lot of people in your situation. Try keeping your job (even though you hate it) until you can sell the agency. Buy a guitar as soon as you can afford one (and not a real cheap one; they sound horrible!), then play at open mics in the evenings for your own enjoyment and to build your name. After a year or so, evaluate your options once again.
One step at a time gets you to where you want to be. Leaping without a landing place only brings trouble.
Sincere best wishes,
AB
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why do I write?
by Separation of Powers ini must admit, i feel rather like winston smith from orwell's 1984. i sit here in front of the image of a blank piece of paper on my computer screen.
i am alone in my study, alone, but like winston, i am hesitant to write on this blank piece of paper, fearful that i am under the watchful eye of the telescreen.
it is a form of paranoia, i guess, a paranoia that is synonymous with being in the organization; an organization that worries more about perception than substance.
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AnneB
But you didn't say anything.
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NEW NWT'S Distributed at 2013 Conventions?
by TheSnarkyApologist inchatter on the street is that there exists a very high possiblility of the new newworld translation being distributed.
it comes from a reliable sources, but who knows.
has anyone heard anything about this?.
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AnneB
If there is a new Bible, they will have one to show from the platform, then say they'll be taking orders for it at the KH and to watch for the shipping annoucement in the KM. They're not going to hand out tens of thousands of copies on a donation basis, especially when they can get top dollar by leaning on the publishers when they try to place an order.