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  How do you replace a family?

  by YoursChelbie in

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  as a result of wanting to have a normal life, away from the dogma of the jw religion,.

  many have lost contact with parents, children and in many cases, their spouse.. my divorce was uncontested and i was fortunate enough to get out of from watchtower control with my children.

  my parents were never involved with the religion,.

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  After I learned how to trust people, which took me years, I found a mentor(mom), a spiritual guru(father), and many close friends(brothers and sisters). They have become my family and I trust them with my heart.

  The JWs hurt me one and all with their conditional love. I found the 'love' that the JWs claimed to have in 'the world' and when my family goes back and forth between talking to me and shunning me (I am not DF, I faded over the last 10 years) my non-bio family has been there for my real life, without all the drama.

  It's is funny how I didn't know what it was like to tell a friend about my doubts and fears without the constant threat of getting turned in to the elders for any and everything. The first time my mentor sat there and listened to me as I poured my heart out, I was so afraid that she would judge me for what I said. Instead, she took me in her arms and told me what a good person I was and I cried out of pure relief. She became my mom that day.

  Family is more than blood, it is love. True love.
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  Can I throw this out now or what?

  by restrangled in

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  a couple of years ago i was left with over 700 lp's of music....(don't get excited...it was not classic rock)....it was show tunes, operas, and various classics.

  i pulled those i thought were decent....and now i am left with 2 closets full of stacked operas and what i consider crapola.. i have no interest in posting this on the internet or trying to sell it.

  i just want it out of my life...i can only throw out a small amount at a time.

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  I sent you a pm
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  How Old are You ?

  by flipper in

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  i know- you aren't used to seeing me ask a simple question like this.

  so- i'll start .

  i am 49 years old, will be 50 in october .

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  I'm 29 and feel younger now than when I turned 18 in the org.
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  "Commenting" at Meetings

  by cameo-d in

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  i don't quite understand why you call it commenting.. when i attended meeting the question at end were read.. when people "commented" it was never a real comment.. it was just reading back word for word a sentence or two from the paragraph that answered the question.. i would think "commentary" would be something you put in your own words and give a personal statement about it.. .

  why do you call it "comments" when it is more like reciting?.

  or is it different in other kh?.

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  They call it commenting because they want you to believe that you are coming to these conclusions on your own instead of mindlessly parroting back what they tell you. It is a good technique for driving the information into your head, you are more likely to believe something if you think you arrived at the conclusion by yourself.

  Angie
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  2009 DC Releases

  by garlic81 in

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  friday am during keynote address "the wonders of creation reveal god's glory" 32 minute dvd on creation available at the convention.

  friday last talk "sing to jehovah" - new songbook with 135 songs, 42 which are new.

  will start using in january 2010. cong will begin receiving them after september 1st.

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  Wow, Billings, MT? That is the one my parents attended. I PMed you if you want to see if we know each other. I have no problem with people knowing who I am, but I understand if you are in early fade mode and are concerned about privacy. I have no contact with any JW anymore.

  Angie
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  Why are some of the Memorial partakers normal people?

  by BonaFide in

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  i know that a lot of the memorial partakers are crazies, or have emotional problems, or want attention.

  i am not talking about them.. but there is a percentage of partakers that are not weird, or attention-getters.

  they act normal, they have a good sense of humor, they don't promote themselves.

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  When I was a little girl, there was a man in our congregation that partook. His wife did not. Being the precocious little girl I still can be, I asked him how he knew he was going to be in heaven and wouldn't he be sad that his wife was left on Earth. He told me that when he reads the gospel that he knows it is speaking to him and that those promises were meant for him. He also said that being in God's glory would be so satisfying that he could never be sad. He would probably be DFed now for saying such things if he hadn't already passed on.

  After reading the bible without the JW programming, I understand what he means. I think that the 'normal' annointed ones are just the witnesses that don't ignore the call of heaven for an earthly paradise. This is the normal life after death hope for real Christians. That may be why there are so many 'new' partakers also, perhaps some of the r&f are reading the bible independently and recognizing, on a subconcious level, their heavenly hope. It is the only thing that the elders (and up) do not currently question, the only real free will choice in the JWs. If the number partaking starts growing rapidly, though, that will probably change.

  Angie
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  After the Smurfs ... JWs paranoia hits again

  by behemot in

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  i read on an ex-jws italian forum that in certain congregations witnesses are getting rid of their hello kitty toys.

  the reason?

  well, it's because the hello kitty is mouthless ... and that's how the "story" (the metropolitan legend) goes: .

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  It is strange that when Hello Kitty first came out when I was a child, there was nothing wrong with her. I actually carried my bible stories book to the meeting in a little red 'bookbag' with Hello Kitty on it. I guess they just needed a new demonic toy now that smurfs are ancient history.
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  I would like know how you first found this site, and what was your first experience on here like?

  by BonaFide in

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  my experience?

  in the past few years, i liked to research stuff on the internet for talks.

  and for experiences, i used to google jw's to see news articles.. then one day last year, i saw this site, and it said that it discusses anything related to jw's.

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  I faded 10 years ago when I reached 18, stopped being a regular pioneer and got dumped by my Bethelite fiance. I spent the next 8 years accepting that I was going to die at armageddon and that God hated me. I was married for those years to a man who was raised JW, but never got baptized. He was in the same mindset. He and I divorced, long story, and I began dating a Catholic man. His family is BIG into holidays and varied in religious beliefs so they didn't push me to do anything. His Mom had family 'in' so she always stressed that God, no matter what name I gave Him, loved me no matter what, like I love my own children.

  I started questioning why I was keeping myself and my kids from enjoying family holiday celebrations when we aren't JW. I started looking around online to see how other exJWs were handling it, I remembered when I was a teenager and the WTS launched its website that they strongly stated the address as watchtower.org, they said to be careful not to type .com. So.... I typed in watchtower.com. It redirected me to the official website, so I googled JW and ended up here. I surfed the forum for days on end and researched the assertions made against WTS. This knowledge gave me the courage to say goodbye forever to that cult.

  Now I celebrate with no guilt or fear. I am confident in God's love for me, even when I have doubts and do research. And, my kids will never know the agony of sitting in the hallway of their elementary school while their classmates are eating b-day cupcakes or coloring pictures of Santa Claus. And I have now seen every Christmas movie ever filmed, haha.

  Angie
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  Has Your Personality Changed Since Leaving The Witnesses?

  by minimus in

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  i have an aquaintance that likes to say, "once an a hole always an a hole".

  i guess you could reason that whatever your religious views were, your core is you are who you are.. did your personality change for better or worse when you left the organization?.

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  I definitely changed, but it took eight years. I am now confident and not afraid to show my intelligence. The best part is that I can now spend time with men without worrying that they think I am angling for a marriage proposal. I always hated how every pimple faced jerk off at every assembly, wedding, etc thought I was trying to catch him in a marriage trap.

  "Worldly", read normal, men tend to be less arrogant. A few exceptions of course!

  Angie
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  Birthdays and my six year old

  by Rocky_Girl in

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  i am divorced from a jw and we have two children.

  i have been out for 10 years but we both were raised 'in.

  ' we share custody so the little ones are a little confused as to why mommy gives them a b-day party, has a christmas tree and takes them to an hour of church mostly spent singing but daddy just drags them to 5 hours of lecture a week and won't let them be friends with the neighbor kids.. sunday night, after a week with his father, my six year old told me that he can't celebrate his b-day because a guy got his head cut off in the bible at a b-day party.

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  Rocky_Girl

  Thank you for your responses. I will share the scripture about Job with him tonight when we read out of his children's bible book. The one in Romans would work, too, next time he brings it up. He is little so I will go slow. I'm sure I will be on with more questions.

  Sweet Pea: I will go get that book, I want to be able to spare him the agony I went through as a child.

  Angie