Pain in life is inevitable , I can't really defend it , it just is a fact of this existence.
Why do we trouble our selves with this need for an answer?
Speaking only for myself I can say that I have learned love and compassion from MY suffering.
The suffering of others has no meaning that I can understand.
The why is unimportant because it teaches nothing , it has no answer, it merely is.
I have found acceptence of the the inevitible truth of our exiistence to be the answer sufficient to free ME.
What is wealth but having all you require?
What is an answer but that which satisfies a question?
Having found my answer I can only point to it and hope others find an answer as well.