Posts by Younglove1999

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What a difference a year makes.

by Billzfan23 in

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last year on this date... i was burned out as an elder, school overseer, book study overseer, etc... my monday nights were shepherding calls, phone calls, judicial committe meetings.

tuesday nights i conducted the theocratic ministry school and usually had a service meeting part.

wednesday nights i had a bible study with a family from the territory.

Younglove1999

this post made me smile-

sounds like life now is defintely more enjoyable-

I look forward to having my daughter grow up and being able to use our free time to spend together and to see her excel in different things like sports or dance, etc.

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Was There Any Watchtower Interpretation That You Never Quite Understood?

by minimus in

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i knew what the watchtower taught regarding the "faithful & discreet slave class" but how they could ever suggest that "domestics" were "individual members" of the anointed that were given food to the other anointed ones, yet they specifically were not members of the governing body, but the governing body represented the group that would take the lead in feeding others, was beyond me!

the whole interpretation of the fds doctrine is ridiculous!.

were there certain things that puzzled you as to how the watchtower could come up with a particular view?

Younglove1999

about a year or so ago, we had that WT about marriage ceremonies and there was this one paragraph about Jesus being at a wedding and turning the water into fine wine and the FDS was trying to use that to prove that nobody got intoxicated at that wedding because if they were, he would have turned the wine into watered down less than fine wine because apparently the custom was to break out the bad wine after everyone got drunk off the good wine.

my husband were like "WTH?!that's a far reach up the a.s!!" to make that assumption. They were using that "fact" as a reason why we shouldn't get drunk at weddings.

it was just so bizarre and random- it rubbed me the wrong way

42

my mother sent this to me-

by Younglove1999 in

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so my mom sends me this to me and i hate these jw forward things- .

i want to have a good response when she asks if i got it- because i feel like it has nothing to do with jw's, just a coincidence.

i feel like she thinks i hate god, but it has nothing to do with him- it's the religion itself.

Younglove1999

So my mom sends me this to me and I hate these JW forward things-

I want to have a good response when she asks if I got it- because I feel like it has nothing to do with JW's, just a coincidence. I feel like she thinks I hate God, but it has nothing to do with Him- it's the religion itself.

At any rate, here's the 'foward'- kind of makes me roll my eyes.

A young couple wanted to have a family very much,
> >> > but the wife was unable to conceive, so they
> >> decided
> >> > to adopt a baby. They went to several agencies
> >> and
> >> > were told that it would take several years before
> >> > they could get an infant, but if they wanted to
> >> > adopt one from a foreign country, such as Korea
> >> or
> >> > Vietnam , they could get a baby much sooner. They
> >> > were told that if they would consider a child of
> >> > about 7 or 8 years, they would get one almost
> >> > immediately. So they put their application in for
> >> an
> >> > older, foreign child.
> >> >
> >> > While all of this was taking place, the couple
> >> was
> >> > contacted in the door-to-door ministry
> >> by Jehovah's Witnesses. They began studying,
> >> progressed very
> >> > quickly, and were soon baptized. They became very
> >> > active in field service, and decided to regular
> >> > pioneer. Therefore, they would wait until the New
> >> > World to have children.
> >> >
> >> > They went to the adoption agency and informed
> >> them
> >> > of the circumstances, and told them of their
> >> desire
> >> > to stop the proceedings. However, they were told
> >> > that the agency had just been notified that a
> >> little
> >> > boy from Vietnam was on his way for them. The
> >> agency
> >> > pleaded with them not to cancel.
> >> >
> >> > With mixed feelings they went home to think it
> >> over.
> >> > They took it in prayer to Jehovah and decided to
> >> go
> >> > ahead with the adoption. They figured since he
> >> was
> >> > older and would be in school most of the day,
> >> they
> >> > would go ahead with their plans to pioneer and
> >> just
> >> > see how things worked out.
> >> >
> >> > They prepared their hom e for the arrival of
> >> their
> >> > new son, fixed up the bedroom, bought lots of
> >> toys,
> >> > and placed a copy of My Book of Bible Stories on
> >> his
> >> > dresser.
> >> >
> >> > At last, the day came to bring the little boy
> >> home.
> >> > They showed him through the kitchen and living
> >> room.
> >> > He seemed so sad and unresponsive. They then
> >> showed
> >> > him his bedroom. He hardly glanced at the room
> >> full
> >> > of toys, but spotted the Bible story book
> >> > immediately. He ran over, grabbed the book, held
> >> it
> >> > to his chest, and began crying. When they were
> >> > finally able to calm him down enough to talk, he
> >> > explained that both his mother and father had
> >> been
> >> > Jehovah's Witnesses before they were killed in
> >> > Vietnam . He had been praying to Jehovah that he
> >> > would be adopted by a family of Jehovah's
> >> Witnesses.
> >> >
> >> > This experience was given at a Circuit Assembly
> >> in
> >> > California . The District Overseer concluded by
> >> > saying, "Never feel that Jehovah doesn't answer
> >> > prayers, even those of a little child."

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perhaps this is naive of me-

by Younglove1999 in

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so about a month ago, i finally "confessed" to my jw friend that my husband and i haven't been to a meeting since february.

we're in different halls, so she wasn't aware of our inactivity.

when i told her, i didn't explain any details about what lead us to stop going, other than the normal "we're confused- so much going on, new baby, etc" stuff.

Younglove1999

thanks everyone- I really appreciate your comments.

Denise- I totally understand what you're saying- I'm tempted to call her and just kind of act like our last phone call ended on a weird note and I wanted to see if everything was ok-

but then, I don't know if I want to hear her "condemnation"-

Thanks everyone though- A friend at work lost her father last night and I jsut started feelign melancholy about the drastic change in my social/family life and this flood of emotions came back- Sweetpea is right, I'm just in the beginning of this whole "thing" and it's the worst part- it'll get better.

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My brief story

by 4mylove in

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growing up i had a friend that was disfellowshiped for premarital sex, marrying someone out of his faith, and pretty much being a free thinker.

to see what he went through at such a young age was painful to watch.

years later i meet this wonderful man, who was raised as a witness.

Younglove1999

I hope this is just a hiccup and that things will settle down and your husband "wakes" up soon-

((hugs))

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Tomorrow will be one of the PROUDEST days of my life.

by nicolaou in

iv'e been posting here a long time but here's something i never shared before .

i'm still a window cleaner.

i'm not going to rant at the 'society' because they don't own my anger anymore but my work is certainly a legacy of my cult past.

Younglove1999

what a great post!!

I have a little 6 month old and it'll be a while before I have the joy of seeing her pursue her dreams, but I share your excitement in seeing our kids do whatever they want to do without fear-

I'm so happy for you!!

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perhaps this is naive of me-

by Younglove1999 in

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so about a month ago, i finally "confessed" to my jw friend that my husband and i haven't been to a meeting since february.

we're in different halls, so she wasn't aware of our inactivity.

when i told her, i didn't explain any details about what lead us to stop going, other than the normal "we're confused- so much going on, new baby, etc" stuff.

Younglove1999

it was ONE little conversation- ONE- it was like 5 minutes long- I was so vague- but apparently it was enough for her- I'm completely completely just speechless-

i don't know why it's hitting me so hard this afternoon-

I've started to make friends with others that I know- I'm actually going to a Yoga class tomorrow with a friend I met in childbirth class-

Our social life is much more enjoyable now because we're with people we like instead of just them being our age and "in the truth", but this particular friend was different- we really had fun together.

her husband is an elder prick though- so she's got it hammered in her head-

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Honestly, When You Were A Witness, Were You A Jerk?

by minimus in

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did you think you were better than everyone else?

did you talk down to people?

were you a know-it-all?

Younglove1999

After I left the Watchtower one of my co-workers told me I had become much more friendly and easy going.

I've gotten the same response since I've stopped going.

In fact, someone said I seemed much happier lately-

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perhaps this is naive of me-

by Younglove1999 in

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so about a month ago, i finally "confessed" to my jw friend that my husband and i haven't been to a meeting since february.

we're in different halls, so she wasn't aware of our inactivity.

when i told her, i didn't explain any details about what lead us to stop going, other than the normal "we're confused- so much going on, new baby, etc" stuff.

Younglove1999

yeah- I'm baffled at the fact that that basic human tendency to be compassionate and caring is gone and replaced by just callous indencency.

It hurts but what makes me angry is that there's no way in hell I'd ever get it through their heads that I'm still the same funny, caring, intelligent person they've always known-

i'm just frustrated and sometimes just tempted to just send them X-mas cards every year to make them cringe-

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My brief story

by 4mylove in

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growing up i had a friend that was disfellowshiped for premarital sex, marrying someone out of his faith, and pretty much being a free thinker.

to see what he went through at such a young age was painful to watch.

years later i meet this wonderful man, who was raised as a witness.

Younglove1999

thanks for sharing your story-

So your husband was raised in as a JW and his family is still involved, but he's inactive? Were you every baptized- is your family in the organization?

Don't mean to interrogate you- Your story is very interesting and you seem like a great person-