ugh this just reinforces why i let myself fade from the Witchtower. the saying goes blood is thicker than water. i guess that's unless youre a jdub. reminds me of a wedding..asked to be in my good friends wedding several years ago back when i actually into the scene. he was marrying a non-jw and were having the ceremony in a non-denominational church. i backed out from the wedding since it was in a non-jw church/hall/however you want to put it. i missed the wedding and didn't speak to him for about a year. thankfully we got back in contact after that year. i faded fast during that year...wish i had seen the light sooner and supported the friend instead of the jw rhetoric. i regret it every time we see each other. so stupid the indoctrination.
anyways...personally i thnk it is rude to invite/disinvite people to a wedding. my sisters both are jdubs and married in the KH. my dad, a non-jw, walked both down the aisle with nothing being said to either of them. i think it's the elders going amuck. screw the wedding, support family. no gifts. it's just rude to do what they did. maybe they will get the blinders lifted and see how stupid they are being. as someone once said, "you can either have a brother or not. it's your choice". apply as appropriate. but i am surprised she hasn't been df'd. guess you really do need to attend mind altering meetings for that to happen.