Hi oompa,
I am in similar position myself vis a vie marriage as some here know. What's to do? I like u have children (2 still at home ) that are all lovely 4 what they are. My JW wife is lovely except for the fact that a large part of our life is no longer shared, which would be alright, were it not 4 the fact that so many conversations are off limits for obvious reasons. I will do everything I can to protect the 2 younger children but they do pick up on things. It is as i think you imply two families within one. Solution(s)? Not sure I have built a life outside JW's. Am going to look at starting more in business life or changing to a career. The problems are though the dichotomies, social, emotional and philosophical .I am waiting to see if something precipitates a reaction like get found out posting here, lucky 4 me the Internet is a tool of Satan.
It is tricky though. On the bright side though your humour always cheers me up. Please do think I am unhappy though. I am not. I am unhappy with the situation. My kids think I am a little wacky!
regards llbh