Maddie, my heart feels your pain too. I went through the wishy washy thing with my parents/family for years. One minute they loved me and I was a great daughter and then another minute they wouldn't even talk to me (usually on Sunday or after a circuit/district convention). They were warm and cold. Their love was conditional. The farther I got away from JW and the more outspoken I became for my newfound christian beliefs, the worse they got. I got tired of "feeling them out." The status of our relationship was up to them at all times. I got damn sick of it. I feel so much better now that I took the driver's seat and said enough is enough. It is no longer up to them rather we engage in conversation, etc. I want nothing to do with them. The roller coaster pain is over with them. Yes, it does hurt that I don't have any family. However, I feel free from their enslavement, judgement, and mental abuse. It hurts, but it's consistent hurt; no more mind games. It may sound harsh, dear, but you need to protect yourself and start healing. They are going to dangle that little girl in front of you forever until you give in to their strong-arming. For you and your husband's sake, don't let them mentally abuse you anymore.
Deidra
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Help Me Please !!!!!!!!
by Maddie ini need some support and advice with my situation and hope you don't mind me going on a bit because i feel wretched!
i hurt so much with my jw family relationship and find it so frustrating that whatever i do or say doesn't make any difference.. my son and wife had a little girl 9 months ago, my first and only grand child and i love her so much.
when she was born my hubby and i helped them a lot wiith buying all the expensive things she needed, as my son hadn't a well paying job as being a die hard jw he believes in the "education and career isn't what you should be doing propaganda" put out buy the wt.
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what did you get dissfellowshipped for and were you once "strong"
by looloo inin the truth (as they say) were people really shocked at you leaving or thought of it as only a matter of time !
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Deidra
I got disfellowshipped for being "an unrepentant fornicator." Funny because I went to the elders, they didn't come to me.
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Intro: disfellowshipped as a teen in 1999
by Moxie ingreetings and warm wishes to everyone out there...
this is my first post here on the site, though i have spent many countless hours as a guest reading and reading your posts and conversations.
they have been a great encouragement to me, who as a young woman was disfellowshipped from the society about nine years ago.
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Deidra
Welcome. I think that you'll find that most of us here can sympathize and help with your pain. Most of us have suffered similar pain.
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Drop Dead Gorgeous !
by Outaservice inback when i was attending kingdom halls, our circuit had a lot of 'drop dead gorgeous' women, many whom were married to the geekiest looking guys.
i always asked myself, "how did these 'dorks' do it"!
was this because selection was limited, or was this just a peculiarity in our area?
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Deidra
Uh, yeah. Us gorgeous women had our pick of men
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Elders Daughter
by brokenperfection inhi.
was wondering if there are any former/current elders daughter that are on the board.. share your experinces or stories about being one.. what did you "catch" elders daughters doing wrong.. yes i am one and be honest with us..
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Deidra
Hi. I was an elder's daughter as well. Horrible. Having to live up to the "perfect model young christian sister" was stressful. Everyone just looked at me and my siblings as if we should have it together. Once I turned 17, I did it all. Abortions (yes plural), sex, sex, sex, and smoking, drinking, and lies. Let's just say that I'm glad I'm saved now.
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JW's and Homeschooling
by superman inin the mid-to-late 90's i remember the new trend was that a lot of the people that were jw's started pulling their kids out of regular public school and started homeschooling them.
the absolute worst were the kids who had been homeschooled from kindergarten all the way until they graduated.
those poor kids were the most weird, unsocial, naive,sheltered, unadjusted, and uneducated kids i'd ever met.
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Deidra
I think that's great babygirl75. Congrats. I took me a long time to adjust to a social life outside of the JW and I went to public schools! Whatever works for you
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JW's and Homeschooling
by superman inin the mid-to-late 90's i remember the new trend was that a lot of the people that were jw's started pulling their kids out of regular public school and started homeschooling them.
the absolute worst were the kids who had been homeschooled from kindergarten all the way until they graduated.
those poor kids were the most weird, unsocial, naive,sheltered, unadjusted, and uneducated kids i'd ever met.
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Deidra
I just can't see where home-schooling produces well adjusted social human beings. Growing up as a JW who attended public school, I had hard enough time adjusting to the real world. I know public schools can be inferior to private schools. However, I think your child's education depends on the amount of effort that parents and children put into it, no matter what school they attend. The goal is for them to attend college, right? Move up in the world? Then how will they adjust to college life if they have no social skills?
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Romantic Notions of returning to.......
by nomoreguilt inthe organization.
i have observed in a number of threads some of the members here have expressed the need to return to the org.
or to become active again.
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Deidra
No way, never. I'd rather slit my own throat then step inside a Kingdom Hall ever! I'd probably pass out and die anyways at the door (from flashbacks).
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I need all the prayers,good thoughts, good vibes I can get
by junctions-wife inas many know i left tennessee to help take care of my grandma.
she is back in the hospital, this is visit number 8 this winter alone.
the doctor's don't know what it causing her headaches and they are getting worse.
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Deidra
I will pray for you and your family.
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Let's share some happiness!!!
by momzcrazy init is a beautiful day.
the sun is out and the birds are singing.
i have wonderful friends, a precious man i love, and healthy happy kids.. can anyone join me in sharing the love and beauty in their life?
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Deidra
It is a beautiful day here in Ohio also. Cold but sunny. I also have a wonderful life now. I have God, a wonderful husband, and my daughter is the love of my life. I enjoy each day and the challenges they bring. I feel that when the day comes that we don't encounter challenges, then we are no longer living. Therefore, I cherish each day that I have breathing and am blessed to share them with my husband and daugher.