Posts by featherimiss

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Is Your Life In Ruins Because You Were A Jehovah's Witness?

by minimus in

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are you moving on?.

i see some have a very hard time in life because of their witness past..

featherimiss

My life is not in ruins...but it is sometimes delayed.

I've been out for 12 years....and I'm very happy and understand what I went through and the JW faith.

..but many times feel like a social retard. I enjoy the holidays...but don't totally understand them like my friends. I love my church and love my faith...but don't have a deep passion. I plan on going back to pursue my bachelor's degree (I'm 44 years old)...but mourn the experience that I would have enjoyed learning as an 18 year old. I love my parents...but mourn our relationship...because I can't share what I'm doing most of the time...prime example...my mom just called me from Ohio...I live in TX. She asked, what are you doing...I said getting my Xmas ornaments out of the garage. She held her breath and changed the subject. When my parents came to visit this summer. I wanted to invite all of my friends over to introduce them to my parents...but held back...because I knew it would make my Elder Father sad to know about my bible study group. So I don't lie to them...but I'm just not totally open.

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Jehovah's Witnesses dismayed by new magazine format from Watchtower Society.

by Balaamsass in

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wow.

i was surprised this week by calls from active jws complaining about the new magazine format, and more begging for money from the platform.. frankly i was surprized by this reaction since this is old news to jwn members.

i guess actually shuffling to the bookroom and grabbing the new "awake tracts" minus the inside cover forward ...awakened many sleepy, catatonic, bored jws who never read the things or go on the internet anyway.. any feedback from other areas?.

featherimiss

If I was still a JW...I would have loved this new format. I don't think I every read a full Watchtower or Awake.. in the 30 years I was in the religion.

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My son's heart is broken

by ruderedhead in

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i'm sure someone here has experienced this before.

please help me help my son.

his wife of 15 months told him last night that she needs her space, that what she wanted 1 year ago isn't the same as what she wants now.

featherimiss

Here's a quote from TD Jakes sermon that has been passed around alot...this may help your son and anyone else going through someone leaving. I think it's especially good for some of the issue exjw go through:

There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk. I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left. The bible said that, "They came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us." [1 John 2:19]

People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay. Let them go. And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person, it just means that their part in the story is over. And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead. You've got to know when it's dead. You've got to know when it's over.

Let me tell you something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay. Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to...LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains... LET IT GO!!!

If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth... LET IT GO!!!

If someone has angered you ... LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge.... LET IT GO!!!

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction ... LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents .. LET IT GO!!!

If you have a bad attitude... LET IT GO!!!

If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better... LET IT GO!!!

If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him... LET IT GO!!!

If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship.... LET IT GO!!!

If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves.. LET IT GO!!!

If you're feeling depressed and stressed ... LET IT GO!!!

If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying "take your hands off of it," then you need to... LET IT GO!!!

Let the past be the past. Forget the former things. GOD is doing a new thing for 2010!!! LET IT GO!!!

Get Right or Get Left .. think about it, and then LET IT GO!!!

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any ex witness from maryland ?

by unstopableravens in

hi i have not been here for a while i did not have a working pc how has everyone been ?

just wondering if there a re any ex jws from maryland.

featherimiss

I lived in Maryland between 1993 - 1998. I cannot remember the congregation I attended. But remember two very nice ladies. Minnie Lewis and Irene (can remember last name). Irene was who I studied with...she lived new Bowie.

Both just wonderful people.

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Why don't Jehovah's Witnesses Celebrate Thanksgiving?

by God_Delusion in

hi guys,.

being a brit living abroad, i never really understood the whole thanksgiving business.. i think growing up as a jw didn't help either.

anyway, i've rid myself of those jw shackles and have decided to take an interest into the goings on over the pond, especially as my favourite place on earth is bar harbor.

featherimiss

I don't remember why they don't!!!

But I'm so glad that I do!!!

HAPPY THANKSGIVING ALL!!! This is a great Holiday to start with on your journey out of JW Doom!!! No matter what you currently believe...everyone should be THANKFUL!!!! Gratitude is very healthy!!!

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Governing body member engaged... Again!

by OneDayillBeFree in

just found out that the australian governong body member known as geoffrey jackson got engaged to a sister about two weeks ago.

it really shocked me at first but then i remembered how other members of the gb have remarried in the past like daniel sidlik.

what made me say "woah" was hearing that the holy bride to be is really young!

featherimiss

I read this post and was wondering why is there a problem with consenting adults deciding to get married.

I have been dating my wonderful boyfriend for almost 2 years and he's 60 and I'm 44 yrs. I love it...it's the best relationship I've ever had. He's mature, not worried about career issues, he's financially stable, his children are grown, he's sexy and science created options for men that enables them to enjoy life until the very end...lol

And I don't blame the ladies..if I'm going to be bored silly with JW ish...may as well marry the old heavy hitters and see the world for free.

Boy I have something else to be Thankful for....Glad I'm no longer a Witness...the scrutiny that you have to deal with.

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WT Elders school: Look how cute that kindly old elder is! Too bad the Talmud says we have to stone our victim anyway

by sir82 in

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more haphazard thougths on the recently concluded elder school..... a big chunk of time was spent on a video which traced a judicial case, all the way from the confession to the elders through the decision to disfellowship the guy.. here is a very brief synopsis of the video:.

tearful late-teen or early-20's publisher confesses to 2 elders that he committed fornication with a "worldly girl" who is now preganant and wants to marry him.

the elders give him some "homework" to do prior to his judcial committee - read psalm 51 and an old wt article.

featherimiss

This video brings me to my judicial meeting after I gave birth to my son out of wedlock. They asked alot of questions, such as how often did I have sex, what type of sex.

And the final questions, was I going to continue to see my son's father. My answer was yes...and I was advised that I should discontinue the relationship in order to get back to Jehovah. I responded, that I was not going to stop my relationship, because I definitely need him more than ever..because I'm pretty sure I'm going to be disassociated (was not baptized). They said, not necesarily we have to pray over it and get back with you. I told them not to worry, because I would not never be coming back to the KH ever. (lol...I wish I would have stuck to this declaration)

...any how it's really sad that they would not help out the young man with his immediate need. To prepare for an upcoming child.

God I'm so glad that I'm free from this organization.

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WT Elders school: The WTS has progressed from just plain stupid to dangerously stupid

by sir82 in

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fresh off the recent 1-day elders school.

to keep things readable i'll post "highlights" over the next several days in different topics.

point 1: they have progressed from "just plain" stupid to dangerously stupid.. .

featherimiss

I think this video is very dangerous because it make the elders think that 5 minutes of scripture will heal 1 years of grief....or many years of grief, depression, marital problems, etc.

I know this type of thinking was the reason why I suffered from depression. I carried so much guilt and shame because reading the WT, going out in field service and never missing a meeting did not instantly make me feel better.

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Where Are You From?

by finallysomepride in

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alot of members don't have a flag or country name beside their user name, and well frequently one doesn't know where that particular person is from, tell us your country, state, county or what ever you feel like giving out.

if you are going to post please at least devulge your country.. me, i'm originally from taranaki, new zealand via auckland.

for the most of this decade i have been living & working in brisbane, queensland, australia.. .

featherimiss

Plano, TX (Dallas metro area). Do exJW still meet up in this area?

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Was it EX JW literature / WT's or the BIBLE which woke you up? Post scriptures if any....

by EndofMysteries in

i considered myself immune to ex jw stuff.

no amount of old watchtowers or anything would change me.

it was seeing treatment of others by elders and the bible itself, which woke me.

featherimiss

I woke up after my sister was disfellowshipped. She had been disfellowshipped for sexual issues...that definitely screamed that she was dealing with something serious.

She was going to the meetings, trying to get reinstated. My son was 3 years old and when he saw her at the KH, he ran up to her and said TT where have you been, I want you to come back to my house. (before being df she would visit almost daily). Well my sister with tears in her eyes, told my son that she could not talk to him. He started crying why....so when I looked into his face and was about to explain why, I started crying.

I immediately told my sister to let get out of her right now. So we went and discussed what she was going through. We located a therapist and during helping her with her sessions, I realized that I really was depressed and needed therapy as well.

Long story short...from this situation I have 3 siblings and all three of us are disfellowshiped, disassocated or faded. Two and myself now identify ourselves as Christian and one agnostic. And we are very happy. Our parents are still JW (father Elder) and many other relatives still devoted JW .

And it's so funny....we all could care less about what the JW believe. We still have contact with our parents and just avoid any discussions of religion. We are very blessed, to have parents that love us more than the religion.