So you've met my ex-husband? He was a complete momma's boy---son of a domineering, controlling JW mother and an emotionally weak, spiritually inactive, verbally abusive father. He was very emotionally enmeshed with his mother...she ran our marriage in the background. He was the "golden child" of the congregation, appointed MS at about 20, quickly moving up the ranks until he achieved the position of Elder.
He was angry, narcissistic and abusive. We eventually divorced when he committed adultery with nothing more than a smack on the hand for both the abuse and the adultery. He married again, has another unhappy marriage, remained an elder the entire time and now in his 60's is the COBE of his present congregation. His relationship with our daughter is sporadic, but he and our son barely interact. My son was a MS for many years but has now faded, and his father is giving him the "soft-shun." The ex's health has always been poor, but he keeps running on the hamster wheel, and will probably die early , while at his funeral they will give him the kudos of having lived his life as a "faithful witness."