loving multiples is about being friends with people who are DID, what used to be called multiple personality disorder
what is disordered, what is askance, what is forever damnable is the reason these splendiferous souls are so fragmented....... the horrific abuse foisted on them by the souless perversions of humanity that harmed them to their very cores, and beyond
my beloved (((((snicks))))), a gorgeous junoesque brit with the flaming red hair of her norse ancestors, towering above me at 6 feet, whose inner system populates a castle... i had the rare and distnctive privilege of naming her 18 YO alter, she who held the music, who used her age as her designation as she felt undeserving of even a name to be known by ...... her 3 and 5 YOs who sat with me on the parlour floor and learned to make balloon animals.... the 10 YO keeper of anger, the worst assignment in the system, because there is rarely ever peace for them in the swirl of chaos and upheaval that is the toxic residue of their moment of creation...... the sweet 8 YO who remained hidden for years even after the others were found.... who cried because i was leaving and she had not been "out" to meet me...... you cannot begin to know the joy i had seeing her laugh while i read her a book and did all the voices and animal sounds
it had to look ridiculous! this woman is nothing if not impressive in stature, and yet she would sit scrunched up next to me on the floor to have a better look at the pictures in the book and suck her thumb and giggle around it like a toddler when i trumpeted like a heffalump .... she may be adult in size but her total demeanour, her face and eyes, somehow transform..... and i watch as she is transported into the realm of what SHOULD HAVE BEEN INNOCENCE and see her delighted by bubbles or terrified by flashbacks and memories of unspeakable criminality
she is one of several i know, and each has several, some have many, inner dwellers..... they have to be some of the most special people in the world and to have them as friends and be allowed the honour of knowing their systems gives a depth of meaning to my life that never would have occurred had i knocked on a million doors
THIS is what i have come to consider a "ministry".... walking a healing path with the most wounded among us...... survivors of CSA