I was 14 and can't really remember much about it, my mum and dad never really mentioned it to be honest it wasn't the be all and end all of things as I can remember. The one thing I do remember is that my mum wanted to buy a new stair carpet the year before and the elders telling her not to bother wasting her money as she wouldn't have it for long. I think she was quite peeved but my dads common sense prevailed and made her get one (looking back they were reasonably balanced actually). They then went on to have at least 3 more as we were growing up so it just goes to show.
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How many Of You...
by Perry in...were between the ages of 10 and 15 in 1975; and looking back on your life how did that effect you?
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How old were you when baptized as a JW?
by Serg ini was 16 and not a clue in the world what i was getting into..... how about you?
how old were you?.
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myababes
I was 16 and did it cos my friend and I did everything together. It was years later that I learnt that you were supposed to dedicate your life at the same time as being dunked thats how much notice I really took.
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Should I DA myself?
by OMG! Now What? ini'm new here and am hoping to get some support and become normal again.
i'm going to tell my story below, sorry in advance for how long it is, but i've really gotta get a grip on who i am now and what i need to do.
since before my baptism and for four years, my children and i attended every meeting.
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myababes
HI Mia
Your account brought tears to my eyes I couldn't beleive what I was Reading. the unfortunate thing is that this is something that you changed your whole life to be a part of and to be treat like that is despicable.
I would say there a several issues to adress before DA yourself. The first is do you have any other relatives in the organization or is it just you? that has a great bearing on whether you want to maintain a relationship with someone. if not then you have nothing to loose by writing the letter but think carefully first.
tThe second is the issue with the Pervert. Did you ever contact the police especially if he is still in good standing? I presume you are not still with him. how come you both got reproved when he was the nasty piece of work. If you still have the proof, now you are not attending there is nothing to stop you from reporting your suspicion if just to protect those poor little children trapped in there.
Thirdly you sound like a very spiritual person and seeking something. don't worry re the children they are very resiliant. Spend the time now with them celebrating all that is good with their lives and be content with believing in God in the comfort of your own home rather than loking for a structured way in which to do it as part of an organised body.
Take care
Mya babes
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What book are you reading right now?
by Wordly Andre ini am reading buried alive: the terrifying history of our most primal fear, it's really cool
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myababes
Sorry to let the side down amongst all you intellectuals but mine is Sharon Osbourne Survivor( Read the first one too) . Sorry know its crass but am really enjoying it got it bought for xmas
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Current & Former Elders- Will You Help Witnesses - Get Out of the Cult ?
by flipper ini know ,at first glance it seems like an impossibility .
i really haven't lost my mind here folks.
hear me out on this one.
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myababes
Hi Mr Flipper
My husband and I escaped 8 years ago with my son and daughter. he had been an elder for quite some years but due to a situation with my daughter resigned and just stopped going and me a couple of weeks later. However while he was an elder he always encouraged people to better themselves by getting an education even though he was really not supposed to do. My problem is that I have hardcore brother and sister and family still in, and it breaks my heart that they are so staunch. They have never turned their back on me all these years think that is mainly because they live away and Istill feel I lead a bit of double life not letting them know I smoke or celebrate xmas etc. Actually don't know what they think I do but they don't ask and I don't tell them. They would never listen to our arguments re the organisation and they would loose all their friends if they ever left and would totally cut us off if we hinted at any doubts that we held any negative views regarding the organisation. I don't se how I can ever sow the seeds of doubt but if I ever did and they left they would be leaving 50 and 60 years of indoctrination behind them and they would never be able to build them selves another life and I would feel so so guilty, but I can't stand to see them so brainwashed.
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Had tooth pulled-tremendous pain
by Angry_Kangaroo inyesterday i had an abscessed wisdom tooth pulled.
the pain now is much more severe then before it was pulled.
the worst pain is where the dentist gave me the local injections-it hurts so bad!
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myababes
You poor thing I really sympathise. A few years ago I had a tooth extracted a couple of days before a circuit assembly. I was in a lot of pain but still managed to soldier on as you did to the assembly. However the pain was so bad that my hubby had to take me to the A&E dept as I was in so much pain. They xrayed me and actually admitted me as the infection had got into the bone and I had to go on IV antibiotics for 3 days to clear it. That was because I had developed a dry socket and the infection had spread, so please please don't leave it get some emergency attention as soon as possible. The only benefit is they gave me an injection that worked instantly of voltarol so I had instant relief. Don't know what they call it in the states but sure they have some equivalent.
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Was There A Specific Event That U Remember-- Realizing It Wasn't The Truth?
by minimus infor me, it was a combination of things over a long period of time.
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how about you?
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myababes
Although we had been dissatisfied with things for a while it was a specific incident that brought our demise.
My daughter had fallen pregnant at the age of 16 and we had to have a meeting with the elders about it. My hubby was an elder at the time so because of her age we sat in on the meeting. they tried to get my daughter to bear all about her "relations/Acts" in front of 3 grown men. When they started asking her it made us feel physically sick and my husband put an end to the conversation there and then and told them to leave. Although we were uset about the pregnancy at the time it was her business and none of their rights to question her since she wasn't even baptised thank god. It took us ages to get used to the idea we had subjected our little girl to that sickening experience and my husband resigned the next week and we literally stopped going. However on a positive note it made our relationship with our daughter stronger since we were able to support her and not shun her and 8 years later have a beautiful grandaughter and a well balanced intelligent confident daughter.
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Where have you turned to?
by Robert7 ini am very curious, since i am myself trying to figure out where to turn to, if anywhwere.
(i am still debating if i am truly an atheist at heart and religion in general turns me off at least as of now) where have you turned to since you left the wt?
i would imagine that many people who became witnesses had spiritual needs (which is ironic why i am feeling atheist, lol) but have you gone to other churches, stopped going to church, become atheist, etc?
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myababes
Do you know what, I really don't think about anything at all. I was born into the organisation but never really believed it any way so leaving 8 years ago was a blessed relief so that I really don't have to think about anthing religious/ spiritual. I think I must be really shallow but have turned to spending more quality, happy ,stress free time with my family.
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So, I ran into an Elder at supper the other night........
by WingCommander in**note: i was never baptized, only raised as a jw from birth.
i am therefor not df'd, da'd, or marked.
probably viewed as inactive though.***.
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When my dad died a few years ago the elders came round the same day. My dad had been disfellowshipped for about 6 months for smoking but had been reinstated about 4 months before he died. Two things the elder said has always stuck in my mind as unforgivable. The first was that my dad probably would still be alive if he hadn't been smoking(he died of lung and liver cancer) and the second was that it was a good job that he had been reinstated before he died or "they" wouldn't have been able to do the funeral or have the sevice in the kingdom hall. That was said to me over 20 years ago when I was heavily pregnant with my 2nd child and I have never ever been able to forget what he said or forgive him.
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JW's in Coffee Shop Using ME as a Lesson to their Children
by Good Girl or Bad Girl? ini am sort of shocked and wonder if i pulled this same kind of sh*t as a witness.
i already know jw's believe they are better than everyone else, what with being god's only chosen people and all that.. well, i am sitting at my table, minding my own business.
there is a group of six jw's at the next table, three adults, three kids.
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myababes
Shamefully when my son was about 5(he's 22 now) and we entrenched in that religion we were passing a church in a town centre and my son said in a loud voice that "Thats babylon the great and is going to be destroyed soon" so everyone around him heard. I cringed but when relating the story after, it was held up by the others in the cong that it was something to be proud of and of a zealous little boy. Can't believe I exposed my kids to that kind of thinking and brainwashing glad they are normal human beings now