My dad had been DF for smoking and shortly after he was reinstated he found out he had cancer and died a month or so later very quicly. the pompous elder that came calling sat there and said well its a good job he has been reinstated as if he hadn't then we wouldn't be able to do the funeral would we. I was so stunned i didn't know whatto say. I still hate that man even 20 years later and unfortunately (but fortunate for them ) 2 of his now grown up children were disfellowshipped. talk about poetic justice.
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What is DF mother or father has cancer?
by yourmomma ini am curious if anyone you know of anyone with experience in a situation where they have a df mother, father, or sibling that for instance has cancer and is dying.
what if the person is alone?
will there be any sanction for being there for the person and doing stuff like cleaning their house or buying groceries?
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Can any who grew up JW relate to this?
by Mickey mouse inconfession time!
i was raised in the troof and therefor never "chose" it.
i find it really hard to get my head around why anyone would ever join this organization as an adult.
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myababes
Being brought up in the org I can relate to what everyone else has said espcialy the thought that I wish I had never even heard of the religion, but mr Myababes came into it of his own accord at the age of 23.
I asked him what made him join as he was at the time successfully in the 3rd year of a physics degree at uni and almost gave it all up. He said basically he was lonely and that it was something to do. he literallly stopped studying a physics and threw himself into studying the JW literature. Of course he was hailed a hero by the congregation and was even on a circuit assembly held up as a fine example of giving up worldly things. He still managed to pass with a 2(1) by the skin of his teeth when the tutors persuaded him to give it a final shot a few months later. thank God for that tutor, though it took him 20 years in the org before he could finally disentangle himself.
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Arrest made in beating death of 8-month-old
by Pioneer Spit...oh, i mean Spirit inmy great nephew who was killed last week: killer arrested.claudia koerner and brent whiting.
the arizona republic.
mar.
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myababes
My heart goes out to you.
Just to let you know that I am thinking about you and your poor family at this time of terrible loss.
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Did you see any sad living conditions in Field Service...?
by Casper inim sure all of us at one time or another witnessed homes that broke our heartshere are a few of mine.
some of the homes i had been invited into out in service really left an impression on me.
call it naive or whatever, it was a real eye opener in some cases.. one in particular that i remember was a poor family with 8 little girls, stair step in age, the oldest no more than 9. this was an rv of the sister i was with.... very nice people, but the living conditions were appalling.
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myababes
When I was a teenager my mum used to study with a young woman with 2 young children. She didn't work but the house was absolutely filthy, dirty nappies lying around. pots never been washed for days, feet sticking to the carpet, that sort of thing. Being the kind hearted soul my mum was she arranged for all the sisters to have a day in her home and they cleaned it from top to bottom, got her new carpets, decorated, the house looked lovely afterwards. Needless to say after a further few months the house was as bad as it was and the woman stopped studying.
Also one RV my husband went on once with a friend of his at the time was with a guy who was married but also had his girlfriend living with him and all their 5 kids between them and they also lived in dire squalor. He used to bring them all to the book study at our home and afterwards the house stunk. One day they went for a study at their home and one of the women was changing the babies dirty nappy swilled all the pooh out in the kitchen sink over all the cups and plates that were in it then took a couple of cups out of the sink, rinsed them under the tap and proceeded to make them a cup of tea. Needless to say they declined drinking it.!!!!!
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My JW Daughter Calls Me - First Time in 9 Months - Great Conversation !
by flipper inas many of you know , me and my fading 23 year old son have been trying to reach out to my polite 21 year old jw daughter .
sending cards, letters , phone calls just to let her know we love her, miss her , and remind her of good family times we've had in the past !
not being pushy - just being authentic with her !
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myababes
Mr Flipper I hope this works out well for you just be patient and don't push it.
I know how heart breaking it must be to feel seperated from your daughter, the reason we stopped going was because they tried to get us to reject our 16 year old just because she was pregnant and we just couldn't do it. i wpuld be desolate if I was in your position.
I really enjoy reading your posts you are such a warm caring person with such a balanced look on life how your daughter could not talk to you for 9 months beats me.
Take care and hold on to the hope
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Do any active witnesses believe the recycled info?
by Save My Soul infor those that have associates/family still in the org, do you know how many long-time witnesses feel about the recycled info?
i can not even read the mags.
anymore because they have not changed for 20+ years.. .
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myababes
I have all my sisters bros etc still in the org.
A couple of weeks ago I called my sis. My mum died a couple of years ago and when I got a bit down icalled her for a chat about mum as we are still quite close. We got talking and what i said to her through my crying was that I couldn't beleive that my mum had kept faithful for 60 years or so right through loosing my dad and was told 20 years ago that she wouldn't have to wait more than a couple of years before she saw him again. This kept her going but 20 years later she died without seeing this after 60 years of waiting and always being told its just around the corner.
I didn't let on to sis that i knew that the thinking had changed but asked her that surely there can't be many of the people who saw 1914 left and that surely armageddon must be close. She then said well actually the thinking had changed and I acted oh so suprised and she said she would send me the info. I made an off the cuff comment that well that wasn't suprising as everyone expected it before now, but she is truly blind folded to the reasoning and juts accepts it as new light. I have to bite my tongue not to make a smart retort but I want to remain friends with her and not appear as a raging apostate. But maybe I have given her something to think about cos still have not recieved the "change of thought "info
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Just curious
by JimmyPage insome registered nurses are jehovah's witnesses.
how do they handle it when a doctor orders a blood transfusion on their patient?.
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myababes
I am a nurse and was one for the last few years as a witness.
The issue of a blood transfusion was never a problem for me as I always thought that I was not the one taking the blood or hadn't prescribed it. The patients I looked after had a right to their decision as much as I had and I was just carrying out another form of treatment.
Even now though I have not been going for 8 years or so I still don't know whether I could accept a transfusion or not, Whether that is my squeamishness or because it has been ingrained so deeply or not am not sure.
Anyone else have these thoughts?
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Help Me Please !!!!!!!!
by Maddie ini need some support and advice with my situation and hope you don't mind me going on a bit because i feel wretched!
i hurt so much with my jw family relationship and find it so frustrating that whatever i do or say doesn't make any difference.. my son and wife had a little girl 9 months ago, my first and only grand child and i love her so much.
when she was born my hubby and i helped them a lot wiith buying all the expensive things she needed, as my son hadn't a well paying job as being a die hard jw he believes in the "education and career isn't what you should be doing propaganda" put out buy the wt.
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myababes
You poor thing my heart really goes out to you, to not see my beautiful grandaughter would break my heart so can imagine what you are going through.
Perhaps you could write him a letter adressed personally to him but get someone else to write on the address so neither of them can reconise our writing. he will have opened it and then realise it was from you without her getting to it first.
Then pour out your heart o him re the way you feel. Back off with all the untruths you have discovered for the moment let sleeping dogs lie for a while just concentrate on rebuilding bridges with him after all a mothers love is not easily dismissed.
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Elders Daughter
by brokenperfection inhi.
was wondering if there are any former/current elders daughter that are on the board.. share your experinces or stories about being one.. what did you "catch" elders daughters doing wrong.. yes i am one and be honest with us..
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myababes
deidra ---"abortions(yes plural)"
Don't think that that is something particularly to be proud of. May not have been going for 8 years or so and am certainly not a prude but don't think even as an ex JW that is something to shout about.
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Did they make you cry?
by sacolton innot me personally, but my brother-in-law was to give a talk and wasn't completely prepared.
his talk wasn't long enough.. the elder took him to the back room and belittled him to the point where he cried.
i guess this is what they mean by.
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myababes
I cried at my mums funeral last year (Stayed faithful to it for 60 years) when 2 elders cornered me at her funeral and started saying things like how could I have let my mum die without giving her a glimmer of hope that we would return to the meetings and that did I realise how sad she would be when she woke up in the new system and only my sis and brother would be there to greet her. They said I would be resonsible for her never seeing her great grandaughter again (my daughter no longer goes along neither now) and how could I live with myself for not making an effort.
I was totally broken hearted when I got home. I don't beleive all that bull about ressurecton etc but it still hurt.