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There is an unspoken rule that those that DA are worse than those who get DF'ed. Stupid, but true.
Although I got kicked for fornicating, I married the guy and we've been together for the past 9 years. Doesn't that stand for anything? I don't lie (often) or steal and I try to live by the Golden Rule. It doesn't matter that I live a good and moral life. My elder father was disfellowshipped after me (and subsequently reinstated) for adultery and he STILL wouldn't talk to me! What he did was worse than me!