Hi All,
Firstly I have only quickly gone through the above postings, as I'm a work at the moment. I will probably print them off and read them at leisure.
But from the gist of it all if I get Dansk and Gary's view right. Is not to let the WT dictate to YOU. They seem to like to give this impression that they are doing it, either a JC, DF etc, is for YOUR good. By doing that they continue to have control over you.
It came to me a long while ago what they where doing. Like some on here I have family who can no longer have contact with me, since I DA'd. My JW wife and two daughters have not spoken or had any kind of contact with me for getting on for 3 years now. When it happens you think "What have I done" but then you realise that you have done nothing. You realise the control the WT have is not over YOU but over those still part of it.
I remember not long after leaving a JW brother said to me "You'll not be allowed to speak to anyone." I replied "No, I will be able to speak to anyone I like. Its YOU who will not be allowed to speak to me. You no longer have control over who I can and cannot speak to." The look on his face was a picture. Almost as if he could not comprehend that they no longer had any control on my life.
So for the past couple of years I have not made any contact with my wife or daughters, I know about what they are doing through third parties. But I do not enquire in anyway about them. They know were I am and how to contact me. Strangely my wife has been in contact in the last month with my DA'd daughter, who she has not spoken to for 3 years.
Coming home from church yesterday, walking towards me were a couple of JW's who I knew. So I kept on walking towards them. As I drew alongside I called them by name and said "Hi, how are you?" Well they didn't know were to turn. Cruel aren't I
As someone earlier said nothing annoys them more, than they seeing you happy.