Rod - They know full well that that means "guiding". The way a shepard would use the rod to guide there sheep. Common sense tells you that when you leave bruises that something is very, very wrong...
Posts by cognac
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36I need help in facing our abuser...
by cognac inthe thought of it scares me so much i can't even think straight... just writing this makes my heart race like you wouldn't believe.. i need to face my dad and mom.
my dad abused us, my mom allowed the abuse.
i need to face him with my two older brothers - the ones who got it the worst and who never faced them about it.... i know my mind will go blank so i'm simply going to write out what i have to say and read it to them.
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Phase One: Facing Our Abuser...
by cognac ini think an important part of facing my parents is first writing a letter to my brother - who got it the worst.
then, i will talk with him and see if he would like to do this with me.
but, first and foremost, he has to know how i feel.
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cognac
I think an important part of facing my parents is first writing a letter to my brother - who got it the worst. Then, I will talk with him and see if he would like to do this with me. But, first and foremost, he has to know how I feel. Below is the letter. Let me know if you think I'm missing something. I will give this to him today and hopefully have a talk with him tonight. I'll let you know how it goes.
Dear ****,
I just wanted you to know that you are my hero. I think about almost every day how strong of a person you are. Every day growing up, you were a shield to us. Every day, I wanted to protect you, but I was too weak. Every day, I try to forgive myself for not even trying to stand up for you. But you, ****, always stood up for us. You were the brunt of everything. You were the strong one.
I just wanted to make sure you knew that. That you knew how much I love you and how sorry I am.
I’m sitting here trying to figure out a way to let you know how strong of a person I think you are and how much I love you and what you mean to me. But, there really are no words. I just hope that somehow you can understand the gratitude and love that I hold and always will hold in my heart for you.
Love Always,
Cognac
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I need help in facing our abuser...
by cognac inthe thought of it scares me so much i can't even think straight... just writing this makes my heart race like you wouldn't believe.. i need to face my dad and mom.
my dad abused us, my mom allowed the abuse.
i need to face him with my two older brothers - the ones who got it the worst and who never faced them about it.... i know my mind will go blank so i'm simply going to write out what i have to say and read it to them.
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cognac
Thank-you Lady Lee... I think it's just gonna take some time to really comprehend. I understand the logic, I don't understand how when push comes to shove her heart wouldn't have won out...
You cognac, Lady Lee, Jamie (my hero who saved me my first night on JWN) would get a free pass.
Everyone who survives this kind of abuse is a hero in my books.
This brought tears to my eyes... Thank-you... I thought about my oldest brother when you said that. He is my hero. He got it so much worse then the rest of us. Yet, he came out a strong person. I don't know how he did it. But, your statement not only touched my heart, but also made me realize that I have to tell him that...
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I have startedd a cheap property and land blog.
by badboy inhttp://cheappropertyandland.blogspot.com.
some property is being sold for 1, so it seems..
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cognac
Are you going to do it for the US also?
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Yay for Womanhood! Female Min.Serv's under consideration.
by cattails inthe "priscilla" deliberations.. gb subcommittees now re-considering role of women in the organization.. example of phoebe as "diakonos" revisited.. could women be appointed to ministerial servant positions in view of the need in congregations?.
what's your take on latest rumors?
http://www.extjforo.com/foro/showthread.php?t=14821.
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cognac
If it is true, when do they speculate this would happen???
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We are switching halls...
by cognac ini think that means that we are going to go to even less meetings and just generally have less to do with the jws because the hall we are at now is where all his friends are... unless somebody tries to take him under his wing and screws everything up.... btw, this was his idea.
thoughts?.
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cognac
Hey Sham! There you are!!!
YKNOT - Don't even think I can do that. I've already said so much I don't even think they would believe me anyways...
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I need help in facing our abuser...
by cognac inthe thought of it scares me so much i can't even think straight... just writing this makes my heart race like you wouldn't believe.. i need to face my dad and mom.
my dad abused us, my mom allowed the abuse.
i need to face him with my two older brothers - the ones who got it the worst and who never faced them about it.... i know my mind will go blank so i'm simply going to write out what i have to say and read it to them.
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cognac
"The reason he did that was because we weren't having intercourse during our marital problems."
I don't even know what to say. That's so disgusting... I'm so sorry...
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I need help in facing our abuser...
by cognac inthe thought of it scares me so much i can't even think straight... just writing this makes my heart race like you wouldn't believe.. i need to face my dad and mom.
my dad abused us, my mom allowed the abuse.
i need to face him with my two older brothers - the ones who got it the worst and who never faced them about it.... i know my mind will go blank so i'm simply going to write out what i have to say and read it to them.
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cognac
Thanks for your reply Lady Lee...
What are your thoughts or anyone here's thoughts on what was going through there minds when there own husbands were actively abusing there child? Did they not feel anything? Did they want to step in and stop it? Did they think there own child deserved it???
You know, just as I typed this question out, I remember my mom uncompassionately stating my brother was bad and that he deserved it. I don't understand this from her because she also has the capability to be extremely loving, compassionate, and understanding person. I just don't get how she can be two such completely different persons...
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I need some assistance!
by lepermessiah ini have been posting on here this week, and all i can say is this has been the best form of therapy!
there are some amazing people on here, many who have been through the same thing, if not much worse.
there are so many of you that i would love to converse with, but understand why this format is for the best at this time.. i am in the early stages of breaking the chains that bind, and i need some suggestions on reasoning on these 2 points.
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cognac
This is how I feel about the preaching work. The idea was to preach the resurrection and Jesus coming to the entire inhabited earth. - That was already done - In the first century. That's how we got Christianity in general. Out of that was formed different sects that we are not supposed to follow. There is a scripture that says that people will come and say "I am the Christ. Do not follow them." The Greek word for Christ is "annointed".
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I need help in facing our abuser...
by cognac inthe thought of it scares me so much i can't even think straight... just writing this makes my heart race like you wouldn't believe.. i need to face my dad and mom.
my dad abused us, my mom allowed the abuse.
i need to face him with my two older brothers - the ones who got it the worst and who never faced them about it.... i know my mind will go blank so i'm simply going to write out what i have to say and read it to them.
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cognac
wow, Lady Lee... You story is so sad... I will never understand why people would deny something both people know happened. Did they really convince themselves these things didn't happen??? Thank-you for your advice. It is really appreciated.