Oompa, I really know how you feel. The reason I can say this is because something simular happened to me a few years ago.
My daughter, at the time a typical teenager, had a wild streak in her. She did some things that I admit were bad, but she was'nt baptised and never has been. Anyway, there was a band coming to our local theater where we live and I had made plans to go with my best friend and a few others from the Hall. Well, when they found out my daughter was going they decided it would be best if they did'nt go along with us. Either I chose to leave my daughter home and go with them or we could attend by ourselves. Well, I told them where they could go and how really fast. And that was the best time my daughter and I ever had together.
They were there and did'nt even speak to us. That hurt me so bad because at the time I was still in the thick of things. And this one person was my best friend and her son was the one my daughter got into trouble with. Talk about hypocrites! Things were never the same between any of us ever again.
When I think about things like that it makes me know for sure that I will NEVER go back. I really feel for you!