i am thinking of writing a letter of disasociation, sometimes when faced with a hard decision i make a list, a lot of times it takes a number of lists befor i get any clearity.
here is my list so far.. 1) do i really need to in order to recover?
its been almost 8 years doesnt time help to heal?.
Jumper,
Wednesday has given you good advice. Handing in a letter of disassociation is a one way street, no turning around from that decision.
Please, take your time and make that decision using your full mental faculties and no emotion. You can fade, and you can also make a personal statement with your fading. Please carefully consider before you write your letter.
Sabrina
i've been df'd for a number of years, and up until recently have been able to maintain a fairly close relationship with my parents.
dad passed away a few years back and since then i have tried to keep my mom busy so she wouldn't be alone - phone calls, shopping, dinner, etc - and i took care of things around her house for her.
well now mom has decided that she needs to follow the wt rules and cut the "socializing" with me - of course, it's "acceptable" for me to still go take care of her when she needs it .
Dawn what a beautiful outlook!
In my life peace is finally taking hold and I wish peace for you and your family also. Our friends and relatives in the Organization do not really have peace. They're working to have life in the new system and that work brings much more anxiety than peace.
By living my life in peace and contentment I feel I am making a lie of what the Society says about those who have become inactive or have left. There is peace outside of the Organization, there is peace, happiness, contentment and above all peace with God also.
Your Mom is only doing what she is told to do not what she really wants to do I am sure. I hope she sees through the wrongness of what the Watchtower is telling her very soon.
Sabrina
coming out of the lurking mode to give you all a report on the 2 day ca that i attended this past weekend.
i always enjoy other reports that have been posted so i thought i would share my observations.
i attend with my jw hubby to keep him company so he doesn't have to go alone, that's the only reason that i go.. i didn't take any notes, so i'm doing this by memory.
This is so very sad. The Society does not see the forest for the trees, they continue on the same path even when the spiritual legs and arms of publishers are being hacked off. The brothers at Bethel are blind. "Blind guides" as Jesus said.
Many are spiritually dying while the Society churns its presses ever faster. They don't seem to care about the brothers only about keeping the literature flowing to preach the kingdom. I wish Jesus would come soon because when he does the brothers will get quite a shock when he says to them, "get away from me you workers of lawlessness." It was the loving care for the brothers that Jesus emphasized not the preaching work. Certainly if a Christian were to be lacking it would be better to be lacking in the preaching dept. rather than love for brother.
Sabrina
My guess would be that quite a bit of money is invested in all the branch facilities and other properties around the world. But personally I really don't know.
Sabrina
i posted here just a little back in january of 2001. i scrambled out of here right quick then since i was still active and fearful of so many things.
i am inactive but not exactly a non jw yet.
i am a conservative person and still believe that some of the teachings of jws are good though i do not agree with everything that's for sure!
Thank you Shotgun, ChimChim, Surreptitious, Cruzanheart and sns for all your loving welcomes. It is more appreciated than you will ever know.
Sometimes I let my mind go back to the many District Conventions in my life and think about sitting nearby to so many brothers and sisters, families and older folks, all sharing a day together. JWD is a little like that I think. Though the talks are slightly different.
Here is a wave from a sister in the last row of the back section to everyone here. Glad to be here with you!
Sabrina
i was interested in two articles in the watchtower of october 15th 2003.
both articles give an insight into decision making as a jehovah?s witness.
i found the juxtaposition of them quite interesting!
"Whatever happened to maturity?"
Unfortunately, the Organization is of the opinion that maturity is fostered by telling people what to do all the time. The Society hinders spiritual and personal growth when it dictates every aspect of spiritual life and personal life. They keep the brothers in safe spiritual walkers and spiritual playpens like toddlers.
As all parents know if you insist that your children remain babies they will either rebel or worse never grow up. The Society has forced the brothers and sisters to remain spiritual babes always looking to mother for direction and never allowed to stand on their own before God. They have made themselves god, father, mother and conscience maker for 6 million people. A heavy responsibility before God, very heavy.
Sabrina
i posted here just a little back in january of 2001. i scrambled out of here right quick then since i was still active and fearful of so many things.
i am inactive but not exactly a non jw yet.
i am a conservative person and still believe that some of the teachings of jws are good though i do not agree with everything that's for sure!
Lovinlife,
Thank you for the welcome.
Sabrina
i posted here just a little back in january of 2001. i scrambled out of here right quick then since i was still active and fearful of so many things.
i am inactive but not exactly a non jw yet.
i am a conservative person and still believe that some of the teachings of jws are good though i do not agree with everything that's for sure!
Ken,
Like you I also tried to see what was out there religious wise. I have searched the internet and at times have come across a site that I thought to myself, "this is it!" only to find out after much time spent reading and researching that they were not for me either.
"Well what to do now?", I have said to myself many times. Now I cling to God and love my family, my friends and peace. Life is so hard sometimes but as long as I have these I am happy.
Thank you for sharing your experience in the Organization.
Sabrina
i posted here just a little back in january of 2001. i scrambled out of here right quick then since i was still active and fearful of so many things.
i am inactive but not exactly a non jw yet.
i am a conservative person and still believe that some of the teachings of jws are good though i do not agree with everything that's for sure!
Mouthy,
I will read all of your posts because you remind of an older sister I once knew. We hugged at every meeting, if I was across the hall she would make it a point to come directly to me and greet me with her customary greeting (one that was for me only) and I would do the same.
She could be mother, sister, friend and just about everything else I guess. I miss her.
Thank you for the loving welcome.
Sabrina
i posted here just a little back in january of 2001. i scrambled out of here right quick then since i was still active and fearful of so many things.
i am inactive but not exactly a non jw yet.
i am a conservative person and still believe that some of the teachings of jws are good though i do not agree with everything that's for sure!
DJ,
Thank you. Yes God does hold us up to the end and people like yourself and others here are ones he uses to help those of us who need a helping hand from time to time. Your encouragement meant a lot to me.
Thank you so much.
Sabrina
